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 Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 1:53 pm
I think that I may be pregnant again. I suffered a miscarriage in september and I think I am going on try number two... Ne advice? I am 17 and have a lot to think about.
<3 ryoko
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Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 3:01 pm
What advice are you looking for? Sounds like you have made the decision to have a child so there is no advice to be given there. If you're worried about another miscarriage, ask your doctor. Sometimes it's a heridtary thing and other times it's just nature or complications. You're not really clear as to what you want advice on.
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Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 10:07 pm
Go see your doctor/gyno asap to see if you're really pregnant, and then go from there. 17 is really young to be having a child, even if you've already had a miscarriage. You need to think about how having a baby (if you are indeed pregnant) will affect your family, your life, your boyfriend's life, etc. What about your schooling, education, job, and personal life? Social life? Finances most importantly? Not many 17 year olds are ready to be parents. I'm not saying you aren't, just that most aren't ready. Go talk to your doctor/gyno, you can get checked out to see if you're pregnant, and then they can help you decide what to do next.
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Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 10:11 pm
You need to head to the doctor right away to make sure you are healthy. If I can ask, why would you want to get pregnant at such a young age? Your child would be much better off with and older parent who has a good job and was able to support them.
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Posted: Mon Nov 14, 2005 5:24 pm
You see, my boyfriend works full-time and he is so excited at the thought of a child. Not only are my grades sensational, which will cover college, I live 10 minutes from the State College and I also have many work connections from past volunteer work so I have my options open. We have talked about it and we are both excited about this happening. Even though we were not prepared to take it at first we realized before we did nething that we were prepared to accept the consequence.
<3 ryoko
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Posted: Mon Nov 14, 2005 11:00 pm
Being physically and financially prepared doesn't necessarily mean you're emotionally prepared, just so you know. And even if you/him are working full-time, what about the other person? What about baby-sitting, or getting someone to watch your child while you're at work/school? What about paying for doctor and other medical bills? Hospital fees? How much are your parents going to be involved, and his parents too, if you are indeed pregnant? Will they be supportive?
And even if you can get into the college with your good grades, how will you pay for tuition and such?
I agree with Chalda. Although I am glad that you and your boyfriend have agreed to deal with the consequences, I think that any child would be better with an older and more independent person as its parent. Most 17 year olds are not ready to be parents, no matter how "ready" and mature they think they are.
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2005 8:15 pm
I'd suggest, if you think you're ready for a child, take a pregnancy/childbirth/parenting class. It's really sobering. I took one last year. You may decide you aren't ready yet.
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2005 10:00 pm
I'm glad that you and your boyfriend are at least being responsible about this. I'm going to warn you though, taking care of a baby and going to college at the same time is difficult. I know a lot of women at my college that are only half-time students and even then it is very difficult for them, so you might want to think long and hard about this decision, especially if some scholarships you get are only for four years. You also need to figure out if you will have to work as well. Your boyfriend may not be able to cover costs for you, him, and a baby, especially with health insurance/rent/babysitters/daycare/school...you get the idea.
Next, go to a good OB/GYN, especially since you've already had one miscarriage. It's not a huge deal, but you want good care while you're pregnant.
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