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PostPosted: Fri Jun 26, 2009 2:06 am


First off I'm a blood bought born again believer, basicly a christian. I love God and believe in him and Jesus. I know I'm going to heaven and that Jesus died for me.

That being said. . .
I have a relationship with God, but I know that it's not a really good one. Well like I know it could be way better than it is now. Sometimes i just don't know what to do. I have a lot of friends who are not christian and I feel like they sometimes drag me down. But I love them to death and have been though a lot with them. But I know that some of the things that they do and that what I end up doing is wrong. As I'm writing this i feel like I'm about to cry thinking back on all the things I have done.
In our terms, I haven't done anything to bad. I'm a 'goodie two-shoes.' But in Gods terms I have done so many bad things.
I know that when I pray and ask for forgivness I get it but sometimes I think I misuse that fact, therefore God's trust.
To me I feel like it is hard to grow any good christian values in the world we live in today. I'm the type of person who see's the wrong people a doing but don't outright tell them. The way I see it is no matter what I say they will probablly end up continuing to do it any way, I don't agree with it but I'm not opposing it.
What should I do about that? Should I keep looking the other direction, I sapose that one way to put it, or confront then if I get blown off end the frienship?
I need help on building my faith. And sadly I don't really have anybody in real life I can confide in about this. Yes there is God, but it's my relationship with him I need help with.
Now i feel like I answered my own question. [/sigh]
Moving on I guess. . .
I also need to start developing good habits, I guess you could call them. Such as studing the Bible and praying. I know, I'm 17 I should already have those habits.
But Truthfullly I didn't really grow up in a christian home. My family only started going to church six years ago. So I've only been a christian for six years. And at first I don't think it was a real relationship with God. Sometimes I don't feel like right now I have on with him. And it saddens me to even think that. There are things I know I need to do and things I actually do.

[/sigh]

So. . .Sorry for the rambling.
Over all I need help with:
Should I keep looking the other direction, i sapose that one way to put it, or confront then if I get blown off end the frienship?
And
How can I make a stronger relationship with God and keep it strong?

And yet again I feel like I already know the answer. It's not a good feeling when you ask a question you end up realising the answer to before you even finish the question.

I would still like help though. . .

Ooo~
I would also like to know if anyone else knows what I'm talking about.
Like they have been though this before.
PostPosted: Sat Jun 27, 2009 4:42 pm


Ok, so I am not a christian, but I was (?) one at a point in my life, so I can understand where you are coming from. I'm going to answer each question in the order that you asked them. here goes...



Should you keep looking in the other direction? No... God said to turn the other cheek when someone insults you... God wants you to keep trying and keep putting his name out there and testifying.

Do you end the friendship? No, Jesus teaches tollerence of others... and besides you dont want to be religious-ist ( ?? O_o ) Like sexist or racist... but with religion. That would only make things worse for you in society. so not a good idea... but yeah, be friends with people other than your religion, it builds character... Oh... but only if they are tollerent of you being a christian... dont be friends with someone who doesent accept you for who you are though. ya know? thats just silly. and stressful...

ok... so how can you make a stronger relationship with god and keep it strong? Pray, talk to God every day. Reading the bible... yeah thats find, but you should think of the bible more as guidelines... talking to him is what he likes. You are having a relationship... and with any good relationship communication is the key.



so yeah... keep your chin up and keep being a vessel for christ. Thats what he wants, but he also wants to see you happy, you are his child after all. Just like with any father, do things that are pleasing to you, but within his guidelines.

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 30, 2009 3:02 am


I think I am guilty of draggin' you down... :[
After reading this, I realized how disrespectful I have been.

You know that I don't really know what I believe, and I say things that I now know were probably offensive to you.

I want you to know that if I ever say anything that bothers you, you can tell me. I would never ever stop being your friend.

I know for a fact that if there is a God, I am not close to him... Sometimes, I feel so lost. You have a relationship with God. Cherish it. Don't ever let anyone, even your friends, drag you down.

The most important thing, though, is communication. You need to express yourself or noone is going to know there is a problem.

Like Tama said, if your friends can't accept your religion, they aren't really your friends. On the other hand, you have to also be tolerant of other peoples beliefs. Everyone has the right to there opinion and it's ok to disagree. But do it with respect. That make sense?! Express your opinion, but acknowledge the other persons opinion. :] (I'm not saying you don't. razz )

As for reading the bible and praying, if it helps, make a chart or set reminders in your phone! That will help you remember! ^^

I want to apologize if I was ever one of those friends dragging you down. That honestly was never my intention.

Love,
Mel
PostPosted: Wed Jul 01, 2009 2:35 pm


oh my, that kinda made me a little teary eyed... crying

that was really sweet and thoughtfully said. biggrin

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PostPosted: Sat Jul 04, 2009 12:50 am


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