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I'm an Aspie, and ever since I was little, I didn't know where to put my hands. The proof is in the pictures. Most kids don't think about it, but I tried really hard to get it right, so I would fold them in my lap, which I don't think most kids do.
Now,when I'm sitting down, I still fold them in my lap, but they never stay in the same position for very long. It's even harder now that I am trying to stop biting my fingernails AGAIN which is really hard since I've bit them down to the quick since I was three.
When I stand up, I try to either put my hands in my pockets or put them behind my back and clasp them. But they always end up being somewhere else, like twitching at my sides (I do a sort of hyper twitch with my fingers when I go off into my daydreaming world) or they just look like confused hands that don't know where to go. I don't see how people can just walk around with their hands at their sides, not thinking about it! LOL

Yeah, I hate not having pockets either. I don't like to hold them to my side, because I twitch my fingers when I think about something too much, and I get deep in thought a lot. My fingers get tired. I think there is a medical term for the finger twitching, called stinting... or somthing...

Don't feel too self conscious, everyone fidgets with their hands sometimes. It's an example of "stimming" and people do it when they're bored, nervous, etc. Human brains like patterns, they're predictable and soothing. So, when you do a repetitive behavior, it's relaxing. I tap my fingers and wiggle my feet if I'm sitting, for example. Keep your hands wherever you feel comfortable putting them, I doubt anyone will notice. And if you feel like you are fidgeting too much, find something for your hands to do. You could draw or hold something maybe.

Hope this helps! Try not to worry too much! smile

I'll agree with all the above 'nuttiness' when it comes to pocket-less pants. Drives me crazy, too.

Though, as far as the twitching goes, I rarely think of my hands because my focus is on my darn feet, knees and thighs for bouncing all the darn time. Which happens to be bothersome to everyone around me in most cases. The vehicle literally shakes and bounces with me and I've scared a few people before because they didn't realize why the idling car was moving. gonk or at any sit-down event my mother has reached over and tried to hold my legs still, which was annoying and embarrassing. Especially, since if she held one down then the other one would start. Gah!

Oh, but back on the topic of hands. Now that I think of it, I always seem to be holding onto something. I've purposely carried paperclips in my pockets so I've had something to fiddle with out of sight.

I usually put my hands on my stomach or inappropriate places