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 Posted: Sat Jun 20, 2009 8:29 pm
okay so lots of advice:
1. In my opinion it is good to ward off girls who are judgmental. Look at them judging you as a good thing so you don't end up dressing the way they want and wasting your time with them until you figure out that they have judgmental issues.
2. We each have our unique aesthetic tastes but it is important that you feel comfortable. I know plenty of girls dress up now and then in ways they normally wouldn't feel comfy for a special occasion now and then. So if you end up dating someone who is non judgmental but you want to dress up to her tastes occasionally maybe you can do some sort of compromise where you seem less professional but still in your style. Perhaps straight legged jeans or slacks with a collared button down shirt.
3. There are lots of much more important things then how you dress that help you connect with a girl. It's complicated because we are each so different and it takes time to get to know people and see how you mesh together. In December I'll be with my bf for 10 years and appearance was always an extra perk not a main cause for our bond. You may end up being surprised that the person you end up with happens to love or grows to love your clothing style. My sister is a little eccentric (which isn't a bad thing of course) but did effect her dating or rather lack of dating for a long time. Now she is with a super nice guy and they each shock me with how much they love each others "bizarre" styles...
...bottom line is that some feel first impressions means you need to change how you present yourself to try and attract more people. (unless it is for a job I disagree.) I know it gets lonely and compromising may not be that big a deal after a while but I think your best off connecting with someone who looks past your clothes and figuring out those details as an after thought is best. It's just my opinion, I could be wrong, good luck and remember that good people are rare but they are out there and at some point you will get one like you deserve.
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Posted: Sun Jun 21, 2009 10:26 am
patience1984 okay so lots of advice: 1. In my opinion it is good to ward off girls who are judgmental. Look at them judging you as a good thing so you don't end up dressing the way they want and wasting your time with them until you figure out that they have judgmental issues. 2. We each have our unique aesthetic tastes but it is important that you feel comfortable. I know plenty of girls dress up now and then in ways they normally wouldn't feel comfy for a special occasion now and then. So if you end up dating someone who is non judgmental but you want to dress up to her tastes occasionally maybe you can do some sort of compromise where you seem less professional but still in your style. Perhaps straight legged jeans or slacks with a collared button down shirt. 3. There are lots of much more important things then how you dress that help you connect with a girl. It's complicated because we are each so different and it takes time to get to know people and see how you mesh together. In December I'll be with my bf for 10 years and appearance was always an extra perk not a main cause for our bond. You may end up being surprised that the person you end up with happens to love or grows to love your clothing style. My sister is a little eccentric (which isn't a bad thing of course) but did effect her dating or rather lack of dating for a long time. Now she is with a super nice guy and they each shock me with how much they love each others "bizarre" styles... ...bottom line is that some feel first impressions means you need to change how you present yourself to try and attract more people. (unless it is for a job I disagree.) I know it gets lonely and compromising may not be that big a deal after a while but I think your best off connecting with someone who looks past your clothes and figuring out those details as an after thought is best. It's just my opinion, I could be wrong, good luck and remember that good people are rare but they are out there and at some point you will get one like you deserve. Wow, thanks! I'll keep this all in mind. 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Jun 21, 2009 6:28 pm
that is really good advice,
girls can be really mean and very judgemental if you are as honest as you are online and this is who you really are, i think you wont have any trouble finding a nice girl no matter what you wear because its who you are that counts smile good luck
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