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I don't know if anyone will remember but I have a thread on page 3 about my eating and weight problem. I also mentioned the guy who I really like. The naturally skinny guy. I'm still have major problems with emotional eating and deppression but I've been two my doctor twice and I'm due back and he's been really good to me. Also my mum is helping me out. So my real problem is with the guy I like.

Since I last posted I've gained some more weight. I used to be able to hide it under clothes but now I'm a little to full to do that. Also I've got slightly closer to this guy I like. But the closer I get the more self concious I get. I've started trying to not be around him as much, until I lose weight, but I'm scared he'll think I don't like him anymore and move on. But I'm so embarrassed about my weight. I feel so disgusting and I cry so much. I try to avoid going out when I can, I even avoid school on bad days. We have known each other for about 4 years now. When I first found out he liked me I weighed 112lbs and I did look great. But now I'm scared he'll go off me cause of it. I want to have a relationship with him. He's the first guy I've considered having one with, long story. When I was out to dinner with my friends one night they all said they would go out with someone if they like each other, they don't understand why I won't.

U just don't know what to do, or what to do about my feelings. It sometimes makes me worse - emotionly and eating wise.

yeah. Hi again. I do get a little self concious around my guy. He sits behind me and it makes me nervous. I sorta have a weight problem.....well I think so. I am at 143 and in middle school still. *sigh* I am so fed up with eating...and we had this big funeral banquet earlier.....ugh

I try to avoid the kitchen. Tell him you love him. At least you two are still friends.......*sniff* I wish my guy wouldn't be as shy as I am then we could both have what we want.....eachother. crying

You know what I've found out about body weight--it's so relative. Like, I'm around 125 right now, and I'm perfectly fine with that. I'm just slightly (maybe one or two pounds) overweight but I really don't care. And guess what people see? They see the fact that I don't care about my body weight.

Now, I have a friend who's about 120 and who is a lot taller than me. She looks super skinny to me and I don't think that she's fat at all. If anything, I think she's too skinny. But lately she's been paranoid about her weight. If I was somebody else and she kept asking me if she looked fat, I'd probably start to notice if she was gaining some weight.

The fact is, people see what you want them to see. If you want them to think you're skinny, than avoid worrying about your weight. When my friends asked me how much I weighed, I said I didn't know, so they guessed 120 or less.. even though I /know/ I weigh more than that. It's just, what they see you to be. It has nothing to do with your real body weight. It's all mind over matter, that's how some people look super pretty in person, but when you look at a picture of them, they just look average. Mind over matter. You should try it sometime.