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 Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 12:16 pm
i try my hardest not to judge people at all because I do not feel that I have the right to do so and I think that judging a person only serves to separate us from each other.
I guess I don't really feel like it's right to make assumptions about a person that I probably don't understand as well as I might think I do.
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Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 1:07 pm
amber kaleidoscope i try my hardest not to judge people at all because I do not feel that I have the right to do so and I think that judging a person only serves to separate us from each other. I guess I don't really feel like it's right to make assumptions about a person that I probably don't understand as well as I might think I do. I appologize for this in advance, but I must ask a few questions. What do you think of when I use the term "prostitute?" "Rap?" "Flirty?" "Funny?" "Opera?" "Rude?" "Christian?" "Pretty?" "Ignorant?" "Atheist?" "Confuzed?" "Druggie?" "Scientist?" "Dangerous?" I believe that human nature enlists us to make assumptions. It's part of life. I also apologize for the long list. I didn't want to leave anyone out. ^^' Take, for instance, back when humanity was small in number. Making judgements was absolutely necesary for survival. You had to depict what animals were dangerous and what food was safe to eat. The moment we hear an adjective or hear something about someone, our brain functions together everything that is connected to the word. It is my argument that saying that you do not judge anyone is like saying that you don't poop XDD! What is important is not the fact that your brain judges based on information, which is inly natural and necesary for it to do. What is important is how you judge and how you take the responses your brain gives you.
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Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 4:42 pm
Only Christ I Follow amber kaleidoscope i try my hardest not to judge people at all because I do not feel that I have the right to do so and I think that judging a person only serves to separate us from each other. I guess I don't really feel like it's right to make assumptions about a person that I probably don't understand as well as I might think I do. I appologize for this in advance, but I must ask a few questions. What do you think of when I use the term "prostitute?" "Rap?" "Flirty?" "Funny?" "Opera?" "Rude?" ""Christian?" "Pretty?" "Ignorant?" "Atheist?" "Confuzed?" "Druggie?" "Scientist?" "Dangerous?" I believe that human nature enlists us to make assumptions. It's part of life. I also apologize for the long list. I didn't want to leave anyone out. ^^' Take, for instance, back when humanity was small in number. Making judgements was absolutely necesary for survival. You had to depict what animals were dangerous and what food was safe to eat. The moment we hear an adjective or hear something about someone, our brain functions together everything that is connected to the word. It is my argument that saying that you do not judge anyone is like saying that you don't poop XDD! What is important is not the fact that your brain judges based on information, which is inly natural and necesary for it to do. What is important is how you judge and how you take the responses your brain gives you. no i know i make judgments, and I know that it is a perfectly natural thing for humans to do, but I do not believe that it is necessary or particularly helpful in a modern context. I am imperfect, i know this, but I try my hardest to take in the world and the people and things in it for what they are, and not base my thoughts on assumptions or comparisons that are, more often than not, meaningless. All too often, I feel like the excuse of "human behavior" is used to justify what most people recognize to be a troublesome practice. Part of being human though is having the self awareness to take responsibility for your flaws and make an active effort to correct them as best you can. So I will not deny that I am as susceptible to being judgmental as any other person, but I do not that that I should be ok with that. I think i have a responsibility to myself and the rest of the world to experience things as they are and not fall into the trap of speculation and start judging people based on my insecurities, or socitial norms, or my personal ideas of what is right or wrong. I may not be perfect by I am making an active effort every day to be a little better, and I feel like doing so has greatly improved my life. I am sorry for rambling on. this is kind of a subject i am passionate about. I think that the common acceptance of this kind of judging of others is a big cause for so many feelings of insecurity and fear in the modern world. "Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again." Matthew 7:1-2
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Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 7:30 pm
Hehe . . . No, you are fine, I ramble on quite a bit myself.
It's good to be pationate about something, yupyup! Especially this issue.
Very well put! Like I said, what is important is how we judge, and not the fact that we do it.
For instance, a prostitute can be seen as one of the people Jesus hung out with. Most prostitutes become involved in that kind of life because of wretched parents and family background. Therefore, a prostitute shouldn't be seen as someone to avoid, but someone who especially needs grace and support.
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Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 9:45 pm
Only Christ I Follow Hehe . . . No, you are fine, I ramble on quite a bit myself. It's good to be pationate about something, yupyup! Especially this issue. Very well put! Like I said, what is important is how we judge, and not the fact that we do it. For instance, a prostitute can be seen as one of the people Jesus hung out with. Most prostitutes become involved in that kind of life because of wretched parents and family background. Therefore, a prostitute shouldn't be seen as someone to avoid, but someone who especially needs grace and support. i think everyone needs grace and support. maybe "judging" isn't the best word for that i don't know. I prefer the word compassion. I like your outlook on things. you seem to have a great deal of compassion. it is comforting.
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Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 6:55 am
Thank you muchly! It's great to hear anyone say that they think I'm nice. ^-^
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Posted: Sat Nov 14, 2009 3:11 pm
You are very nice; I don't know why anyone would not say think that about you.
And I am glad you agree with me about how we will judge based on what we have become accustomed to seeing from a certain group of people. If all the black people one has experienced have sagging pants, listen to rap, and curse a lot, then one will assume all black people do the above and will have a slight bias or prejudice or whatever the right word is against blacks because of previous encounters with like kind.
(and btw, I have had the opposite experience with atheists. The christians are the ones who tend to be closed minded at my school)
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Posted: Fri Nov 27, 2009 8:26 am
Yupyup, I see! I have a feeling a lot of people have the opposite experience.
Methinks that our religion causes people of the opposite religion to oppose us.
For example: Being Atheist, it's natural to assume that some "Christians" are simply rude towards Atheists, and vice versa. Therefore, it is natural for an Atheist to meet other Atheists and a Christian to meet other Christians. The catch is weather or not those people of the same religion are actually "good" Aitheists/Christians/Budhists/etc or not.
I put "Christians" in parenthases, because, if one calls themself a Christian and are judgemental and closed-minded, they are not truly a Christian, because Jesus called them to be the opposite of that. They should be more welcoming to Atheists than Christians. "For I have come to save the sick, not the healthy." Therefore, they are hardly the Christians Jesus had in mind, and, consequently, must be "Christians."
The same goes for Atheists. They persue knowledge, and closed-mindedness is a lack of knowledge and a suprlus of ignorance (by choise, mind you). If one calls themself an Atheist and chooses to be ignorant, they are not doing what the religion calls. Therefore, they are "Atheists."
Yes, I consider Atheism a religion. Just like I consider the "nondenominational" denomination a denomination. It is merely my oppinion based on an educated guess. If you don't like the thought of Atheism as a religion because it is suppose to be a lack of religion, that is fine. =D
I will continue to go through the other debates, but I am nearly late, so I must be going! ^^'
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Posted: Wed Dec 30, 2009 11:21 am
well... a lot of people say that they try not to judge people because people shouldn't be judged, blah blah blah... and they shouldn't. we really shouldn't judge people, yeah. but, to be honest, i don't try not to judge people. i know it's wrong, but it's extremely difficult not to judge.
i judge people not to be narrow-minded or anything, but for my own safety. for instance, it's not uncommon to see on the news older men who rape and kill younger girls. sure, not every guy that seems suspicious is, in fact, a rapist/homicidal maniac, but it's not wrong to be a little on edge. like, for instance, not all african americans are bad people and do drugs or anything, but if you observe the numbers, most of the people in jail are african americans. it's not my fault for using those statistics to my advantage and growing wary of them when they appear suspicious.
i'm not racist. i swear i'm not. i'm just paranoid of everyone. i'll admit it: i'm very paranoid. even in the safety of my own house, i get very antsy at night or when i'm alone because i think some guy is going to break into my house.
i judge people based on how they respond to me- if they kind of follow me, even by coincidence; if they stare at me; etc.
i judge people on their appearance- if they're sloppy; if they're smelly; etc.
i judge people how they talk- like if they slur their words speak as if there are marbles in their mouth and have never attended school, etc.
sometimes, i judge on weight, but only if someone is very very very overweight.
sometimes, i judge on gender. guys creep me out more than girls do when i'm on a paranoid mental rampage.
but please don't judge me based on reading this.
i'm just trying to be honest, and besides, like i said, i'm paranoid.
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Posted: Mon Jan 11, 2010 10:40 am
Idiosyncratic Solar well... a lot of people say that they try not to judge people because people shouldn't be judged, blah blah blah... and they shouldn't. we really shouldn't judge people, yeah. but, to be honest, i don't try not to judge people. i know it's wrong, but it's extremely difficult not to judge.
i judge people not to be narrow-minded or anything, but for my own safety. for instance, it's not uncommon to see on the news older men who rape and kill younger girls. sure, not every guy that seems suspicious is, in fact, a rapist/homicidal maniac, but it's not wrong to be a little on edge. like, for instance, not all african americans are bad people and do drugs or anything, but if you observe the numbers, most of the people in jail are african americans. it's not my fault for using those statistics to my advantage and growing wary of them when they appear suspicious.
i'm not racist. i swear i'm not. i'm just paranoid of everyone. i'll admit it: i'm very paranoid. even in the safety of my own house, i get very antsy at night or when i'm alone because i think some guy is going to break into my house.
i judge people based on how they respond to me- if they kind of follow me, even by coincidence; if they stare at me; etc.
i judge people on their appearance- if they're sloppy; if they're smelly; etc.
i judge people how they talk- like if they slur their words speak as if there are marbles in their mouth and have never attended school, etc.
sometimes, i judge on weight, but only if someone is very very very overweight.
sometimes, i judge on gender. guys creep me out more than girls do when i'm on a paranoid mental rampage.
but please don't judge me based on reading this.
i'm just trying to be honest, and besides, like i said, i'm paranoid. Very reasonably explained. =D Judgements are necesary for survival, but some people take it too for to create steriotypes that have nothing to do with safety.
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Posted: Wed Jan 13, 2010 12:18 pm
Only Christ I Follow Very reasonably explained. =D Judgements are necesary for survival, but some people take it too for to create steriotypes that have nothing to do with safety.
i was worried i sounded dumb or something as i clicked to
read what you said... luckily, it seems to have your approval. [:
i don't abide by any stereotype.
i FAIL out of stereotypes. i'm just too all over the place.
well, not really all over the place, but, i just act/dress
as i desire to. the only change i undergo is the change
that i want to better myself, to make myself more tolerable
to me. so that i can have self-satisfaction and confidence.
which, i currently lack.
but, i don't really look at someone and think EMO or JOCK.
i just kind of take them all in, and observe.
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Posted: Fri Jan 15, 2010 6:31 am
Idiosyncratic Solar Only Christ I Follow Very reasonably explained. =D Judgements are necesary for survival, but some people take it too for to create steriotypes that have nothing to do with safety.
i was worried i sounded dumb or something as i clicked to
read what you said... luckily, it seems to have your approval. [:
i don't abide by any stereotype.
i FAIL out of stereotypes. i'm just too all over the place.
well, not really all over the place, but, i just act/dress
as i desire to. the only change i undergo is the change
that i want to better myself, to make myself more tolerable
to me. so that i can have self-satisfaction and confidence.
which, i currently lack.
but, i don't really look at someone and think EMO or JOCK.
i just kind of take them all in, and observe.LOLOL I'm glad you like my responses! They're not worth more than anyone else's two cents, but I put them up there anyways. At least they're doing some good, yupyup! That's a really good point-of-view to have because everyone is so focused on being "cool" and "just like everyone else" or "the 'normal' crowd." A lot of teenagers take a long time to figure out that anyone can be "that other guy" or "some cool person" and succeed at being those things, but for all of their efforts, they would all fail at being you. Like, nobody is as good at being Idiosyncratic Solar as Idiosyncratic Solar is. Nobody can be Caiptains Bootie just like Captains Bootie. That's what's so coolies about being yourself, despite the fact that it probably sounds uber cliche and cheesy XDD!
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Posted: Tue Jan 19, 2010 6:54 pm
yeah. when i was younger, my friend was trying to change this one
chick to be less of a "poser". only, recently, i realized that you really
can't change a person without their consent.
i mean, you can change a person by hurting them,
but the only reason they change was because they cared about the
hurt they underwent and allowed the hurt passage into their personality.
you can't change a person unless in their "heart of hearts",
they're changing to be the person they ultimately want to be to themselves.
like, if they only ever knew that only they existed and they lived
in a realm of only them and nothing but whiteness and emptiness...
if they lived in that sort of realm, would they desire a change to be underwent?
are they changing so that they can feel proud and tolerant toward who
they are, or are they changing to fit a premediated vision or stereotype?
... wow. that was a lot typed in a short amount of time.
but yeah. i don't want to be "cool". i want to be likable, yes.
but i also want to be "me", which is a likable person if i do say so myself.
i mean, i'm not violent or cruel or anything.
i like to be kind to everyone and i don't hate anyone.
i respect others, as long as they earn it/respect me.
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Posted: Wed Jan 20, 2010 6:29 am
Yupyup!
Put very lovely!
There are entire philosophies on the individual (thoughts and ethics).
You are your own universe.
Your ethics are based off of that universe.
Etcetera . . . there is really too much to say, so I can't even begin to understand it.
It is a fascinating study!
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Posted: Fri Jan 22, 2010 5:07 pm
I love how this digresses biggrin
So the universe is made of individuals, which make up the concept of society. We are society as society would not exist without our minds to create the concept or our bodies to realize the ideal.
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