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whateverbloatswiththeboat
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 Posted: Mon May 25, 2009 1:44 am
When I was young I had no close friends except my older sister, who was allowed to go outside and play with the others. We were raised by our grandparents. Ever since those days I have always been trying to have a long-lasting friendship with some people. Or even a normal friendship, but it seems like I always fail.
My classmates don't like me. They're way different than me. I am an anime and manga fan and I usually don't care about beauty products, drinks and clubs like they do. I have a hard time staying in that classroom and when I come home after school I start crying and wondering what's wrong with me and why don't people like me. That thought usually makes me depressed and lonely.
I admit I am interested in a few people, a group of girls actually. As in their personality and all. And I would like to meet them and hang out with them, since we have some common tastes, but I'm really shy and I wonder how will they react if they heard I am an "Otaku". I dress ok, as a normal teenage girl. So I shouldn't worry about that.
I heard about them when one of them, a girl who was my classmate in Elementary School, added me on a social network website something something. I was actually the one who had a few short conversations with her back then compared to my classmates. I got invited to her house once, then at her birthday party. I admit that she was quite bossy, but she was nice and I was somebody who understood her. We had a few chats after she left and went to a different school.
I wish I could be friends with her again. And friends with her friends. They seem nice.
A former friend of mine who's in my new class in high school said that she's hanging out in some sorth of pub. I always wanted to go there with a few girls I met at an Anime-Manga meeting, but we never had the chance.
What should I do? Should I give it a try and be friends with them, find someone else, or just give up...?
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Posted: Mon May 25, 2009 2:03 am
You would be surprised at how many "Otaku" are at any given school in any given city, in any given state in America. (Japanese don't have 's at the end of plurals, it's just given by how they word the particles and counters around the word)
That said...I've got a lot of experience with being unpopular. I was told by my first grade teacher that the other children would like me more if I "smiled more". I'm sure it would have been easier to smile if they had liked me more. lol. Nonetheless. I've noticed that you can't be shy and timid when meeting new friends. Most people are already shy and timid, and unless you initiate contact, no one will.
I know it can be hard, being shy myself...but, overall, smiling at someone, or holding a door open for them if you're the first to go through, helps. Simple acts of kindness show people that you'd make a good friend. They might not think it, but subconsciously they realize it. Being cheerful in the face of sadness can: 1. help you cope. 2. make you seem more likable.
Overall, though, I see no reason whatsoever that you are a bad person, or a unlikable person. Anyone who can't accept you are obviously bi*ches. XDDD
I appologize for the rambling. It is 4 am here. lol
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Posted: Mon May 25, 2009 2:14 am
I agree. just being nice to people goes a really long way. and besides I always think of it this way... if someone is not nice to you... why would you ever want to be friends with them. Its not worth the drama. I know that having someone there in your life that is tangable is appealing but it is not always a necessity.
I would not worry about "groups" or a bunch of people... instead find the one person you can connect to and make friends with them. When you have one friend... nothing else really matters.
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Posted: Wed May 27, 2009 1:34 am
I want to find good friends, that is for sure 3=
A girl told me that they hang out in the Skate Park and 2 pubs. I'm familiar with one of the pubs and it's ok and also the Skate Park.
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whateverbloatswiththeboat
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Posted: Tue Jun 01, 2010 9:45 pm
Agree with simple acts of kindness too. I'm kind of a shy person, but I learned that you need to get out of that zone when trying to make friends. It may be hard, but thats how its done. If you need to start up a conversation, find what you have in common or maybe just ask about the weather, idk. Just find something that will start a conversation.
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