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 Posted: Mon Nov 07, 2005 12:25 pm
I love how my parents are upset about me until they find out it has something to do with my sexual orientation or girlfriend. Then they just blow it off and tell me to stop being a drama queen. I've stopped telling them what upsets me, especially political things because then I get told to not get so worked up over gay rights and tell me to focus on abortion rights because they are more important. I mean... bullshit. I just can't stand it. I know of people who have families who actually support their orientation. My neighbor's parents buy her gay magazines and pick up gay books for her. I also know of people who have been thrown out (not in my area but I do know it happens). I mean... I'm lucky they didn't send me to an ex-gay place but... it still hurts... I don't like being told "it's just a phase" or "you'll fall out of love with her" or some other bullshit like that... but... I mean... is a little acceptance that much to ask for?
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Posted: Mon Nov 07, 2005 1:01 pm
No, I dont believe so. I think that, as your parents, they should support you in whatever you decide is best for you, or support you in getting the things you want. But they will be set in their ways.
Like my mom. I dont think she knows about my girlfriend.. and I keep telling her that I want to go see my "friend". Everytime I bring it up, she doesn't give me enough time to tell her everything before she goes off to do something or start a different conversation.. along with other things..
Im sorry you're having a rough time. Just try to get thru it untill you can move away.. (hugs)
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Posted: Tue Nov 08, 2005 10:36 am
My dad is in manyways like that. Not so much in terms of my stance on Gay rights, but towards my religious and personal political views. He doesn't want to accept the fact that my views are different from his, he even blocked Gaia on my home Internet Explorer because he thinks I'm being brainwashed (fortunately firefox has solved this problem). The only thing I want from him is just to accept that I'm different and not try to force his views down my throat, I don't force mine down his now do I?
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 5:47 am
*big huggles* Awww sweety! That's so sad! I know the pain that you're feeling. I'm out to my parents and my Dad just doesn't mention it at all. Well... that was also a bit of a disaster too. But Mom was accepting of it at first until she got this crazy notion in her mind that I wasn't old enough to truly know, and now we're back to stage one of "It could just be a phase." sweatdrop It really is difficult, and to talk about these matters with parents just doesn't work. You can't talk about your girlfriend, which actresses are the total hotties ((like Angelina Jo Lee 3nodding )), and all that good stuff that we love. My advice to you, if you feel the need to talk to someone, find a guidance councelor who is non-biased ((and preferably female)), and talk with them. Tell that that you don't want your Mom called because you've tried talking with her and she doesn't understand, and let it off your chest. If there isn't a guidance councelor, try a trusted teacher. And if all else fails, a journal and crying always helps. And I'm here as well now if you need to talk because I do know what it's like. Good luck! *more huggles*
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The Committee Staff Gaian
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 10:51 am
Thanks for the advice Saki *huggles back* But why would you recommend a female counseler? Do you think that a female one would be more sensitive?
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 2:47 pm
They are, and I speak from expirience. I have been to both a male councelor and a female councelor and the girl was much more sensative. But I suppose it's also whoever you're more comfortable with.
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The Committee Staff Gaian
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Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 12:15 pm
I talk to this guidance counselor at my school who isn't technically my counselor but she is part of the GSA and she is always helpful. But it still sucks.
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Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 2:58 pm
Saknika They are, and I speak from expirience. I have been to both a male councelor and a female councelor and the girl was much more sensative. But I suppose it's also whoever you're more comfortable with. Ah i see thanks for the advice Saki
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The Committee Staff Gaian
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Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 3:25 pm
BakaTulip I talk to this guidance counselor at my school who isn't technically my counselor but she is part of the GSA and she is always helpful. But it still sucks. Well, it is better than nothing. It'd be worse if you were forced to keep it all bottled up. And you know that we all love you!!! *glomp*
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Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 3:26 pm
Tenaku Saknika They are, and I speak from expirience. I have been to both a male councelor and a female councelor and the girl was much more sensative. But I suppose it's also whoever you're more comfortable with. Ah i see thanks for the advice Saki You're welcome Tenaku, I'm glad to help. ^.^
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The Committee Staff Gaian
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Posted: Thu Nov 17, 2005 11:19 am
That's good to hear *glomps*
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