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 Posted: Thu Nov 03, 2005 12:57 pm
well... i have a friend who was self-harming but she stopped like a week ago... but she has become suicidal... she has very bad family problems and she often thinks of suiciding... i don't know what to do... she's seing the school's psy but she hasn't told her anything about it... i'm worried and i don't wanna lose her... she's my best friend for life... she promised it! any tips? by the way, telling her parents is a VERY bad idea, 'cause they'll just be more rough on her...
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Posted: Thu Nov 03, 2005 12:59 pm
sorry for the bad grammar... i just don't have it..
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Posted: Thu Nov 03, 2005 3:40 pm
Tell a teacher, principal, school counsellor, or another trusted adult who can talk to her and/or get her help. She needs to get help whether she likes it or not - and avoiding it isn't going to help her any. No one can help her until she decides to help herself.
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Posted: Fri Nov 04, 2005 1:28 pm
she's seing the councelor but she just gets more suicidary with the time... crying
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Posted: Fri Nov 04, 2005 8:44 pm
Well, I would suggest her finding someone that she can really talk to about almost everything. I have had the same experience, and well I have gotten a therapist because its gotten so bad, but I do suggest finding someone close. Like I have teachers, my therapist, my priest at church and my Grandma I can go to, but thats because they have known me for a long time, except my Therapist. But thats really all I can suggest. It is hard for friends to go up to someone and tell them about what their friend is doing...I have that happening, like my friend was really worried about me, btu she didn't do anything but suggest I find help, as did my ex-boyfriend. But help her as best you can, show her that there is other ways to deal with whats happening. Issues within family, school, friends and all sorts of issues can be eating her out from the inside out. And let her know she isn't the only one that has this problem. Just try and help her through as best you can, maybe even help her figure out if she needs someone to help her more than a school counsler or psychologist. And I know how it is to not be able to tell parents. I have problems telling my parents anything, but thats a whole different story. All I can say is try and help her through and see if she has anyone she can talk to.
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Posted: Sat Nov 05, 2005 1:04 pm
she's in a very bad case of depression and she had a D in french and she cryied and when she got home she wanted to suicide... but someone phoned her and she didn't... she's ashamed of what she's doing and she doesn't want to tell no one.... I'm afraid she could get a little upset if i tell someone... she trusts no one except me and a few other of her closest friends..
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Posted: Sat Nov 05, 2005 6:48 pm
Tell her she NEEDS to get help, especially if she's getting suicidal over little things like a bad grade on an assignment, etc.
She needs to get help. No one can help her until she makes an effort to help herself.
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Posted: Sat Nov 05, 2005 9:39 pm
I agree with Nikolita. I was in her position. I got a C in my classes (I know, not bad, but my parents are odd) and I cried, felt like killing myself, and instead I cut myself, but it was just once. I finally saw what I was doing and I got help, but this might not be the case with her, I strongly suggest her getting help. She may thank you in the long run, but she may not now. If shes doing what shes doing she should get help. Its the best thing for her.
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Posted: Mon Nov 07, 2005 11:00 am
Nikolita Tell her she NEEDS to get help, especially if she's getting suicidal over little things like a bad grade on an assignment, etc. She needs to get help. No one can help her until she makes an effort to help herself.Agree. I think that besides, you, as her friend should help her listening to her and making her notice how many ppl loves her, tell her the good stuff about her, and if you can, help her in that subject.. you can help her by encouraging her to go on and to get some help from other people she might rely on... she WILL thank you in the end.. in the meantime, keep an eye on her an take care on her, try to stay close.. 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Nov 07, 2005 1:50 pm
thanks everyone ^^ It helps a lot whee
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Posted: Thu Nov 10, 2005 11:37 pm
[heartbroken] I'm afraid she could get a little upset if i tell someone... she trusts no one except me and a few other of her closest friends.. You should go ahead and tell. It's better to lose a friendship than an actual friend.
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 8:05 pm
morwen.schatten Nikolita Tell her she NEEDS to get help, especially if she's getting suicidal over little things like a bad grade on an assignment, etc. She needs to get help. No one can help her until she makes an effort to help herself.Agree. I think that besides, you, as her friend should help her listening to her and making her notice how many ppl loves her, tell her the good stuff about her, and if you can, help her in that subject.. you can help her by encouraging her to go on and to get some help from other people she might rely on... she WILL thank you in the end.. in the meantime, keep an eye on her an take care on her, try to stay close.. 3nodding yep, that stuff 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Nov 15, 2005 1:51 pm
Talk to her, tell her people care about her. Show her you care.
Dont tell anybody who dont need to know.
I wish you the best of luck with your friend.
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Posted: Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:37 pm
Well she can write those type of things in a little journal so that her sadness and anger is gone abit. Talk to her and show her that you really care about her, show her that there are people who care very much about her life. I was also reading a book, it said if you have any type of help you can call an operator or someone like that.
I wish you best of Luck!
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