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On my first date with my ex, he got pulled over for running a yellow light. xD The cop just warned him and let us be, but it was kind of funny how embarrassed he was.

I wish I could help you figure out a good way to get out of a bad date. The sad thing is, I haven't really been on many dates, so I'm lacking experience in that area.

I have had just one bad date, but I was so young that I dealt with the matter very poorly. Thinking a way to escape terrible is surprisingly hard...

I think it's more matter of planning ahead. Set short enough time for first meeting; people here tend to prefer breakfast-dates at city. Easy depart to work even bit early. Or to ask someone call before and when that happens, you can have reason for leaving because someone needs you. Not very smooth and definitely not polite, but emergency moves rarely are. At least such escapes give time to think it over bit later and then do the decisions.

Speaking of internet dating . . . (please don't forget that only my avi, here, is a boy. I'm really a girl)

One time, I "met" this guy who lives in another city. We agreed to talk on the phone because he preferred that to continuing to type. I had a few reservations about the likelihood of a "match", but I did my best to quiet them given that I will turn 40 this summer and my heretofore perceptions have not served me the fulfillment of my wishes. (So far, normal spinster reasoning, right?)

Ok; so I called him (as agreed) at the appointed time. And he was too busy & too tired to keep up an interesting conversation. Strangely, it took him over an hour to instruct me that such was the case. (Why would I need to be instructed by him?!?) Could he call me back after his shower while he got ready for work? (Uhm, learning that he works nights is pretty much a no-go in my mind because my work is tied to the "working-day". But fortunately I had a less awkward excuse against continuing the phone call that night . . . ) "Sorry!" I replied. "My nephew is just coming out of youth group right now & we don't have cellular reception down the dirt road to his Dad's house. It will have to be another day."

"I'll call you right back then, thanks!" says he. (Ok ~ loses points for listening ability)

He did call back while I was on the dirt road while my nephew was still in the car. I didn't return that call immediately; I'm sure you can feel why. And then I left town for Easter. While I was away, he called several times. The messages he left on voicemail are paraphrased as “Gosh! You are hard to get a hold of!”

That’s funny because I told him when I would be away for Easter Break. (Again w/ the excellent listening skills) It is also an odd conclusion because although he would call three times like every other day. Those three calls always occurred within the same half hour. So just because I was not available during a particular half-hour window somewhere between 7pm & 10pm, every other day, my schedule must be very full. (*nodding* well, when I’m on vacation, my time does tend to be busy. Doesn’t yours?!? But his reasoning is not to be trusted given that he was only trying in a very limited window himself.)

But then I started feeling guilty about judging him like I’ve described. And on Friday night, he called again (w/ no warning btw). I answered. The first thing he said was that he was surprised I picked up because I am REALLY hard to get a hold of. And followed that up with: do you have a few minutes to talk now? (That, at least, is very courteous. Well, it would have been if the convo had not lasted almost 6 hours. During which time I repeatedly asked to wrap things up.)

Unfortunately, nothing he said during those 6 hours was appealing. Much was downright rude to me. Oh! And I almost left out that he is quite a weirdo. Also unfortunately, I was not able to remain completely polite after midnight while trying to get him to stop talking and let me off the phone. For example: when he finally allowed me input into the convo (at roughly 12:30am, mind you!) about what I thought of such-&-such, I replied that I thought it was a very good example of our not finding a “match” in each other! But then he proceeded to argue with me that there was indeed potential for us for another 40 minutes. Finally, I was able to break into his soliloquy to say that in fact there is no potential when I say there is no potential. That is when he finally agreed to let me off the phone. But he did direct me to think seriously about whether I should be turning down interested men at my age. In fact, he instructed, I should sleep on it. And he was willing to hear my apology in the future should I somehow see reason!

Uhm; Good Night! As my Dad says, “Don’t call us, we’ll call you.” (I hope he doesn’t hold his breath waiting. LOL)

LOL I'm sure his mother thinks so. wink biggrin

P.S. Cool avi look!!! biggrin