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 Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 1:47 pm
'cause one of my husband's best friend just got engaged to this horrible girl.
Around her, all you can see is him repressing all the things he likes. He can't laugh at jokes that he thinks are funny because she finds them inappropriate (and trust me, we've all been so careful not offend her, we are constantly shocked by what she finds inappropriate), he can't play games he enjoys because she finds them too nerdy (we're all D&D nerds. And video games.), she only just tolerates his friends so we've seen him only about every other month since they started dating, and she'll put a quick stop to that soon.
AND she's his cousin.
Okay, like third cousin. But I still find that funky.
Mostly though, she isn't a nice person. What I've seen is a genuinely mean hearted girl who is just interested in getting married because her religion says she has to and he's the guy who offered. I don't honestly think she cares about him as the person he is at all.
Or she would let him be himself.
I dunno. That's my little blurb of the week, I guess. And I'd rather it be here, where it isn't a public forum.
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 2:43 pm
Well, that's one sucky conundrum.
Why'd he volunteer when she's a b***h?
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The Fabulous Prince Babel
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 3:08 pm
Ghost person!!!! Sorry, I won't be spectre-ist. It's just the glitches.
So, that sounds pretty bad.
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 5:05 pm
But if he's happy with the arrangement, then there's nothing anyone can do. If it all goes down the drain, what's the worst that could happen?
Divorce.
And so you get your friend back in his purest form, and she goes away.
It's win-win.
(Unless someone's Catholic)
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Eloquent Conversationalist
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 11:55 am
Divorce is awful. Even when both parties agree it's for the best, it's hard, and there are arguments. Practical concerns, emotional issues, family upsets, notifying everyone who knows you as a couple... at best, it's a serious pain in the tachat; at worst, it's possible for two people who used to love one another to totally drive each other into the ground. As the Talmud says, "even the altar weeps" when divorce is the only, or best, choice.
If your friend is thinking at all, "Well, we can always get divorced if it doesn't work out," then he shouldn't marry this person. Someone who's already planning their escape route does not need to get married. Sometimes telling your friend the truth is very hard, but if you can save him the expense and the soul-wringing pain of divorce, speak up!
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