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 Posted: Thu Mar 05, 2009 2:15 am
Ok, so I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years and 1 month now. Long time I might say. We are both still virgins and to me it seems like nothing is fair. She likes me to touch her sexually and orally stimulate her, but i have problems with the things that go on.
1: Hair: she usually has a lot of hair, but had recently shaved it off from boredom. I didn't tell her to but she tells me she is never doing it again. Its not that I want her completely hairless (which I REALLY liked because everything was so easy) but I would at least like her to trim. When she says that she trimmed it is only her bikini line which has NOTHING to do with it.
2: When she is done, I am done: After I do anything to her she asks me to stop and I just sit there. Nothing. She doesn't do anything back while I just sit there with an erection. She has said thank you a couple of times, but other than that I'm just done and she won't let me even do it again, because I even like doing it for her.
3: Its just not fair: She always used to ask me to shave my chest and genitals, but she has never done anything to me, so I just stopped. I don't want do all these things for her when all she is going to do is rub my p***s on the outside of my pants for 3 minutes and just sit there like an idiot. She has rubbed it ONE time on the inside of my pants outside my underwear. She always says she will do all these things and she will play ind try to unzip my pants and I'll tell her to please stop. Because we have done all of this before. I'm just going to feel like an idiot after. I even tried giving her chances and still nothing.
4: Many other countless small things: add up and just become cumbersome. We have been recently talking about having sex the next time she comes over because I'm going on a trip for a while, but I HAVE to be on top. AFTER YOU WON'T DO A SINGLE THING FOR ME WHY WOULD I DO MORE THINGS FOR YOU! Its really not fair and I hate it. If she wants me to do ALL these things for her I am not being on top PERIOD! She always goes "its just not what I pictured" but I didn't picture being in a half sexual relationship. I'm about to just stop doing everything for her and forget about her being upset and sad that I won't do anything for her. I don't think I am overreacting if anyone else thinks that. If I could write EVERY single detail I would and have you guys decide what I should do. Its really aggravating. I have talked to her about these things and even tried negotiating them. Nothing works. If you want to give advice please do. I mainly wrote this because its 5 in the morning, and I can't sleep because this is bothering me.
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Posted: Thu Mar 05, 2009 6:55 am
Having her hairless might have been easier on you, but it's actually not healthy for her v****a. Pubic hair helps protect the v****a and reduce the risk of vaginal infection. So I'd recommend standing behind her decision to not shave it again. A little trimming is ok though. You can even offer to help her trim.
But it sounds like the real issue here is that you have a shockingly selfish lover. Now unless you're a submissive and actually like being used, that's an issue.
If you don't like the situation, have told her you don't like the situation, and have yet to see any changes, I would probably stop doing things to her if I were you. Maybe then she'll realize what it's like, and maybe she'll learn that she has to give as well as take.
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Posted: Thu Mar 05, 2009 4:25 pm
I agree with Lorien, you need to set her down and talk to her at length, and dont let her interrupt you.
A one sided relationship isnt good, it ruins things for most people.
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Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 2:20 am
I agree with Lorien and MotH. If you've talked to her about it, and nothing's changed, then tell her you're gone. Enough's enough. You have needs too, and it's not fair that you're expected to do everything she wants you to do while she does butt-fark all in return.
If you want to be nicer about it, Lorien's suggestion of not being sexually active with her until she gets a clue works nicely too. wink (Sorry, I have a b***h streak in me sometimes.)
When I was with my very first boyfriend (and I was his very first girlfriend), I had a high sex drive while he barely had any. It's not the sole reason why we broke up, but I wouldn't be surprised if that factored in somehow.
As for the hair vs. no hair thing, I prefer to be hairless below the belt, and all the guys I've been intimate with have preferred the same thing. But if she wants to grow it out, you two can explore trimming to keep the growth in check. smile
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Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2009 3:48 am
redface I myself shave down their and I get red dots from where the hair has been and it gets really itchy and hurts. But I have to agree with L. She is being very selfish. She only gets what she wants and then leaves you disppointed. If you have already tried talking this out with her and she still doesn't respond than maybe you should call it quits. But if that seems to harsh, then maybe try and talk to her again.
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Posted: Fri Jul 17, 2009 11:40 pm
really its her choice to shave or not but i agree with the others, also maybe she is not completely ready to do anything to you yet, she might be a bit nervous or might think she will mess up . I always thought that for the longest time.
then about the you being on top thing, it's both of your guys' first time and for some girl their first time can be quite painful. when a girl is on top we feel more pressure so maybe she wants you on top the first time cuz she doesnt know exactly what to expect.
you need to think about it from her point of veiw. try being on top at first then the next time explain to her that you will be gentle while she is on top til she gets used to it.
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