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 Posted: Sat Oct 22, 2005 10:28 pm
Okay, so I sent this email to the guy I have a crush on telling him the whole story of how long I've had a crush on him (that's about 3 years), and now I'm really nervous. Should I face him at school Monday? Or should I just avoid him and hope he replies to my email?
Some advice would be loved!
Extra Notes on The story:
Okay, So I've had a crush on him since like the middle of fourth grade (i'm in 7th now).
We've been best friends since 5th grade, so I don't want to ruin that.
We've grown a bit apart this year because we have no classes togeather.
Many of my friends say that he has a crush on me, but I'm not really sure.
I'm mostly friends with guys so it might ruin my rep. for being the tough girl if I start dating.
What should I do?! gonk
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Posted: Sat Oct 22, 2005 11:47 pm
Just go about your day the way you usually do. It isn't cool to avoid the guy, especially if he tries to approach you about the letter.
I don't think it would ruin your rep to have a crush on a guy either, as long as you don't go running and hiding every time you see the guy. It is perfectly normal, and your friends should be able to accept the fact that, just like they will find crushes, you will end up having a crush on someone as well.
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Posted: Sun Oct 23, 2005 7:16 am
Avoiding him, no matter how you actually do that, is not a very mature thing to do after spilling your feelings to him like that. If he wants to talk to you about it, then be there for him. Just be prepared for anything he might say or do. Everything from him liking you back to being angry with you for liking him to him just not saying or doing anything about it.
I don't think you would riun your tough girl rep just by simply having feelings for another and showing it. I can really only seeing you ruining your tough girl rep if you went completely soft in every aspect of life. You know, started dressing very girly all the time, talking more girly, acting more girly. I mean girly girly! Other than that, I don't think you would ruin your rep.
As for maybe ruining your exsisting freindship with him, that is always a risk, but not an absolute. If he doesn't like you back, talk to him about still being friends. Trust me, if he doesn't like you back in that way, there are plenty of other guys that will come and go in your life that you will have crushes on, even if you have a bf. Crushes are normal and just happen. how you handle them and how much thought and feeling you give them is what can make it bad or good. If he cares about you as a friend, I don't think your friendship will be ruined. If he does like you back and wants to try to have a relationship maybe, then you two will have had a great head start by having been friends this long before starting a relationship. Most long lasting relationships started out as friendships, or slower than most relationships so the two have ample tiome to get to know each other.
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Posted: Sun Oct 23, 2005 8:18 am
Well if you told him, you were at least subconciously expecting something so don't run away from that now. Face him. If he doesn't like you, he'll probably pretend like it never happened so then you don't need to worry about facing him (although, I can't promise that he'll still be friends with you). If he does like you, he's going to expect you to go out with him now that you've told him and it isn't that fair to him to tell him that you don't want to after just telling him that you like him. Don't worry about your reputation. Pretty much everyone dates someone at some point (although, seventh grade is a bit early to have dated someone for sure). Your friends may tease you at first but it's probably going to be in a friendly way. I don't think they're going to think any less of you for dating someone.
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Posted: Sun Oct 23, 2005 10:42 am
if u really like him, u shouldnt worry about your rep.
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Posted: Sun Oct 23, 2005 11:05 pm
Act normal I guess, if he likes you then he'll approach you. Or maybe he won't. I guess it depends on the type of guy he is because he might be so scared that he may just avoid you.
But don't take that as a negative, he may just like you a whole lot.
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Posted: Mon Oct 24, 2005 3:20 am
if u aviod him and he does like you he might get the wrong signals and think that your just messin with his head or something. go about your day as normal!!!
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 1:02 pm
There is a fine line beween shyness and hiding out of fear, I sugest that you dont worry about it (as hard as that may be). Unless your trying to show him that your the shy type your best bet is to treat that day like any other. If he should approch you about it then talk to him about (better to talk alone after school or somthing).
But I sugest not dating him, your still young and have so much to experiance witht life. It's not that it is bad to love a friend, and if thats how you feel you should definetly let him know. But you must understand that your lives will change and so personalities of those around you. You should wait a few more years before falling in love.
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 3:31 pm
*sigh* I'm sure he loves you. It won't ruin your reputation...and if it does, at least you have the one thing you love the most.
I'm more of the shy.....stay in corner gal. I don't think my crush wants to be with me because of it...but hes the band geek guy...so we are even razz
maybe because I am shy....he thinks I am cute! ^^ 4laugh
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