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My friend has been hurt a lot in relationships before. Well a little less than two months ago (a month and a half?) he met a girl and they started dating.
Maybe four days into the relationship she said "I love you." He didn't know what to do. She took it back saying she was "Caught up in the moment." All the while he still liked a close friend of his, saying stuff like "I wish I could go back in time and I still want to be with you" (They never dated...but they both liked each other for two years.)

A week after that he said "I love you" to her (his girlfriend). Well a few days later he was scared that his girlfriend was cheating on him, and thought they might break up. She convinced him otherwise.

Then no more than two days later he proposes to her, she says yes. She's only a junior in high school and he is a freshman in college. He's lost a lot of friends over this and doesn't seem to care who it affects.

He seemed like such a rational guy and so understanding, this is really out of character for him.

When we have asked him about it he's said "We will never change" "We'll always be in love" When I asked him how long he had thought about proposing to her he said "A good week no lie." Well that contradicts the cheating thing.

Are we (my friend who liked him and I) over reacting?
What should we ask him/how should we handle this when we see him next?

Much too quick.

And asm uch as the truth hurts me, 'love' makes idiots out of guys. But right now it's not love, it's an infatuation and your friend is heading for a very very very painful wake up call from his so-called fiance.

He's blindsided by his new excitment over a young new thing in his life and he's not going to listen to either of you because to him if you're not in the relationship than you shouldn't be able to understand how either of them feel. And if you do try to make him see what's real than he'll turn on you in an instant and accuse you of trying to ruin the relationship. Or worse while you're trying to persude him to slow down he half-heartedly listens and the relationship goes to s**t, like I know it's going to, he will blame you.

Right now your friend is in a lose lose situation, and the only one that can end this ridiculousness is him or the fiance.

Oh, and it's probably illegal to get married to a minor without parental permission so good luck to that.

If worse comes to worse here's what you do, ask him questions. Not just simple yes or no questions but deep questions about the future that makes him plan things out and eventually he'll hit a brick wall.

-When are you getting married?
-Where are you going to hold the ceremony?
-How will you pay for the wedding?
-Are you going to be done with college by than?
-Is she going to live with you?
-How will you support her?
-Is she going to college?
-What does she plan to do for a career?
-What if she goes away to college?

Things like that. Not all at one though.

o wow I don't know what to say I thought he said he liked your friend and that is way to soon to start saying I love you and purpose