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 Posted: Fri Feb 20, 2009 9:07 am
Hello, my name is Ali. When I was 10 years old I found out my mother was addicted to crack snd my father was an abusive acoholic. My mother has been in and out of rehab for years and she is comming out of the 4th one in a couple weeks. I'm now 17 years old, and I'm struggling to become an adult because I've missed out on childhood. I've been the adult before, paying bills, cleaning the house, going to school (got straight As by the way), and having a job to support the family because of their money spending on drugs and alcohol. I tryed phycologists but they suck balls and I've tryed meetings and stuff but that never worked out. I'm soon to be moving out of the house from my abusive dad and I've decided to get a restraining order on both of them right when I turn 18. I've had a boyfriend for 7 months that is willing to help me and take me in. Hes like my soul mate. My question is to u: What now? How do I get over those horrid things that happend to me? And, Why does this have to happen to a 10 year old that didn't even understad sex yet?
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Posted: Fri Feb 20, 2009 10:32 am
Let me express right away that I am sorry that this has happened to you. It is difficult enough just growing up with "normal" teenage stuff going on. And good for you for being more mature than they are. You are like me in a lot of ways, you are what I like to call "The exception to the rule." You have found yourself in a place that you are struggling everyday to become better than the environment that you were raised in, and it takes a very strong willed and determined person to do that. Congrats! You will become one of the productive members of society.
As far as why this happened to you, I cannot say for sure... Probably just has to do with "wrong place wrong time" kind of thing. Scientist have long pondered the Nature vs Nurture debate and some would say that your parents were preconditioned not be so nurturing to you or your needs. Others would say that your parents are the product of lousy low income families that only taught them to care for their selves. I am sorry, but I do not know the answer. I can only speculate.
What you should do... I wouldn't necessarily forget about them, but I would move far away and go to college. Depending on what you want to do, where you want to go, and what your income level is... you can actually go to college, get your bachelors degree and not pay for anything until 6 months after you graduate. You should look into what ever school you want to go to and see if they can help you with federal aid and federal loans, and see if they offer loans though Salliemae. Salliemae actually has loan programs where if you qualify you are able to get the money to pay for tuition, room and board, books, and still a little left over for other things that you might need like for transportation or something else. Also... College is not like high school (most of the time you only have classes once or twice a day... depending on what school you go to), it is rather easy to have at least a part time job while in college.
So, my suggestion to you is to stick it out as long as you can, until you graduate from high school and then go to college. (Oh, and if you stay in state... you can usually apply for other kinds of financial aid as well)
Also, when applying for college, make sure to sort of explain your situation and see if they have any kind of programs or counselors who can help you get things situated and in order.
I hope this helps, and if you have any more questions please feel free to ask me or anyone else here.
love
Tama!
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Posted: Tue Oct 18, 2011 9:25 pm
Xxi Ownz Ur FacexX Hello, my name is Ali. When I was 10 years old I found out my mother was addicted to crack snd my father was an abusive acoholic. My mother has been in and out of rehab for years and she is comming out of the 4th one in a couple weeks. I'm now 17 years old, and I'm struggling to become an adult because I've missed out on childhood. I've been the adult before, paying bills, cleaning the house, going to school (got straight As by the way), and having a job to support the family because of their money spending on drugs and alcohol. I tryed phycologists but they suck balls and I've tryed meetings and stuff but that never worked out. I'm soon to be moving out of the house from my abusive dad and I've decided to get a restraining order on both of them right when I turn 18. I've had a boyfriend for 7 months that is willing to help me and take me in. Hes like my soul mate. My question is to u: What now? How do I get over those horrid things that happend to me? And, Why does this have to happen to a 10 year old that didn't even understad sex yet?well I know this is an old post but I hope everything has worked out for you
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