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well i want to do wicca but im only 13, i have a family of catholics,i share a room with my sister, my sister is so nosy(when i had spices in my drawer she looked at them all and used most of them), i have tons of homework so i cant study wicca and i have no place where i can concintrate.
Does anyone have advice for me?

Ther are two realistic things to do:

Be very mature and talk with your parents about what you want to do, with research material at hand to show them what Wicca -really- is (printed by third party people, not actual Wiccans, so they don't call it 'hype'), and hope they understand that you don't see God the way they do.

The only other recourse is just wait until you're 18 to learn and practice without their necessary permission to study a religion aside from the 'family religion'. With luck, when you're 16, you can get a lock on your bedroom door and some of that won't be a huge issue as long as you don't keep a blatant altar until you're a legal adult.

I don't condone hiding from your parents like Silver Ravenwolf does, but if you talk to them and they seriously go off the hook for no reason but prejudice, then secrecy really is the only way to keep your religious freedom.

That is the best way, however, since i come from a family of no real understanding on Wicca/Paganism, I understand her and her not wanting to tell her parents. With the world the way it is, and religions fighting each other, it creates conserns when it come to 'comeing out of the wiccan closet.' I cannot tell my parents that I am Pagan, even though they have not been to church in 25 years, because of the misconception about Wicca and Paganism. I keep my beliefs to myself with the exception of a VERY special few...

I told her to put a ward in her drawer to keep her sister away from it. For her, that might be the temp solution till she does turn 18 and move out the home. I would stay there an finish college, or join the militay, to make sure you have a future in whatever you do. However, if you are THAT worried about your family shunning you about Wicca, continue to hide it till you do move out.

Whenever you decide to tell them/not tell them, keep in mind what might and will happen. Your parents might say, 'If thats what you want' like a good parent should, no harm done. Just dont fear the worst when you do tell him. I sence that your parents won't shun you like my parents would, they would be disappointed, but they would get over it in due time. You are thier daughter after all...

I am honest enough to say I did not read the replies of others...It is my view that Wiccan ways will be a part of your life if you truly desire them to be and feel connected to them. In light of this there are many places you can go to be by yourself and there is time to study...such as holidays from school. Just keep in mind that if you are really serious about Wicca it isn't "the thing to do from 5-7:30 on Wednesdays and Thursdays" or "when you're bored". Wicca is part of who you are, who you will become and it is ingrained, if not a motivational factor, in living your life.

I know how you feel, I'm 14, and in a heavy catholic churchy family. The only people that know about it in my family is my cousin who also is a wicca believer. Our grandmother however, we both know will be devistated if she found out, but my mother might be more accepting because her co worker is wiccan too. I talked to him before and he said that he didnt tell till he was about eighteen but his parents knew two years before.

Honestly, if you think you family might react in a way that will make them think lesser of you, simply dont. If your going to tell them, I say wait a few more years till your 16...that's what I pan to do.

But I have replied to anouther thread on places you can get stuff at that look 'decrotive' heck, I have a old jewlery box that i store my altar cloth, candals, vials, and my little note book in...I just have a secerity of a key around my neck at all times. Some of us do hide, but it's best to wait till your half sure on how they would react.

And if you could, go out in your yard at night. I've had rituals out there before at two in the morning by candle light...just becareful of anything laying in the yard htough X_X *rubs head rememberingly*

I am 15 and have been looking into wicca since I was 12/13. My parents still don't know, well I haven't gone out and told them. But I do leave hints lying about. Fine I don't leave my alter assembled all the time, but my mother has seen some of my Wiccan book lying around. So far she has only made a small tsk noise at them, but has left them alone.

I don't know about other peoples parents, but even though I have given mine plenty of oppurtunity to bring the whole Wicca factor up, they haven't. Instead they choose to ignore it and pretend they don't see weird things lying about my room. ie, my Wicca books.

I personally don't realy plan on haveing a full out conversation with my parents, atleast untill I am 100% sure that this is the path I want to take. As of yet I'm still not sure and am waiting for the right molment.

But I think it mostly depends on what your parents are like. IE Both my parents are Catholic and I was even baptized before I could speak. But we don't go to church anymore so I don't think they would go to balistic (Its my other relatives im worried about)

Then there is my friend Sam, Who her and her whole family are devote christians and go to church and bible study every week. As much as I love Sam, if I was her sister there would be no way I would mention being Wiccan. So it's mostly personal oppinion and how you think your parents would react. But then again, just follow your instinct.