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 Posted: Wed Jan 07, 2009 6:04 pm
Ok me and my boyfriend are getting serious and i really do love him. im 15 and hes 17 almost 18. Well befor I met him I'd never even hugged a guy so hes my fist real relationship. hes taught me a bunch of stuff but NEVER pressured me to do anything I didnt want to do and if i say can we go a little slower he understands. Well when he fingers me he always asks me what I like and if hes doing it right and he is so i say yes. well he always asks me why dont you moan? the whole time hes trying to get me to moan and its kind of a turn off to him that i dont. i mean i breath hard and will like do these little gasps but i guess thats not what he wants. so i guess what im asking is is it normal for a girl not to moan? and what does a moan sound like i mean is it supposed to come naturally? I also have gave my boyfriend a b*****b twice and he said it was good both times but he wants me to use my tounge. I've tried to do different things with my tounge and ask him if that was what he ment but he said no everytime. what dos he meah by use your tounge? Im the first virgin hes been with so hes used to people who know how to do things and it sucks cause i dont even though he tells me im doing everything right.
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Posted: Wed Jan 07, 2009 6:53 pm
Some people moan, others don't. It's about preferences and what comes naturally for you. It's not a big deal, and it doesn't mean either of you are doing anything wrong. You can try making more noise in bed if you want to, just be aware that if it doesn't come naturally for you it could sound forced and faked at first.
Since guys like different things and since there are lots of different ways to use your tongue, we're not going to be able to tell you exactly how your partner wants you to use it. It's great that you've tried experimenting a bit with it to try to find out what he likes. That means you're doing your part. Now he just needs to start doing his part, which is communication. Whether we're sexually experienced or not, whenever we're with a new partner we have to experiment a little to find out what that person likes. If our partner just says, "that's not doing it for me," but doesn't offer any direction or suggestions, well, that's not exactly helpful. So keep experimenting with your tongue, but tell him that he has to help you out, guide you, give you suggestions, tell you what feels the best, tell you what has worked for him in the past, etc.
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Posted: Sun Jan 18, 2009 8:33 pm
MATURE-ISH STUFFS... But if you're in a sex forum, you SHOULD be ok with this stuff anyway... rolleyes rikuu uchiha I also have gave my boyfriend a b*****b twice and he said it was good both times but he wants me to use my tounge. I've tried to do different things with my tounge and ask him if that was what he ment but he said no everytime. what dos he meah by use your tounge? Im the first virgin hes been with so hes used to people who know how to do things and it sucks cause i dont even though he tells me im doing everything right. Did you try swirling it around the tip? Or what? And kinda like Lorien said, if he doesn't give you some info, he's sorta screwin himself out of the pleasure he wants... Just ask what he means, if you feel comfortable with it. Also, I'm sorry if anyone finds this weird or gross, some guys like their girl to lick/suck/play with their, lack of a better word, balls. So, if you don't wanna ask him what you should do, try some inventive little tricks like that, or think of something. I think in most male minds, new equals hot and kinky equals OMAHGAWD!!! Soooooo, lol, hope you get stuff worked out! Knock him off his feet lovely! xd By the way, whenever me and my boyfriend started getting physical, I didn't make any sound. But I also didn't understand sex alot. This guild actually helped me with that. I learned stuff that could help me make things interesting, learned how things worked right... Soon, I was doin' the gasps, then the mmm's, then the big O's, lol. So, if you end up not feeling the moans and the sounds, it's going to be ok. And if you're boyfriend's the nice, understanding type... He'll accept it. 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Jan 22, 2009 3:12 pm
Sex comes in different "Flavors" and its definately different depending on the man.
Ask him what he wants specifically, have him pantomine it for you (incase you dont know what that means, its acting without words) in this case have him move his tongue around the way he wants you to.
It sounds like you have the upperhand here, use that to your advantage. He has choosen you as a partner and he needs to understand how you feel about his requests. If you dont want to moan, tell him. Or if you do, think of ways you could while still being comfortable.
The first time I ever was pleasured I didnt know how to act, it came naturally for me to gasp and breath harder. Eventually I met other guys and the moaning began, it just depends on who you are and what you do.
If hes telling you your doing something right, you are. Men dont say these things for the hell of it, although if you do find a man like that, watch out.
Find whats right for YOU and try to incorporate it into the relationship, it sounds as if he is giving you full reigns to this ride, drive it in your direction.
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Posted: Fri Apr 24, 2009 4:25 pm
AshyKitty MATURE-ISH STUFFS... But if you're in a sex forum, you SHOULD be ok with this stuff anyway... rolleyes rikuu uchiha I also have gave my boyfriend a b*****b twice and he said it was good both times but he wants me to use my tounge. I've tried to do different things with my tounge and ask him if that was what he ment but he said no everytime. what dos he meah by use your tounge? Im the first virgin hes been with so hes used to people who know how to do things and it sucks cause i dont even though he tells me im doing everything right. Did you try swirling it around the tip? Or what? And kinda like Lorien said, if he doesn't give you some info, he's sorta screwin himself out of the pleasure he wants... Just ask what he means, if you feel comfortable with it. Also, I'm sorry if anyone finds this weird or gross, some guys like their girl to lick/suck/play with their, lack of a better word, balls. So, if you don't wanna ask him what you should do, try some inventive little tricks like that, or think of something. I think in most male minds, new equals hot and kinky equals OMAHGAWD!!! Soooooo, lol, hope you get stuff worked out! Knock him off his feet lovely! xd By the way, whenever me and my boyfriend started getting physical, I didn't make any sound. But I also didn't understand sex alot. This guild actually helped me with that. I learned stuff that could help me make things interesting, learned how things worked right... Soon, I was doin' the gasps, then the mmm's, then the big O's, lol. So, if you end up not feeling the moans and the sounds, it's going to be ok. And if you're boyfriend's the nice, understanding type... He'll accept it. 3nodding Ashy is right. Ask him exactly what he wants.
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Posted: Sat Apr 25, 2009 1:28 pm
rikuu uchiha Well when he fingers me he always asks me what I like and if hes doing it right and he is so i say yes. well he always asks me why dont you moan? the whole time hes trying to get me to moan and its kind of a turn off to him that i dont. i mean i breath hard and will like do these little gasps but i guess thats not what he wants. so i guess what im asking is is it normal for a girl not to moan? and what does a moan sound like i mean is it supposed to come naturally? I have the same problem with by bf. I also breath hard and sometimes do some gasps and little moaning, but not so hard. I think, it's different for each person. You can feel good and don't make moans, and someone other can moan all the time. Quote: I also have gave my boyfriend a b*****b twice and he said it was good both times but he wants me to use my tounge. I've tried to do different things with my tounge and ask him if that was what he ment but he said no everytime. what dos he meah by use your tounge? Im the first virgin hes been with so hes used to people who know how to do things and it sucks cause i dont even though he tells me im doing everything right. You must tell him, that you don't know , what he really wants and ask him, what you have to do. For sure he will tell you exactly, what he wants wink
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