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 Posted: Fri Nov 28, 2008 8:30 pm
Alrighty, I've finally decided that I should start trying to get a boyfriend. I've just got a few problems.
I hardly ever talk to anyone. I only 5 different guys by name and three of them I would pretty much never consider going out with. There are two others but I have no clue about anything besides their names and beyond that nothing except for one of them that sits around with me and a bunch of other girls at lunch.
The next problem is that I am extremely introverted person who is very prone to beating myself up mentally and feeling guilty and stupid if I think I've done something wrong, or if someone gets angry at me. In short I'm extremely introverted a very large percentage of the time and I can hardly ever bring myself to ask questions or talk.
It also doesn't help I've only been going to the school for 2 years.
What the hell should I do?!?!
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Posted: Fri Nov 28, 2008 8:54 pm
hmmm i would say that you might not be ready for a relationship. before you think about a relationship you might want to deal with your inner demons first. or at least make yourself talk and be more social. and i know it's hard to do that lol im still struggling with being able to talk to people. but before anything you will have to learn how to talk to people.
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Posted: Sat Nov 29, 2008 8:57 pm
yeah, you should try making friends with people first. and if you already have your eyes on a guy which is why you've made this decision, you should try getting closer to him as a friend first. it's always the best decission. not to mention that once you find it easier to talk to people, you find it easier to deal with your guilt or other feelings cuz you can talk to people face to face at any time who will be there. it's a good feeling, ya know? so just try being more social to start with. then a bf won't be hard to get at all.
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Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2008 1:19 pm
it'd be great if we could just decide to get a boyfriend and then be able to get one, but unfortunately, life just doesn't work that way. first, deal with your issues, even if it's just a little. try making a few more friends, and get out of your comfort zone a little. then try to find a guy you like, and go for it. just realize that this is going to take some time.
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Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2008 7:57 pm
If you don't like the above options, heres my view:
I have the same problems, I'm super introverted, I'm shy and blush at the slightest hint of anything, and I'm terrified of certain people in general. But the thing is to hang out with girls that are more outro. In one way, it makes you seem more pleasant and nice to be with, and it also [subconsiously] makes you more and more outro' too.
Trust me, I've been doing this for a few years and I've gotten asked out three or four times since I've started.
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Posted: Fri Dec 05, 2008 11:35 am
basically, just try to be more outgoing.
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Posted: Sat Dec 06, 2008 6:50 pm
all the above suggestions are good ones, I was um lets say VERY introverted the first time I talked to someone in school without having an anxiety attack was in 7th grade, this girl saw me and decided I looked like someone who could make a good friend, so we became friends, she LOVED to talk so I had to talk back and she wasn't intimidating like the other people so it was easier to talk to her, we parted ways after 8th grade because we would go on to different high school (Virgin Islands thing) while in high school I started to hang more with boys and it was cool because I got to be more outgoing these guys were my friends so I could talk to them like my brothers, now I only hang out with guys and I get so much attention from guys I ask my friends to block some of them...the point is if you have a very extroverted friend you by association become extroverted as well.
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Posted: Thu Dec 11, 2008 9:54 am
Tha Chica Lana all the above suggestions are good ones, I was um lets say VERY introverted the first time I talked to someone in school without having an anxiety attack was in 7th grade, this girl saw me and decided I looked like someone who could make a good friend, so we became friends, she LOVED to talk so I had to talk back and she wasn't intimidating like the other people so it was easier to talk to her, we parted ways after 8th grade because we would go on to different high school (Virgin Islands thing) while in high school I started to hang more with boys and it was cool because I got to be more outgoing these guys were my friends so I could talk to them like my brothers, now I only hang out with guys and I get so much attention from guys I ask my friends to block some of them...the point is if you have a very extroverted friend you by association become extroverted as well. that's pretty much what happened to me. in middle school, i was teased by pretty much everyone in my grade and beyond, so i stopped talking to people because i didn't think it did any good. then when i got into high school, i met a girl in my pe class who during a game of basket ball just randomly gave me a nickname.
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Posted: Mon Dec 22, 2008 1:40 am
dont consider to be in a r/ship unless u actually met someone . people should
strt a r/ship bcause they wnt to be each other && so on && nt becaause the feel of needing a partner . so yeah , sve urself fr tht special person . gd.luck ^^
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Posted: Mon Dec 22, 2008 7:26 am
have a little more confindence youll find one but dont just go for the first guy that asked you out no mastter how rich or poor he is its the personality that counts choose someone you like and someone who like you
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