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 Posted: Tue Nov 11, 2008 2:23 pm
(Well, sex that doesn't involve my dad's best friend abusing me in the night.)
My boyfriend's a virgin and we've discussed sex before, but we're both unbelievably shy and will probably be unable to actually get started out of fear gonk
I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice so I knew how to throw out all my insecurities and actually do something.
Thanks heart
How retarded do I sound? gonk
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Posted: Tue Nov 11, 2008 5:25 pm
well in my experiance my girldfriend and i start by making out and just let it escilate to sex
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Posted: Sat Nov 15, 2008 10:02 pm
I don't even think that's possible. I'm pretty sure both you and your boyfriend are going to have the same insecurities, and you'll be fine so long as you both are prepared and want it.
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Posted: Sat Nov 29, 2008 6:32 pm
Yes, I'll agree that I don't think there is any way to really throw away insecurities. Just make sure you're ready for the next step and do what you think is right.
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Posted: Tue Dec 02, 2008 2:44 am
One of you has got to take the initiative. If you're both insecure about it, maybe take each other's hands, and using your left hands, lead each other's right hands to where you want to be touched. Don't feel bad about anything, the first time should to be more about the experience than the sex, have fun with it and pay attention to what you each like. Then whether the sex is good or not, you'll have a fun little game to play whenever you get horny rolleyes .
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Posted: Tue Dec 02, 2008 3:06 pm
You'll be fine! Everyone's nervous their first time.& EVERYONE has insecurities. Do what you feel like, go with the flow.
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Posted: Wed Dec 03, 2008 12:40 am
Fuzenmaru One of you has got to take the initiative. If you're both insecure about it, maybe take each other's hands, and using your left hands, lead each other's right hands to where you want to be touched. Don't feel bad about anything, the first time should to be more about the experience than the sex, have fun with it and pay attention to what you each like. Then whether the sex is good or not, you'll have a fun little game to play whenever you get horny rolleyes . That might be better than what im going to suggest. I think mutual masterbation should come first. That way you know eachothers parts and it helps ease up some of the tentions.
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Posted: Sun Dec 28, 2008 11:48 pm
Be sure to take it slow. Start with something simple, like taking off each other's shirts, and gradually working your way up from there.
It's not a race, so feel free to go at your own pace.
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Posted: Sun Mar 08, 2009 1:18 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 26, 2009 2:07 pm
You need to feel safe and have trust. Lots and lots of trust. But take it slow. Soft touching is a good way to start so you can learn about your partner's "sweet spots" Sex can be a wonderful and beautiful thing but it needs to be with the right person. I regret everyday the day I lost my virginity. It was not the right time.
Wait for the right time. Don't listen to peer pressure. Just because "everyone else" has had sex, doesn't mean it is the right time for you. When you have sex you are letting someone see all of you. They can reject you or say you're ugly or stupid or something so be sure of your choice.
Be safe. Use a condom and the pill or something else. Until you want to get pregnant, don't take chances. It takes one sperm to meet an egg to get pregnant.
Don't do it if you would take it back if you were caught.
Good luck!
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Posted: Fri Oct 30, 2009 9:46 am
Gentle, sensual foreplay is definitely the way to go. Follow the Bailey's creed; 'let your senses guide you'. Just follow your heart, your gut, and the moment, and they will not steer you wrong.
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Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2014 5:28 pm
Have you had treatment for the sexual abuse?
And if you're still experiencing insecurities, that might be your brain's way of telling you you aren't ready. When it's time to lose your virginity you should be wanting it with all your mind and body, rather than forcing yourself for whatever reason.
You don't sound retarded, you just sound... not ready.
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