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 Posted: Fri Nov 07, 2008 1:08 pm
When my baby was first born, they gave her a MAM brand pacifier at the hospital, and it took a while, but eventually she started taking it. When she was probably two months old, my dad decided it would be funny to dip her pacifier in strawberry jelly, completely against my will (I believe I said something along the lines of "You do and I'll bash your nose into your face") but he did it anyway. And my threat was pretty hollow because we were in a restaurant. She took the jelly, of course, but as soon as the taste was gone, she would spit the pacifier out. Within a week or two of this happening, my cousin (who is a certified nurse's aid and going to school to become a registered nurse) decided to randomly change the brand of pacifiers she took from MAM to Nuk, which is shaped COMPLETELY different, without even asking me if that was okay. She told me Nuks are better in some shape form or fashion (Please keep in mind also, my cousin has not children), so since they were supposedly better, I started giving her Nuks.
Probably within two weeks of taking Nuks, Cambria decided not to take any pacifier. I said, well, that's okay. We wont have to break her of it later. But about a week or week and a half ago, she decided to start sucking her thumb when she was falling asleep. And this is one thing I absolutely do NOT want to start.
I spoke to the doctor at her four month doctor's appointment about it, and he told me just to let her suck her thumb. My dad came home from being gone a month on a contracting job and I told him she is, under no circumstances, allowed to suck her thumb. If he sees her to it, to pull her hand from her mouth. His response, "But its so cute!"
I don't want Cambria to start sucking her thumb because its a hard habit to break. I went to school with a girl who sucked her thumb all the way through middle school, and it messed her teeth up. Sorry, but if I could afford a stack of dentist bills, I'd have braces right now. Its not something I want to just "fix" later and let her do it now. I would rather her suck a pacifier, because the pacifier can be taken away. The thumb can't. And everyone tells me I'm stupid for saying that.
My mom and dad tell me I'm being mean to her by taking her thumb away. If she's about 2/3 asleep, she usually starts crying, but if she's awake, she usually doesn't care.
In all, I'm aggravated by this entire situations, to sum up, for the following reasons:
-She stopped taking a pacifier in the first place, and I think it is either A. My Dad or B. My Cousin's fault. She took one just fine until they decided to alter the means by which she took one.
-I don't want her to start sucking her thumb and no one will respect my wishes as her mother. The only one who goes with me on removing her hand from her mouth is my husband.
-Everyone under minds my wishes. It doesn't matter what I say about the situation, even though I'm her mother. And my dad is the worst with this. My cousin isn't any better because she wants kids and is having trouble conceiving, but mostly, she's a half-assed nurse and thinks she knows more than I do.
So, what I am asking you, parents out there, is this. Have you had a problem similar to my situation? Do you let your children suck their thumbs? Have you had issues with them taking pacifiers when they got to this age? Do you have any additional tips or comments that may help me out? Do you think I am being mean to her for not letting her suck her thumb?
Anything, anything at all would help me out.
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Posted: Sun Nov 09, 2008 8:39 am
I personally would let her do it because right now if she is only doing it in her sleep its probually just something she doesnt even realize she is doing it. Now if she is awake and doing it do what I did and it worked for me. Keep pulling her hand out of her mouth she will eventually catch on and probually think its a bad thing.
Now me I sucked my thumb till kindergarten...What stopped me was a mailman my family knew telling me if I kept sucking it would probually eventually fall off....NEVER SUCKED MY FINGER AGAIN!!
OH and if she is also doing it when awake and older there are things you can put on their fingers Or distract them from it by giving them something to do with their hands.
Oh and for your family.... I have the same issues My mom tried to buy a different pacifier with a different shape and she had a fit when I refused to give it to her. Oh and NUK's are a good brand for infants because it helps but MAM's are also so I dont know why she changed it like that on you its messed up. And your dad probually forgot that babies are weird and that when they think a pacifier should taste one way they wont take it again!
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Posted: Sun Nov 09, 2008 12:57 pm
I was thinking a bit ago..
And you know what I really think its your kid and you should do whatever you want with her!
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Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2008 9:48 am
Thanks for the advice! I may do that... just let her suck it for now and discourage it when she is a bit older and can better understand. I think she is catching on that its a bad thing though, because when I pull her hand from her mouth, she'll cry about it for a minute, then try to go back to sleep without it. And yeah, she usually does suck it when she's asleep.
Its just stressing me out so much to try to get her to stop.
LOL, just now, she was sucking it and I didn't say anything to her, but she had a hold of her sleeve and puled it from her mouth herself, then started crying. rofl
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Posted: Wed Nov 12, 2008 2:42 am
I had 2 children who took a pacifier, 2 who sucked their thumb, and 1 who was always in constant motion and couldn't be bothered with things that kept his mouth/hands, etc tied up.
All of my children had pretty well quit by themselves once they started getting involved with crayons, balls, toys, other playmates and found it wasn't cool or slowed them down. Interestingly enough, the child with the worst need for braces was the one that didn't do either!
They did all have a "blankie" at least at bedtime for a long time, though. A doll, or blanket, or one had my silk bathrobe! 4laugh
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Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 4:33 am
Jo is right too Some kids give it up when their hands are busy like i said too... I had to be told something XD Only i would beleive to be stopped.
But I was just like you fussed at about her except you were told to leave her alone I was told to make her stop and yelled at for letting her do it.
Now im being yelled at because she bites and is a bit of a drama queen but you know babies have their phases and hers right now is due to grandparents who watch her let her get away with to much stuff...Boy do I wish i was a stay at home momma.
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Posted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 4:57 am
It is hard to have so much input from others when raising our children, isn't it?
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Posted: Sat Nov 15, 2008 6:00 am
MsRoseLovingJo It is hard to have so much input from others when raising our children, isn't it? Yes it is...My mom who never really said much to me while growing up except for saying I probually wouldnt do much with my life because i had such bad grades. And now she sometimes makes me think that she messed up with me and might be fixing it with my daughter... Kinda annoying if you ask me because the way I was doing things was fine. Nap times are set at certain times etc.. D: i was yelled at for letting her crawl around the house... Very annoying very...
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Posted: Sun Dec 28, 2008 3:04 pm
i sucked my thumb till about kindergarten. i think i just grew out of it. my daughters doctor said not to worry about the thumb sucking until she is 4 which is next month so now i'm starting to pull her thumb out of her mouth. i know my mom tried to nail bite stuff on me but i just washed it off. lol
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Posted: Wed Dec 31, 2008 3:10 am
I think the most frustrating thing with all the extra opinions (even "professional" ones) is that they can vary sooo much and there is really not a "one-size-fits-all" case for all children! I think I was just greatful my children grew up as well adjusted as they did! (Nudge - Jen 4laugh )
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