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 Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 6:09 pm
I have 2 problems and I need advise. The problems are about my brother. You see Im a caring person and my brother whom I adore smokes a lot. I tried talking to him like a reasonable person but he just won't listen. Its because Im younger then him. He doesn't want someone younger to tell him what he is doing is stupid. He smokes too much and its so unhealthy for you I just want him to quit. Im scared one day he wont be able to breathe properly because of it. So how do I get him to quit?
My second problem again about my brother. He has some sort of sleeping disorder. It use to be just sleeping walking when he was a young lad or so my father has told me. Now he starts yelling and talking really loud when hes dreaming. Once he was dreaming and he almost hit me. It scares me when Im sleeping and all I hear is yelling comming from his room. How do I get him to stop with both of these habits?
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 8:51 pm
Well the smoking thing is his decision. You have expressed yourself to him and he has made his choice and you no longer have any say in the matter.
As for the sleeping disorder that would probably have to be treated by a professional because he doesn't have any more control over his sleep then you do. I apparently snore in my sleep but there isn't anything I can do about it. My fiance has on occasion poked and once punched me in his sleep. He didn't mean to and it was just in a dream and he really didn't injure me so it doesn't really matter. I can imagine it is bothersome for you but it would probably require some professional help and even that might not solve it.
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 9:18 pm
Chalda Well the smoking thing is his decision. You have expressed yourself to him and he has made his choice and you no longer have any say in the matter.
As for the sleeping disorder that would probably have to be treated by a professional because he doesn't have any more control over his sleep then you do. I apparently snore in my sleep but there isn't anything I can do about it. My fiance has on occasion poked and once punched me in his sleep. He didn't mean to and it was just in a dream and he really didn't injure me so it doesn't really matter. I can imagine it is bothersome for you but it would probably require some professional help and even that might not solve it. hmm yeah your right. Thanks for the advise. Its just scary to hear someone yelling especially when its comming from downstairs sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 10:00 pm
Yeah I can totally imagine that is scary but just try to remember that it isn't on purpose and it's just because of a dream.
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 10:31 pm
Chalda Yeah I can totally imagine that is scary but just try to remember that it isn't on purpose and it's just because of a dream. yeah thats true. Ill try not to freak out too much next time. The thing is when he wakes up he is still dreaming and starts yelling a lot then. My heart beats so fast when he does that.
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2005 7:13 am
********, Gaia just ate my post scream
I'll do it again anyway.
Problem number one - You've tried talking to him. Does he not get talks about the dangers of smoking in school? If not then you could pick up some leaflets for him and leave them on his bed. If he chooses to ignore them then it's his choice. You've done your part. If in the future he comes back to you for help then you should help him. He coul dhave then thought about what's best for his help.
Problem number two - I'm very unfamiliar with this but it sounds sociological. I agree that it is probaly best to be seen by someone professional.
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2005 9:45 am
[CherryBlossom] scream I'll do it again anyway. Problem number one - You've tried talking to him. Does he not get talks about the dangers of smoking in school? If not then you could pick up some leaflets for him and leave them on his bed. If he chooses to ignore them then it's his choice. You've done your part. If in the future he comes back to you for help then you should help him. He coul dhave then thought about what's best for his help. Problem number two - I'm very unfamiliar with this but it sounds sociological. I agree that it is probaly best to be seen by someone professional. alright thanks
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2005 3:18 pm
That dreaming deal sounds pretty serious; Id speak to a professional about it.. How old are you both? If he can, he should do it himself, or have you do it with him?
My old boyfriend used to bump me alot while he slept, and he used to yell that he loved me and didnt want me to go.. he got really sweaty, too.. but who knows if it was for real.
Is he stressed out or has some sort of heat-induced delusion type problem?
Tell us what you do about it, an keep us updated from there! surprised
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Posted: Sun Oct 09, 2005 4:13 pm
Mavole That dreaming deal sounds pretty serious; Id speak to a professional about it.. How old are you both? If he can, he should do it himself, or have you do it with him? My old boyfriend used to bump me alot while he slept, and he used to yell that he loved me and didnt want me to go.. he got really sweaty, too.. but who knows if it was for real. Is he stressed out or has some sort of heat-induced delusion type problem? Tell us what you do about it, an keep us updated from there! surprised alright I will keep you guys updated. I have talked to him about his sleeping problems and that he screams whenever he sleeps and he should get it checked out but he doesnt really want any professional help. Ill make sure to keep you updated though and thanks.
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Posted: Sun Oct 09, 2005 4:55 pm
I fully agree with Chalda on the smoking issue. Leave it be.
About sleepwalking/talking, there's nothing you can really do to help him. Just live with it until you're old enough to move out on your own.
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