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 Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2005 6:39 pm
how do you stop a friend from self injuring them selves?
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Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2005 7:51 pm
They injure themselves because of pain they feel on the inside that they don't know how to deal with. Depending on their age either try to help them work out their problems of tell there parents and try to get them some professional help.
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Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2005 11:24 pm
I'd probably go with telling your friend's parents so they can get her some help.
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Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2005 11:47 pm
it depends on the situation but try and be her ( or him) friend and talk to be like her...eh...coucilor.....or that's what i have done in the past if the parents aren't the cause of it go and tell them what's happening but if they are even part of the cause it's probably not such a good idea...i've been suicidle in the past myself...and for me telling someone who was part of the cause made me even more depressed......i've gone through this kind of situation alot.....hang in there i know it's hard to see your friend that way but do all you can to help her...also i'm kinda leary with the tell the parent thing cause my friends dad told my friend he was planning her funeral and to just go and kill herself.......and she was in the hospital and almost suceeded with suicide.....he was the whole cause of it......that made me very pissed off.....she's living with mer mom now....and she can't be happier.
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 11:59 pm
she'll get over it, we allways do, eventully it gets boring...trust me i know its fun at first, hiding it, getting odd atention, feeling like your soecial because you have a secret...but prettysoon when she realizes she /he is no longer getting attentiion fron it, this person will stop
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2005 6:34 am
I don't really know, I was the self harming friend but I hid it to not draw attension to it.
Talking to my mum really helped me. I think you should talk to your friend first. You might be all she needs. Ask her why she does it and try to hlep her solve her problems. Most people self harm because there is something in their life upsetting them and they don't know how to deal with the pain. If she won't talk to you get her to talk to an adult she trusts. You can work it out together. Don't force her into doing anything she really doesn't want to because it can do more harm than good.
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Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2005 10:24 pm
The best way to encourage a self-harmer to cease behavior.. Is -not- to necessarily tell their parents, who will in all likelyhood attempt to forbid it, but rather, let he/she know that they have someone there to support them.. and that you disapprove of whatever it is they're doing..You're still there to support them. Having someone there offers an alternate way to cope with whatever issues they're dealing. Encourage them to talk to you, and get up and out of the house if they feel like self-harming.
Know, that the majority of self-harmers don't do so with suicidal intent... I myself am a cutter, I've never done it for attention or with any intent of suicide.. The endorphines released enduce a type of calming high.. I'm working on stopping, but it -is- an addicting habit. Just as a smoker's habit of lighting up a cigarette when they're stressing something. If he/she is -honestly- going to stop.. they have to decide to do it for themselves, not for someone else. Otherwise, the likeliness of it happening again afterwards is probable.
There are dozens of website's you can pull up on the subject.. And hotlines you can call for help with dealing with it. Try Googling up some results.
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Posted: Thu Nov 03, 2005 3:07 pm
Boy, the moment I saw this topic, I had to come by and give my 2 cents.
I have a very good friend who was a self-mutilator for many years. I wasn't aware of it at first, but once she had told me, I tried very hard to help her myself. In the end, we just got very tense with eachother, and I had to spend more time smoothing out our anger with eachother then helping eachother and being friends.
The best thing to do is to tell someone you trust, and try to get them help.
I ended up telling the school psychologist about her, and she is now doing much better. I'm behind her 100%, and I'm there to help her get better.
The best thing you can do is be a friend and tell an adult. It sounds really really corny, and they tell you in school, right? But, its the truth.
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Posted: Mon Nov 07, 2005 9:25 am
i used to do the same thing, but then i got caught. I had to spend about a month in a mental instituition because of it. I suggest telling a counselor at school if they're available. A last resort is to tell parents that usually makes it worse. A counslor will contact the parents and know how to present it.
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Posted: Tue Nov 15, 2005 2:26 pm
well, have her tell someone SHE trusts, not you. my friends told the school counsler, and he called my parents and......XP. I was screwed.
tell her you're there and want the best for her, because you love her (in a friend way!).
ask her if she will tell you whats going on to cause of this.
sorry, thats all I know.
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Posted: Sat Nov 19, 2005 9:38 pm
~Royal~QueenSandra she'll get over it, we allways do, eventully it gets boring...trust me i know its fun at first, hiding it, getting odd atention, feeling like your soecial because you have a secret...but prettysoon when she realizes she /he is no longer getting attentiion fron it, this person will stop It's not necessarily an attention thing. I've been an SI (self-injurer) for seven years and I don't really get the attention. And it's not necessarily something you grow out of. Some do, but there are many more who don't.
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Posted: Sat Nov 19, 2005 9:46 pm
Truthfully, there's not really a way that you can MAKE your friend quit. Try to get him/her some help and pray. I know that everytime that someone has tried to "make" me quit or make me promise that I wouldn't cut anymore, I just did it more, mostly, I think it was to spite them. A lot of it is that it's like a really powerful drug addiction. When someone who self-injures cuts or burns or whatever, it releases endorphins in their brain, and it makes them feel better, which is why some people laugh during or after they hurt themselves. But like I said, just try to get your friend some professional help, maybe direct them to a forum of some kind for SI (self-injurers) so that they know that they aren't alone, and then all you can really do is pray for them...
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Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2005 6:52 am
chidori-girl how do you stop a friend from self injuring them selves? Truth be spoken, you won't be able to stop them right away. It takes time, really. I've tried to stop friends and they don't like to listen to what i have to say. The best i can offer is that you be there for them. Encourage them to talk to you. If you see them trying to hurt themselves, run over there and tackle their a** to the floor. Lol, that will probably hurt them more eh? Maybe not a good idea, but you just need to let them knwo that you have their back. That you are there for support purposes. Just instill that value into their heads and they should be fine. The only problem is instilling it...
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Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2005 2:49 pm
Try to get them to go to a theripist, and possibly on med's if it's needed.
I personally won't touch that stuff
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