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If something tramatic happened in your life, so tramatic that you pushed it to the back of your mind, and kept it a secret from your parents, and then a year later is required to tell, how would you handle it?

They want me on meds, I need to talk to mom about the insurance. The problem: my mother needs to know why the ******** her daughter needs medication when she appears perfectly fine. How would you go about telling your mother that you need these meds because you are suffering from PTSD. And, you just found out that you are a candidate for PTSD.

Moms and Dads out there, how would you take it if your kiddie randomly called you up asking about insurance details, wouldn't you want to know the reasons? I don't want my mother to know any of it, but I have to tell her.

How do you run it smoothly without all the ******** questions? How do you tell someone something without feeling like a ******** liar? I am scared of my mother, I admit. I want to protect her from what I have become.

How do I do it?

PTSD= Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

I don't know what sort of meds you are talking about. If they are for depression, you can actually get them quite cheap (even without insurance). I think I got mine for about $30 US a month.

But yeah, if you want to tell your mom, definitely do so. I would suggest seeing if she could come to one of your counseling sessions as someone else suggested. That way there is someone else there to back you up, and they might be able to help when you decide to break it to your mom.

(I might not be one to talk though; I can't tell my mother a thing or she goes nuts on me.)

I have to tell her that I have a secret that haunts me daily. I will call her about it, but i don't know how to exactly say it. How to tell her that her daughter has been "dirtied" and may not be able to wear white on her wedding date....

Well, since you're college aged, most college campuses have excellent student health services that don't require insurance. In fact, most can prescribe medications and offer them at reasonable prices through an on-campus pharmacy. That is, of course, if you're attending college.

You just ask. And if they ask why, then you don't have to tell them.
It took me 15 years to tell my 'rents one thing and took four for another bunch of things.

You'll tell them when the time's right for you.
Not for them.

Did it go well? Did they react like you were expecting them to?

*hugs Nadira*

When my 16 year old sister first confessed to being molested, my parents were very angry and upset as well. At first it seemed they were angry with her, but probably just for keeping it from them for so long, and they seemed angry with themselves that they couldn't have prevented it from happening to her. Luckily for her, depression runs in our genetics and so when she needed antidepressants and antipsychotics, it wasn't a big issue. I did always have the underlying feeling though that it was more, simply because she was SO much worse off than the norm for our family... now that my parents know the full scope of everything though, she is receiving much better care from her doctors at least. Now that your parents know, you can get the full care that YOU need as well. heart

Might I recommend that no matter which medication you choose for PTSD, to research it first. I'm not sure if they usually give antidepressants for that, but there are lots of really awful ones out there with terrible side effects. I'd stay away from Effexor and Paxil if you can; they cause horrible weight gain and flu-like symptoms in most people, and my personal experience with Effexor... was horrible. Hearing and seeing things that weren't there. It's not a snazzy drug by any means. sweatdrop

I'm sure that in time, you will come to better terms with what happened to you and your PTSD may decrease or hopefully completely disappear. I had a similar experience happen to me, and while I still have PTSD, it at least doesn't get to me as much as it used to. Eventually you reach a point where your brain decides to let you go on with your life, although it still always is there in the back of my mind, probably acting just as a defense mechanism.

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It looks as though she's already told her parents... I suggest that when someone has a problem, read all the replies because sometimes there are updates where something has been resolved or changed. Otherwise, your post will be irrelevant and a bit late.


I'm curious how things are going so far... It's been two years!!! eek Is the PTSD being contained? It took me a few years to get the right medication and settle down.