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Ok well I've already posted a topic in this forum but there is one more question I'd like to ask.

Me and my boyfriend have been seeing eachother for a while and we've done most things other than penetrative sex.

Now I don't think sex is going to happen just yet but for when it does I have a question.

I've heard that a lot of women just cannot orgasm with penetration.
I've tried by myself with things and no I just couldn't reach climax, When my boyfriend used his hands with me It was like..my body acted as if I should be orgasming, but I didn't really feel it it was strange.
when I've tried by myself I only reached orgasm once and I think it was because the thing I was using (Handle of a mirror) was touching my clitoris slightly.
Because I always Orgasm when my clitoris is stimulated.

So I'm just worried that when/if we do have sex I won't be able to reach orgasm =/ which would severly dissapoint me, as it would be strange for him and might make him feel as if he did something wrong.

Do you think I'm just one of those women who can't do it from penetration? I'm really worried that I am =/

And If I am, what shall I do when the oppertunity for sex comes? >_<

Chances are he wasn't actually touching the clitoris while he was doing his thing... I know that if he is just going inside then you will feel good but you probable wont orgasm unless he stimulates the clitoris.

Chances are though that if it's the first time for the both of your HE'll orgasm first and begin to get soft. But you can always help yourself afterwards or have him lend you a hand. Why is he likely to 'come' first? Because he has to get excited inorder to get hard enough to put a condom on and his p***s is actually be stimulated while the condom is being put on... he's part of the way there while you have yet to be stimulated. Also if you're nervous you'll be very tight 'down there' and while the two of you are trying to get him in he's being stimulated even more while you're trying to get him in. ^.^;; yeah. I would personally say not to expect to orgasm during the actual sex if you're both virgins!

I'll tell you about my first time.

It went on for about forty minutes, neither of us orgasmed that time or the second time. The third time, he did. And pretty much every time thereafter too. ;D

I generally only orgasmed during masturbation by stimulating the clitoris - inside felt good, but it was kinda like pushing a boundary and not getting anywhere. For me it felt like I could orgasm, but I just wasn't.

The good news (for me) was that after a couple of months of having sex, I sort of learned how to orgasm solely from penetrative sex. Most women don't, I'm one of the few. Sex was enjoyable before, absolutely - and I wouldn't say it's more or less enjoyable now that I can orgasm from it. Like I said, most women don't, and before I did, my boyfriend got me off other ways (usually oral).

If you're going to have sex with your boyfriend you should talk to him about these things. Society and porn perpetuate the myth that all women come from sex. Make sure he knows that's not the case. Hell, some doctors don't even BELIEVE in the G-spot! You shouldn't be disappointed if you can't orgasm from sex - I cannot say this enough, even as a woman who can, most women can't - and a lot of women won't believe you if you say you can.

It's not frustrating for most women to not reach orgasm from sex - they know their orgasms come other ways, and these other ways are duly applied. It is only if you get no pleasure from having sex with your boyfriend - mentally or physically - that you should worry. Sex is not a chore, and it should be fun for both partners. So what if you can't orgasm from intercourse? It'll still be fun, and you can get your boyfriend to go down on you afterwards.