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 Posted: Fri Aug 29, 2008 11:47 pm
ok well here is the thing, me and my gf are planning on having sex and she has a dream of have kids but im not sure if she can handle them and i really want her dream to come true...its just she doesnt care if she gets pregnant even though we are still going through school(almost done but still) so im not sure what to do, cause she thinks she would have to leave her house if i get her pregnant and i said i would let her stay at mine if she did but....im sure my parents would give me hell aswell so im so lost on what to do
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Posted: Sat Aug 30, 2008 12:11 am
She wants a baby. But it sounds like you two have no time for a baby, no money for a baby, and no house for a baby to live in. So you two don't have a baby yet. End of story.
Seriously though, there shouldn't even be anything for you to think about here. It sounds like you two live with your parents? If she can't afford to live on her own, she can't afford a baby. You two cannot have a baby and expect your parents to be woken up in the middle of the night due to crying, pay more for the electric bill when you two turn lights on to tend to the baby in the middle of the night, watch the baby for free while you're at school, etc.
It's ok for her to want a baby as long as she knows she cannot have one right now. You two should ideally finish school, get a place of your own, get some money in the bank, and get some health insurance before you start trying for a baby. If she's mature enough to have sex, then she'll understand that. If she tries to fight with you about it, take it as a big, huge, glow in the dark, red flag telling you that she's not ready for sex and the responsibilities that come with it yet. Make sure you protection every single time until you two can give a baby everything it needs.
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Posted: Sat Aug 30, 2008 11:18 pm
LorienLlewellyn She wants a baby. But it sounds like you two have no time for a baby, no money for a baby, and no house for a baby to live in. So you two don't have a baby yet. End of story. Seriously though, there shouldn't even be anything for you to think about here. It sounds like you two live with your parents? If she can't afford to live on her own, she can't afford a baby. You two cannot have a baby and expect your parents to be woken up in the middle of the night due to crying, pay more for the electric bill when you two turn lights on to tend to the baby in the middle of the night, watch the baby for free while you're at school, etc. It's ok for her to want a baby as long as she knows she cannot have one right now. You two should ideally finish school, get a place of your own, get some money in the bank, and get some health insurance before you start trying for a baby. If she's mature enough to have sex, then she'll understand that. If she tries to fight with you about it, take it as a big, huge, glow in the dark, red flag telling you that she's not ready for sex and the responsibilities that come with it yet. Make sure you protection every single time until you two can give a baby everything it needs. Seconded. 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Sep 04, 2008 12:58 pm
Me Third. If she wants to have a baby with you to be more specific, then you and her need to talk it over and tell her how you feel. Hear her point of view and have her hear your point of view. She may want one and feel ready, but it sounds like its not her time to have one yet.
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