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 Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 9:33 am
Hey, all. My boyfriend and i are eighteen and have been sexually active for a short while. Today we were in the middle of sex when he felt the condom broke. Naturally, he pulled out immediately. He hadn't came yet, but i'm still worried. I'm on the pill but i finished them the day before we had sex. Is it possible for me to be pregnant because of the precum?
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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 1:32 pm
It is possible to get pregnant from pre-ejaculate.
What do you mean when you say you are on the pill but finished them? Do you mean you were on the pill, but then you stopped taking them? Or do you mean you had finished your active pills? If you're taking a pill every day and at the same time every day, you're pretty well protected. That protection lasts through your sugar pill week too. But if you meant you are getting off the pill altogether and have stopped taking active pills, then it would be possible for you to get pregnant now.
There's a decent chance you'll be ok, but if this happened recently (about 72 hours ago or less), then you can take Plan B if you really want to play it safe.
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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 4:53 pm
she finished her active pills as of yesterday, she should be on her period any day, and hopefully it comes.
I feel horrible about it...
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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 9:09 pm
Ok, so she took all her active pills and is now on inactive pills? If so, she's still about 98% protected even during that off week. So you guys probably don't have to worry too much. Although you can still opt for the Plan B if you want to make doubley sure.
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Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 12:43 pm
thanks. i've been on the pill for 2 years. when i went to see the planned parenthood people, they said there's really no need for worry. they wouldnt even give me the plan b.
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Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 8:32 pm
Christ, I feel like the whore here for only relying on BC. stare
Honestly, if you two are having that much of a difficulty with condoms - why even bother?
Why not try contraceptive sponges or strips/spermicidal and leave the rubber for the tires? I mean, BC is 98.9% effective, and a contraceptive sponge/strip/spermicidal will add in the extra protection.
Sex should be a stress reliever, not give you ulcers. xp
EDIT: I might sound like a b***h to you but I'm just being a realist.
If you two are that afraid of a pregnancy, that much, then you two have obviously have not discussed and agreed on the outcomes of "what if"
What if you do become pregnant. Both of you need to agree on a plan of action if you do - and you need to be reasonable - a realist.
For instance, should I ever become pregnant, I would choose abortion immediately. I've got thousands in student loans, I don't have a good relationship with my family, I don't have a good job, I don't plan on getting married or even staying in the united states. I don't want to become what my mother has become and I would want a better life for the child then what I could currently provide.
Look at all of the variables in your life when you do this and just know that the most positive outcomes hardly ever happen. No "well if we do, I'll drop out of school, we'll get an apartment, get married blah blah blah"
I'm living proof that that does not happen - and even if your were to choose that route, unless you two are rolling in the dough, and even then, you two would just be surviving and relationships like that do not last and it has a serious negative impact on the child in question.
If you two can't agree on a reasonable plan of action, if pregnancy does not at all fit into your life and you do not approve of abortion, then you two do not need to be having sex. Plain and simple. Pout, whine, stamp your feet and call me I'm a b***h all you want, but you do not need to have sex and it is very possible that the day might come that I could be saying "I told you so".
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Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 8:36 pm
Oh and Plan B should only be taken IF you FORGOT to take your BC and had unprotected sex. If you're taking BC - even if you're on your sugar pills, plan B had a 50% chance of making you seriously ill as it's double the dose of normal BC. So you'd have triple the amount of hormones in your blood stream. (Holy hell, could that make you infertile?)
I took Plan B once, before I was put on BC and I wouldn't willingly take that pill again. I literally mean it when I say I didn't leave the bathroom the whole day.
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Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 10:30 pm
we have talked about "what if". we're about to go off to college and we plan on getting married after college. Aborting our first child because we weren't ready is our last option. We also want our first child to be OUR child, which means we don't want to put them up for adoption. We HAVE talked it over in depth.
Also, the physical strains of pregnancy scare her quite a bit. It's just a scary thing and she was looking for comfort.
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Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 10:36 pm
Then perhaps a more effective/lasting form of birth control, such as the depo shot - or what I recommend, an IUD.
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 6:44 am
Trite~Elegy Then perhaps a more effective/lasting form of birth control, such as the depo shot - or what I recommend, an IUD. I thought IUD was for women who have already had a child.
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 9:06 am
Trite~Elegy Oh and Plan B should only be taken IF you FORGOT to take your BC and had unprotected sex. If you're taking BC - even if you're on your sugar pills, plan B had a 50% chance of making you seriously ill as it's double the dose of normal BC. So you'd have triple the amount of hormones in your blood stream. (Holy hell, could that make you infertile?)
I doubt it could make you infertile; nothing I have read suggested that might be possible. But it might be a good thing for girls on the pill to ask an ob-gyn in case there was a day they couldn't remember if they took their pill or something. But yeah, I wouldn't be shocked if the symptoms were more severe if someone took both a birth control pill and Plan B. Would it be worth it? I'd say only if the woman is seriously freaking out about possibly being pregnant. But if she's sure she took all the pills, there's no good reason to freak out, so. xp evanfeldkamp Trite~Elegy Then perhaps a more effective/lasting form of birth control, such as the depo shot - or what I recommend, an IUD. I thought IUD was for women who have already had a child. Many doctors are unwilling to give an IUD to a woman who has no children, since there is a small chance an IUD can cause infertility. But there are doctors out there who are willing give it to women with no children, especially if the couple never plans on having children. So if you two decide that an IUD is really something you'd like to try, you can try shopping around for a doctor who's willing to give it to you. Oddly enough, Depo is something most doctors are willing to give to anyone even though the FDA does not recommend it for teens and young women.
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Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 3:09 pm
I GOT MY PERIOD!!
blaugh
..... smile
... confused
... sad
.... crying
lol. oh, well. at least i'm not pregnant.
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Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 10:55 am
jessfeldkamp I GOT MY PERIOD!! blaugh ..... smile ... confused ... sad .... crying lol. oh, well. at least i'm not pregnant. hahaha! Well, glad you have no worries now. Sad for the last 3 smileys xd
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