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 Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 8:19 pm
ok my boyfriend is coming here in a few months. we both want to have sex for the first time. i have tried to get my mother to get me birth control but she says i should wait till i'm married. yes i understand that but this will be the first time i get to see him then he goes off to the air force. i have talked about my fears of maybe the condom leaking or breaking. he says he will just wear all 3. is that a good idea? will that just cause more problems?
i have another question, sorry. we have phone sex every now and then and he talks about taking my c**t out of it's "hood". from what he says there is a hood that my c**t is in and that with a little sucking it comes out. i'v never heard of this and i'v never really looked, or wanted to. is this true or maybe he got his story off some?
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Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 9:45 pm
1. That's great that you want hormonal birth control and condoms. If you want hormonal birth control, get it. You don't need your mother to get it for you. Call your local Planned Parenthood or Family Planning, schedule a pap, and tell them you want to talk about birth control. You can search for a Planned Parenthood near you by visiting www.plannedparenthood.org
2. Condoms are great to use in addition to whatever hormonal method the ob-gyn gives you. However, your boyfriend certainly should not be wearing three condoms at once. When you use birth control you have to follow the directions. If you do not follow the directions, your birth control will not be as effective. The directions on the condom box say to wear one at a time. Wearing more than one causes friction that will make each of them even more likely to break.
3. Yes, there is something called a clitoral hood. The clitoris and the clitoral hood will vary from woman to the next though. Some clitoral hoods retract, while others don't. Some women like to retract the clitoral hood to stimulate the clitoris, while other women find that direct stimulation is painful and prefer to stimulate their clitoris through the hood. You'll have to experiment and see what works for you.
4. It's great that you're asking questions before you have sex, but it sounds like you and your boyfriend still have a lot of research to do before you can have responsible sex. So make sure you schedule a pap, get condoms, get hormonal birth control, and learn more about your body before you two have sex. If you don't masturbate, that might be a good thing for you to try since you can learn a lot about your what you like from it. Also read threads and stickies here in the guild, and don't be afraid to ask the ob-gyn questions while you are there.
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Posted: Sun Jul 27, 2008 8:02 am
we do a lot on the phone and sometimes on the web cam. so we both know what each other like and we've talked about it a lot. i'v tried to learn a lot about it so i'll be ready. me and him have read the threads in the guild and he's done research on his own. i don't think i could really get around my mother to get birth control. i'v talked about it but i will tell her when i start having sex if she asks. maybe then she might get it, there will be problems but i'll just deal with them.
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Posted: Sun Jul 27, 2008 9:11 am
takemeawaytoparadise i don't think i could really get around my mother to get birth control. Why not?
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Posted: Sun Jul 27, 2008 1:02 pm
LorienLlewellyn takemeawaytoparadise i don't think i could really get around my mother to get birth control. Why not? i tell my mom everything and it's kinda hard without a car or money.
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Posted: Mon Jul 28, 2008 4:54 pm
takemeawaytoparadise LorienLlewellyn takemeawaytoparadise i don't think i could really get around my mother to get birth control. Why not? i tell my mom everything and it's kinda hard without a car or money. Then if you have no money and no access to get the birth control, you shouldn't be having sex. Being sexually active means being mature and responsible about it - getting the birth control you need, having the money to do it, having the time and privacy to be intimate, taking care of your bodies, and so on. If you don't have access to the things you need to get, like birth control or a doctor/gynecologist, then wait to have sex until you both are ready. Your boyfriend can also help you pay for your birth control and the condoms - the responsibility shouldn't be entirely on you.
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Posted: Sun Feb 01, 2009 8:59 am
i read this one book about two people who had sex, the guy wore two condoms just to be safe and the two condoms broke because they rubbed against each other to much. i'm not sure if its true or not but it could be.
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Posted: Sun Feb 01, 2009 10:06 am
MzKimmyy i read this one book about two people who had sex, the guy wore two condoms just to be safe and the two condoms broke because they rubbed against each other to much. i'm not sure if its true or not but it could be. It is true; I explained that in my earlier post. Wearing more than one condom creates friction that makes them all more likely to break. So always read the directions and just wear one.
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Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2009 6:45 am
LorienLlewellyn 1. That's great that you want hormonal birth control and condoms. If you want hormonal birth control, get it. You don't need your mother to get it for you. Call your local Planned Parenthood or Family Planning, schedule a pap, and tell them you want to talk about birth control. You can search for a Planned Parenthood near you by visiting www.plannedparenthood.org 2. Condoms are great to use in addition to whatever hormonal method the ob-gyn gives you. However, your boyfriend certainly should not be wearing three condoms at once. When you use birth control you have to follow the directions. If you do not follow the directions, your birth control will not be as effective. The directions on the condom box say to wear one at a time. Wearing more than one causes friction that will make each of them even more likely to break. 3. Yes, there is something called a clitoral hood. The clitoris and the clitoral hood will vary from woman to the next though. Some clitoral hoods retract, while others don't. Some women like to retract the clitoral hood to stimulate the clitoris, while other women find that direct stimulation is painful and prefer to stimulate their clitoris through the hood. You'll have to experiment and see what works for you. 4. It's great that you're asking questions before you have sex, but it sounds like you and your boyfriend still have a lot of research to do before you can have responsible sex. So make sure you schedule a pap, get condoms, get hormonal birth control, and learn more about your body before you two have sex. If you don't masturbate, that might be a good thing for you to try since you can learn a lot about your what you like from it. Also read threads and stickies here in the guild, and don't be afraid to ask the ob-gyn questions while you are there. I second that! smile
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