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 Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 9:53 am
Alright,
so... Lately I've noticed that I've actually wanted a significant other.
Usually I'm not one to want a relationship, but I really want one.
I'm fourteen years old, and I suppose I classify myself as a lesbian.
I've been told I'm rather attractive, so it shouldn't be an issue.
But since I'm young, it's not as if I can just go to clubs or such like some.
I need to know how and where I can find a girlfriend, that doesn't relate to the internet.
I desperately need to find one.
I know I must sound stupid having to post this on the internet, trying to get help from people I either barely know, or don't, but I honestly need advice.
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 11:04 am
Hey, I'm in the same situation and have been for some time. I'm nearly 16.
I've been told to look for support groups in my city, but I can't find any. Idk if you'll be able to though. I'm just holding on untill I'm in college and can meet loads more new people.
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 12:38 pm
it's not stupid to ask strangers. i mean, when you look at it, we all post our problems and get help from one another and it's easier than talking to people we do know. i mean, it's like a support group but you have no idea who's helping you. it's not stupid at all.
ok, that was long. anyways, the easiest thing to do is listen for who (if anyone) is gay at your school. don't let them know about you until you know about them. then if you hear about a lesbian that you think sounds nice or you know her, get to know her and at some point reveal that your gay too. then perhaps ask her out (if you wanna be the one to make the move). that's the easiest way to find someone at our age. and assuming your going to go to high school, it's very important that you WAIT before telling someone you heard is gay that you actually are, because so many rumors will be floating around, and if you ask out a straight girl... well, let's just say it'll prolly suck a lot.
that's my only solution, so it'll prolly take time. good luck
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 3:16 pm
Find a cute chikk that you think might be gay and that you think you might be able to have a relationship with, and get to know her and become friends with her.
If you end up having a crush on a straight chikk, don't worry about it. It happens to the best of us.
And I'm one of those people that will say 'Have the fun of dating without actually dating'. Having relationships in high school leads to drama, BS, and unnecessary stress. So, just play it cool and you'll find a chikk that will completely rock your socks!
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 6:11 pm
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Posted: Sat Jul 19, 2008 6:14 pm
No problem... If you have any more questions, you know where we are.
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Posted: Sun Aug 10, 2008 1:05 am
yeah, same issue here. it's especially hard when you're not out, hehe. but it would be good to check if your school has a GSA. and you can get to know people there. that's what i was thinking of, but there's always the worry of your parents asking you "so why do you want to stay after school?" or whatever. if your school doesn't have any LGBT clubs or events, then maybe ask friends if they know any gay groups? i guess it's hard sometimes, especially when you're in school and living at home. and lollipop_dresses is totally right, i've fallen for plenty of straight chicks, i think it kinna comes with the territory. good luck!
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