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Timmy-Kun

PostPosted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 6:21 pm


I'll be 19 in October, my girlfriend will be in December.

I have a few questions about how life "later on"

When is the right time to marry. Obviously I'm goign to spend tiem with the person, and "love" them, but there's more to that. What marriage advice can you give me?

I don't have my license, why? My grandmother owes me about $600. I have about $1600, I want to buy a car so I can practice for my license. What would be the best way to get my money, she promised to pay me back in March when I first got this job, yet she paid me back $175, then borrowed $100 more! gonk If I tell her no she calls me ungratefull and pulls a guilt trip, it's pitifull.

Also, this bit is just a tad bit more sensitive. My great-grandmother owns a house down the road. She moved up north and no one lives there. The house is paid off, her kids, and kids-kids all have houses and families. I'm the next oldest in the family (slight distant included here), do I have the right to ask to purchase the house? I mean, this will be later on, after college is over and I have money, but would it be rude of me, she is still alive, but in no condition to live there on her own, and she hasn't since last Feburary or so.

There's more, but I don't want to overwhelm you all at once. If you want to know anything more about me, feel free to ask. :]
PostPosted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 7:09 am


Ok to begin with do not rush into marriage unless you know that she is the only one you ever want to be with for the rest of your life. Marriage should never be entered into lightly. Kids now a day get married just because they can and a few years later they end up divorced. I would suggest going through a few classes to be sure that this is what the both of you really want.

As far as your Grandmother goes that is a tough one. Since I do not know either you, your grandma , now the loan situation I can not really give too much advise other than you sitting down with her and discussing the possibility of a payment plan or something along that line that will benefit the both of you.

Now with the house you do have a right to as your great grandma if you can purchase it. If she no longer lives in it and none of her immediate family wants to take over the responsibility for it then it would not hurt to ask her what she plans on doing with the house and letting her know that you are interested in purchasing the house when you are finished with college and have the money.

That is the best advice that I can give for now with out all the rest of the info. I hope it does help. If you would like to discuss it further please feel free to pm me and I will try to help you further.

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