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 Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 1:32 pm
This probably sounds weird, but theres this girl who I talk to who's my age but sure she's gay even though she's had loads of boyfriends. I've never had a boyfriends or girlfriend.
She's insisting that I'm probably not a lesbian because I 'just haven't found the right guy'. I'm not stupid. I know I don't like guys. I haven't been looking for a guy and I don't want to. Then she went on to say that it's probably because I hate guys, or don't trust them, or something. Which isn't true, as about 90% of my friends are guys, and I don't have problems with my dad, as she suggested.
She tells me that, even though I'm sure of my feelings, she thinks I should 'experiment'. The thing is, I've never once been attracted to a guy in any way, so I don't wanna just go up and kiss one to 'experiment'. And I'm not gonna try and kiss a friend who's a straight girl because personally I think that's messed up and they wouldn't want to. I probably sound like such a prude, but I don't like the idea of kissing someone I don't like or someone who I'm not dating. But this girl says I can't be sure that I'm gay unless I kiss a guy and a girl and see what I like better. Is it possible to know what you like before you've even 'experimented'?
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Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 5:42 pm
ok, well, i don't wanna sound blunt or anything, but this chick you were talking to was full of bull! i mean, i know i love girls. i never kissed a boy. why? cuz, duh! i dont' like boys! honestly, it's good for us to all look deeply in ourselves to know who we are and learn to accept it, but you don't have to play spin the bottle to find out!
no one wakes up one morning and says, "i think i wanna be hated by a large percentage of the world." so if you think your gay, i can trust you without knowing whether or not you experimented. trust your judgement (i can relate. boys are kinda... i dunno. i wouldn't WANT to kiss one)
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 8:37 am
the_forgotten_thought ok, well, i don't wanna sound blunt or anything, but this chick you were talking to was full of bull! i mean, i know i love girls. i never kissed a boy. why? cuz, duh! i dont' like boys! honestly, it's good for us to all look deeply in ourselves to know who we are and learn to accept it, but you don't have to play spin the bottle to find out! no one wakes up one morning and says, "i think i wanna be hated by a large percentage of the world." so if you think your gay, i can trust you without knowing whether or not you experimented. trust your judgement (i can relate. boys are kinda... i dunno. i wouldn't WANT to kiss one) Thanks. That was pretty much what I thought straight after she said all of that, I just wanted other opinions. Anyway, according to her, she 'turned' gay after she kissed a girl. When I met her, she had a boyfriend who she really liked. So I'm kinda doubting her anyway. confused But I'm glad you see my point. Most people I know would probably tell me 'what's wrong with kissing someone?' but it's a big deal to me, especially 'cause I've never kissed anyone yet, and I don't want to waste my first one on someone I don't even like. Btw, I love your sig. It's so true. wink
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Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 9:26 am
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 1:28 pm
Thorndrop the_forgotten_thought ok, well, i don't wanna sound blunt or anything, but this chick you were talking to was full of bull! i mean, i know i love girls. i never kissed a boy. why? cuz, duh! i dont' like boys! honestly, it's good for us to all look deeply in ourselves to know who we are and learn to accept it, but you don't have to play spin the bottle to find out! no one wakes up one morning and says, "i think i wanna be hated by a large percentage of the world." so if you think your gay, i can trust you without knowing whether or not you experimented. trust your judgement (i can relate. boys are kinda... i dunno. i wouldn't WANT to kiss one) Thanks. That was pretty much what I thought straight after she said all of that, I just wanted other opinions. Anyway, according to her, she 'turned' gay after she kissed a girl. When I met her, she had a boyfriend who she really liked. So I'm kinda doubting her anyway. confused But I'm glad you see my point. Most people I know would probably tell me 'what's wrong with kissing someone?' but it's a big deal to me, especially 'cause I've never kissed anyone yet, and I don't want to waste my first one on someone I don't even like. Btw, I love your sig. It's so true. wink wow. i've been in a relationship and never had my first kiss, so i know how important they are. or maybe we're just conservative. yeah, i know this chick who swore she was gay after she broke up with her boyfriend, only to date 2 more guys. how lame. i mean, you don't TURN gay and i know i rant about it a lot, but it's dumb how people say that. and if she was gay, she would know that it's not true. and thanks. i think it's weird to post an orientation on the siggy at all. xd
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Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 2:44 pm
the_forgotten_thought Thorndrop the_forgotten_thought ok, well, i don't wanna sound blunt or anything, but this chick you were talking to was full of bull! i mean, i know i love girls. i never kissed a boy. why? cuz, duh! i dont' like boys! honestly, it's good for us to all look deeply in ourselves to know who we are and learn to accept it, but you don't have to play spin the bottle to find out! no one wakes up one morning and says, "i think i wanna be hated by a large percentage of the world." so if you think your gay, i can trust you without knowing whether or not you experimented. trust your judgement (i can relate. boys are kinda... i dunno. i wouldn't WANT to kiss one) Thanks. That was pretty much what I thought straight after she said all of that, I just wanted other opinions. Anyway, according to her, she 'turned' gay after she kissed a girl. When I met her, she had a boyfriend who she really liked. So I'm kinda doubting her anyway. confused But I'm glad you see my point. Most people I know would probably tell me 'what's wrong with kissing someone?' but it's a big deal to me, especially 'cause I've never kissed anyone yet, and I don't want to waste my first one on someone I don't even like. Btw, I love your sig. It's so true. wink wow. i've been in a relationship and never had my first kiss, so i know how important they are. or maybe we're just conservative. yeah, i know this chick who swore she was gay after she broke up with her boyfriend, only to date 2 more guys. how lame. i mean, you don't TURN gay and i know i rant about it a lot, but it's dumb how people say that. and if she was gay, she would know that it's not true. and thanks. i think it's weird to post an orientation on the siggy at all. xd lol. I've even been told I'm a prude by my own mum. wink So yeah.. I guess it's true. I'm not all like 'I'm gonna save myself for marriage', but I just feel disgusted at the thought of kissing and doing stuff with just about anyone like most girls my age who I know do. Even if it was with girls, I wouldn't do it. It really annoys me too when people say that though after they break up with a boyfriend. And my friend actually said 'the only thing you need to worry about with kissing a straight girl (all my friends are straight apart from her, btw, and like I said, I doubt her anyway) is if you turn them gay' and I was like.. 'WTF??!!'. lol. So yeah.. And it is weird how people put that in their sig. I don't because it's not a huge deal to me, and anyway, people would probably judge me before they even speak to me if I did that. So yeah.. just my thoughts on that. wink
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Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 9:38 pm
From my experiences, i can relate to what your friend is saying.
If it wasn't for my first bf, i would never have come to the conclusion that i'm a lesbian. And from that moment on i knew i was. I DID date a few other guys following that, but that was only because of peer pressure, pressure from the guys, and other quite personal reasons which i'm not disclosing.
So. There's nothing wrong with experimenting, but it's up to you whether you feel you need to or not. If you're sure enough as it is, then cool! Don't experiment because you feel pressured to.
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 3:28 pm
Personally, I have loved girls since before I can remember. A good chunk of my childhood was nudity (before anyone thinks anything bad, I lived on a clothing-optional resort). And I looked a little more closely at the women than the men growing up.
So when I first kissed a girl, it was kinda liberating. like OMG, this is what I've been waiting for. It was one of the best feelings ever.
To get things straight, I have never called myself a lesbian. I claim to be pansexual and I am damn proud of it. I didn't have to kiss a girl to know I like it, nor a guy, nor a transsexual.
Kissing a girl does not turn anyone gay.
A girl either likes chikks or she doesn't. A guy likes other guys or he doesn't. Hello!!! Why do people refuse to realize this?
Yeah... Forgotten and I can go on really long rants about that topic ^_^
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