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Its kinda confusing and I hope I explain it properly.


Part 1: My friends says that she hates Black people, even though she is Black. She claims her mother has never told her that she loves her, she never knew her real father, and an experience with one boyfriend has put her off dating Black men. She says she does not hang with any Black people if she can help, but she's polite to them. She says if she ever had kids she wants the father to be Japanese(or any Asian) or Hispanic. And thinks it would be cuter than a Black baby. That made me mad because, she would only like my future children only because I'm her friend. She's always going on about how many guys like her, but if the are Black she never considers to date them. They have to be mixed with Black and something else. She's recently told me about a guy from Sierra Leone who is the top of all his classes, class president, etc and she's not interested only because he's African.
Part 2: She can not have a last relationship. Granted she's only 19, she says anything last more than 3 months and something ALWAYS goes wrong. She has it in her mind that EVERYBODY cheats on their partner. Even though she says that she has never cheated, she's had flings with married men and men with girlfriends and she has been cheated on. She wants a long term relationship, but doesn't see the point if people are going to cheat anyway. She doesn't know what to do to keep a man happy, or what a man to do to keep her happy.
I have at one point considered her my very best friend, told her that I love her but I feel she just pushed me away or done things that make me want to cut her out of my life. I can't hang with negative people. I also have felt that she treats her non-black friends better than me, even I have known her longer.
What can I do for her?

Pretty Much.

its a sad thing to see friends change. sometimes they even turn against you it seems, and become a completely different person then how you met them. but if that happends and its unprovoked, then you have to look out for your own. Its kinda hard but you have to understand that thats not the person that you where friends with.

I think the best thing you can do for her is leave her to think that. thats all you can do. Hopefully, through life experience, she'll have revelations that will change her convictions for the better. either that....or unfortunatley, she will grow to become Unkle Rukus from the boondocks and you can just kinda laugh at her when your older.