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 Posted: Sat Apr 12, 2008 5:56 pm
Dating for fun. What I mean by this is dating to make yourself feel better and have fun screwing around with another person with no commitment. Damn, how it burns... I love it. But I am always nice to the guys I am with...But lately I have been with these two different guys that are just not. I don't have sex, btw. I think I should just clarify that. But we do do sexual things...What I am trying to say is... I am hurting and depressed. I don't know how to stop.... I only "date" for fun to stop thinking about my problems because when I do there is no commitment or stress... But then again there is tons of stress... I am really screwed up. I wish I was not so lonely. I am a horrible christian. I am. I am just plain stupid. A loser. No one likes me... I wish I had a real friend. I typed this out because I guess I just want to read yalls thought, what you would do, or opinions. And I know I am pathetic, sorry...
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Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 6:12 pm
technically, as a christian shouldn't you not be dating for fun? or doing sexual things? i mean personally i don't care i just though that it should be mentioned. I can't tell you what i'd do but i can tell you what i did. i realized that the gratification i got was all that i was hunting. so i went after it more and more, one morning i had an epiphany it went something like "wow, people really don't like me because i use them" so i made the effort to stop. you have to truly want to let teh stress go. on the other hand the problem might be just the fact that there are two guys and thus you feel stretched between them. i say to that dump them both and buy a vibrator. then find someone new. i will however point out that my experiance with sexual indulgence is part of what brought me away from christianity.
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Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 7:02 pm
Let me clarify this first Loor:
You are not pathetic. You are not a loser.
Everybody struggles, dear. That's just satan screwing with our heads, that's his job, it's what he does. You have a bad addiction, so the best things I can recommend to you is this; firstly to pray. We humans are just that, human. We got alot of problems we need to work out. ALOT. But you've got to remember, God can fix anything. He's God, for heaven's sake. (no pun intended)
The second thing you need to do is come clean with some one, anyone. God's always gonna be there for you, but sometimes he's easier to ignore than some body down here keeping you accountable. If you really have nobody to talk to, then goodness, ask one of us. We're all christian brothers and sisters, right? Thats a part of our job too, to take care of one another.
And I do agree with Lazarus on this; take a break from boys for awhile. Simply stepping away for some breathing room can really do wonders. And if you mess up again, guess what? You're still forgiven. Yeah. Being with God's a pretty good deal, isn't it? ^^
You're not unloved Loor. Don't let the Big Bad Dude tell ya that. Just keep moving towards what really matters, so nothing else on the way does matter.
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Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 8:05 pm
Hane-kage Let me clarify this first Loor: You are not pathetic. You are not a loser. Everybody struggles, dear. That's just satan screwing with our heads, that's his job, it's what he does. You have a bad addiction, so the best things I can recommend to you is this; firstly to pray. We humans are just that, human. We got alot of problems we need to work out. ALOT. But you've got to remember, God can fix anything. He's God, for heaven's sake. (no pun intended) The second thing you need to do is come clean with some one, anyone. God's always gonna be there for you, but sometimes he's easier to ignore than some body down here keeping you accountable. If you really have nobody to talk to, then goodness, ask one of us. We're all christian brothers and sisters, right? Thats a part of our job too, to take care of one another. And I do agree with Lazarus on this; take a break from boys for awhile. Simply stepping away for some breathing room can really do wonders. And if you mess up again, guess what? You're still forgiven. Yeah. Being with God's a pretty good deal, isn't it? ^^ You're not unloved Loor. Don't let the Big Bad Dude tell ya that. Just keep moving towards what really matters, so nothing else on the way does matter. I have to agree. Having gone through the same thing and being extremely empathetic, I understand to a great degree. I'm always available to listen. Just give me buzz. Heck, I'm pretty sure anyone here is willing to listen.
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Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 12:36 pm
Lazarus The Resurected technically, as a christian shouldn't you not be dating for fun? or doing sexual things? i mean personally i don't care i just though that it should be mentioned. I can't tell you what i'd do but i can tell you what i did. i realized that the gratification i got was all that i was hunting. so i went after it more and more, one morning i had an epiphany it went something like "wow, people really don't like me because i use them" so i made the effort to stop. you have to truly want to let teh stress go. on the other hand the problem might be just the fact that there are two guys and thus you feel stretched between them. i say to that dump them both and buy a vibrator. then find someone new. i will however point out that my experiance with sexual indulgence is part of what brought me away from christianity. i aggree with u....i hate the whole lets f** n forget type of ppl.... rolleyes
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 7:18 pm
I know it has been a while since the people above me have posted but I just wanted to say thank you. ((My pc has been down)) Now, I find myself too depresed to date. I guess God solved my problem for me...? What ever...I don't know... but thanks. Yall are really encouraging. ^^ sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 7:20 am
Fox Tailed Shadow Lazarus The Resurected technically, as a christian shouldn't you not be dating for fun? or doing sexual things? i mean personally i don't care i just though that it should be mentioned. I can't tell you what i'd do but i can tell you what i did. i realized that the gratification i got was all that i was hunting. so i went after it more and more, one morning i had an epiphany it went something like "wow, people really don't like me because i use them" so i made the effort to stop. you have to truly want to let teh stress go. on the other hand the problem might be just the fact that there are two guys and thus you feel stretched between them. i say to that dump them both and buy a vibrator. then find someone new. i will however point out that my experiance with sexual indulgence is part of what brought me away from christianity. i aggree with u....i hate the whole lets f** n forget type of ppl.... rolleyes I don't they led to some of the most amusing anecdotes in my repitoire. @ Loor. NP, hun sex is one of the few areas where my sagelike wisdom is actually worth hearing.
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Posted: Sat May 24, 2008 5:56 am
[ Loor ] I know it has been a while since the people above me have posted but I just wanted to say thank you. ((My pc has been down)) Now, I find myself too depresed to date. I guess God solved my problem for me...? What ever...I don't know... but thanks. Yall are really encouraging. ^^ sweatdrop *hugs Loor* Oh I'm sorry you're feeling bad... *hugs again* Just know we're here for ya if you need us. 3nodding You can PM or post or whatever, we'll do our best to help. b^^d
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Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 11:07 am
Oh sweetie, why do you do that? sad
Dont you know you deserve better than to allow yourself to be used?
In sense, thats what they're doing...
When you have sex, you give a part of you away - and you can never get that back. Not only is promiscuity against God's wishes, but its dangerous. You can a deadly STD that will last longer than the night you spent to get it.
Please, you're not a bad Christian, nor are you a bad girl, you've made bad choices. Give yourself more credit, im sure you're a smart and beautiful young lady that deserved more heart
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Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2008 3:53 pm
*nods* I agree with Pixie.
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Posted: Tue Jul 14, 2009 4:39 pm
i think that if you want to stop becues it's making you fell uncomfortable then try takeing it ezey but if you still want to fell good about your self you can masterbiet thats what i do & i don't consitter masterbieting a sin
good luck with every thing! 
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Posted: Thu Jul 16, 2009 4:29 pm
Lord bless you and keep you, Loor...
Take up your cross and follow Him.
If you struggle, its your cross to bear for Him. Give it all over to Him. Its not easy, I know, but its well worth it.
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