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well i've known that i have hpv for like 2yrs now and i've have a few sex partners but against my best and their best interest i failed to tell them that i have hpv. its like i know that i know i'm supposed to tell them that i have it but its like i'm seriously scared to tell. i mean there isn't many ppl out there that will tell you yea lets have sex but keep in mind they are at risk of getting infected from you. although well i did tell my friend scott and daniel they still love me cause they have known me so long but i don't plan on having sex with either of them. well anyways i'm with this guy josh and have been with him for almost three months now and i told him about my friend that also has hpv which i didn't give it to her she got it after i did just by her bf and they don't talk anymore cause of other issues they had but umm i forgot to ask her if her current bf even had it. oh not to mention i told josh that she had it and he freaked out like super panicked which suddenly made me feel less braver to tell him that i have it not to mention its a possibility that he could have it/ the genital warts which funny i havent seen anything change on the outside though i know it could also be infection on the inside though i would have thought after two yrs i would have had some kind of out break on the outside on my v****a. I really like him but i just got this gut feeling if i told him i knew i had it for 2yrs he'd totally leave me though i know someone will say if he does then hes not worth being with cause he'd be so disgusted with me for keeping such a huge thing from him. this whole thing makes me feel terrible especially cause i like him so so much, i really don't know what to do .

If you're too scared to tell your partners about it, you should not be having sex. Being ready for sex means having birth control, having STD protection, knowing about fertility, being able to be honest, being able to communicate, etc. You really need to get over your fear of telling people because it's not fair to them in any way for you to keep something like that from them.

Whether he leaves or stays is up to him. Personally, if my partner told me he was diagnosed with an STD, had known about it the whole time, and just failed to mention it to me, I would be pissed like you have no idea. I highly doubt I would stay with someone if I meant so little to them that they don't feel I have a right to know about potential health risks.

Sure, if you tell people up front, some of them might not be willing to date you or sleep with you after, but so what? If they don't want you, move on. You can't have a serious relationship when you're keeping secrets like that anyway.

What is HPV anyways? Yeh, you need to tell him, I always tell in my relationships not to keep any secrets that shouldn't be secret, if you know something I need to know, then tell me. Trust me, there are guys like us out there that do care about others and he sounds like he is one of them.