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I dont know if there was already a forum for this, but this is here for people with past boyfrineds/girlfriends who absoulutly ripped there heart in two.

I guess I'll start. I've been together with this girl for 5 months now. it was great in the beggining, i liked here, she liked me, everything went so well. I always gave her whatever she wanted or asked for and i was always making her laugh and i was never mean to her. Then... about three months into our rrelationship, she starts being alot more mean alot more often. She is awlsys yelling at me about what she doesnt like about me and when i dont give her something she wants she gets even madder and wont talk to me. I tried working through this with her, and we did and we moved on. THen slowly, she slipped back and started yelling again, but this time, and this is extremely embarrising to say since im the guy, she starts to hit me. Not like a little slap or something, full blown hit across the face and stuff like that. Then its like nothing happens and she says how much she loves me. Then around valentines day, she starts hanging out with this one guy alot more, and she would even sometimes blow me off for him. So i confronted her about him and she said "Yeah, i like him alot but i'm with you." Um... what the ******** do you say to that? I mean, comon. Then she starts hanging out with him even more and starts writing him notes to, and the only reson i found that out was because my friend saw her and told me. I dont even get mad at her or anything, it ry to understand and i ask if im doing something wrong and shes like "I love you, but im gona hang out with whoever i want, why are you sucha wimp? Just take it, im gonna hang out with him so just let it go. And why dont you ever stick up for yourself either? Your always so calm and cool about everything, you need to be more aggresive and grow up, thats probably why your dad beats up on you all the time. I've tried to be nice to you , but im sick of this." That blew a hole right through my heart and you know what i said? "Okay, im gonna try harder to be better for you." Im just so confused... everyone told me i probably spoiled her and they say well you can get better than her, why are you still with her? But i think of the beggining and how happy I was and i thought i really found true love, but now... :sigh: shes just so cruel. I dont know if i should stay with her and work this out or dump her, and i have no idea what to do crying crying crying crying crying crying crying

Sorry it wass so much to read lol. Were both 15, and i know we are youn gand everything and i knew it wasnt true lov ebut... it just felt amazing.

I just dont ever want to be mean or cruel or anything to my girlfrined, i dont try to be meekish or anything, so i stay calm, cool, collective, and i try to work everything out with her, but she just keeps cutting me down, and it hurts and i dont know why shes doing it. Why doesnt she just break up with me if she doesnt like me anymore I know its not the end of the world, im sure id get over it in a month probably, but what the hell? Why does she have to do this to me?

On all accounts some people would likely think similar of me and my boyfriend, as I mood swing at him terribly and in the past have cussed him out at the drop of a hat...

Sometimes you can work through things like that, my boyfriend and I are trying...but honestly, fifteen year old relationships... and this may sound mean, but they're jokes. I know one person who is possibly going to marry the guy they've dated since they were fifteen, one. The only thing a fifteen year old's relationship is really good for is to teach them how to interact with others and how to act in relationships specifically...

Such as the being super-nice and giving her whatever she wants, that isn't always a good thing... if you won't be able to keep that up. My boyfriend would do almost everything I wanted, although sometimes he would point out a logical reason as to not doing it, and so when he first stopped giving me everything I wanted I pouted a lot.

My boyfriend got me used to him being super-nice, I do love my boyfriend a lot... but we're also older and our relationship has gone on for three years now, not a few months. Being super-nice doesn't get you respect or more love... this is what nice guys don't get. It isn't wrong to want things for yourself, or to occasionally tell the girl "No" because she'll respect you more for respecting yourself enough to want your own things.

Not to mention, nice guys are boring... being given everything you want, being kowtowed to makes you feel like your guy is your slave instead of your boyfriend... that isn't a healthy relationship.

Now I have told my boyfriend I'd never stay with a guy who told me I couldn't talk to another guy or hang out with them, however I've also told him if he wanted me to stop hanging out with a guy I would because of the situation. Just because she likes the guy doesn't mean anything, I've hung out with guys I like while dating my boyfriend.... admittedly, ones a second boyfriend now, but that's due to our "situation".

Really, you should sit down with her, tell her how you feel and try to work things out... but if she doesn't seem to want to work things out or to anything, or if you don't feel she's trying, you might as well give up on her. So many people stay in bad relationships because of how good it was in the first couple months... that isn't healthy, that isn't smart... people go through puppy love in the first couple months. Hell, puppy love is supposed to last two years if you can make it that far, so if it's gone sour in less than a year I wouldn't cling to that.