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 Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 7:31 pm
I have only been to one funeral in my life, which was several years ago. Then, just recently, my dads best friend and my great grandma died... So now I am going to two funerals in a row, one tomorrow and one the day after. My dads friend was this really great, really funny guy who loved jokes and whoopee cushions. So at his funeral we are handing out whoopee cushions and we are all going to set them off at the same time. Yes, it sounds odd, but you didn't know this guy... Anyways, It just seems so weird that these people are gone forever... so, I was wondering, just to see, how many funerals have you guys been too? Has anyone you knew died recently?
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 7:59 pm
I've only ever been to four funerals.
One was my Aunt Dorthy, but I was only 3.
Then my uncle Mel, but I was young and don't remember it well.
And then my grandpa's. That was three years ago, and I've basically blocked 2003-2006 from my memory.
And then there was my Aunt Jean, but I didn't know her well.
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 8:10 pm
I have never been to a funeral before. D:
And I hope I never go to one of someone close to me.
I would bawl my eyes out, and I don't like thinking about someone I really loved being gone forever, you know? At a funeral you're just constantly reminded of it.
And the whole whoopie-cushion at the same time thing seems kinda cool. :]
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 8:25 pm
I've only been to one, when I was like eight or nine. It was my grandfather's funeral, and he was sick for a very long time with lung cancer [he used to smoke alot], so everyone kind of saw it coming. That didn't make the funeral any easier, I'm sure, but at least it wasn't as much of a shock as it could have been. I actually don't remember much about it - just that I missed school for it and a lot of people were crying, and that I felt very awkward. I was just a kid, after all, and looking back, I doubt I really understood the concept of death.
I don't think it's odd that you guys are setting of whoopee cushions at a funeral. You need to remember this guy in the best possible way - and if that means setting off whoopee cushions, than so be it. There's no strict rule that says all funerals have to be sombre and gray. It's actually better for grieving purposes if you do it the way that person would have wanted to be remembered, you know? You get more closure that way. It's much better to say "___ would have loved to be here" as opposed to "This isn't what ___ would have wanted at all."
You sound a little nervous about going. I would suggest you refrain from wearing make-up (doesn't look good smeared) and bring tissues with you. Even if you don't need them, someone around will you - I guarantee. Don't be ashamed to cry, and don't be frightened about giving some a hug to comfort them. You're there in memory of and to say good-bye to someone who touched your life in a positive way. He (and she) deserve the benefit of your true emotion. Likewise, it's okay not to cry. Different people react in different ways, so don't think there's something wrong with you if you don't.
I would say good-luck, but that seems a little inappropriate. So I'll settle with saying that I hope the experience isn't too draining, and that we're here if you need us. ^^
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 8:44 pm
-pokes Chibi-
Actually, I'd have to agree doing something to remember them by/cheerful is really quite helpful.
I remember we had a big family dinner after my grandpa's funeral, and we sang songs and we got my dad, uncle, and cousin to tell stories about them and their club they called "The Neadles".
It was really fun, and it made it all a little easier.
:3
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 9:07 pm
My first funeral was a few days after Christmas day. 2007. A very good friend of mine/my family committed suicide a day before Christmas Eve.
The funeral was just breathtaking. His casket was placed into a glass case, which was put into the carriage with two of his white horses from the family circus in front.
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 9:22 pm
 I've never been to a funeral for someone I have known before.
I've been to two memorial services for people that I have never met, but were distantly related to me.
But, nevertheless, I've been to at least seven funerals in my life. All for people I don't know. See, I go to a Catholic school that has it's own church attached to it. And I'm an altersever, so I serve masses and weddings, and sometimes even funerals. It's weird. Before I became an alter server, I would go to mass and the priest would always say, "You know, I'm always with people at the most important times in their lives."
I thought it would be weird, to be that emotionally close to people I don't know. But, know as an alter sever, I have experienced that. I never know the people that I serve weddings or funerals for, but I become so close to them in such a short amount of time. I cry tears of joy for them at their weddings, and I cry tears of pity and sorrow for them at their loved one's funerals. Even though I'm not that religious, I don't cry for the dead. There suffering is over, and where they go after death, I don't know. I don't even know if they go somewhere. But, I'm sad for the living. It's really hard for them, they missed the departed so much.
So, when going to these funerals, don't be afraid to cry. But remember, that no matter what you believe in, the dead are away from earth and not suffering anymore. Just pray for the family or don't pray if you don't believe in praying, but offer words of encouragement. It might be hard, but it'll be okay.
It's weird though, death doesn't seem to affect me too much anymore. So strange....
I'm sorry, I did a semi-rant semi-talking for no reason thing. Sorry for writing so much. sweatdrop
Anyway, I think the whoopie-cushions are a great way to remember this man. I think that he would love it some much if he was still alive.
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 10:44 pm
I've never been to a funeral, but I know... knew... people who have died. Tyler, Faith, Kenny, my friend Peter and his whole family, Jack [the a*****e who raped me]. I didn't go to any of them since I was out of state. My friend Peter and his family died in 9-11, and I'm getting a tattoo [the same one his father had] in honour of them. <3 I've seen a dead body on the side of the road before, if that counts as seeing a dead body. o_o;;
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Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 5:43 am
I've only ever been to 1 funeral, and it was my mother's, nearly 2 years ago now.
We had her cremated...it was weird...i sat at the front my head down for the whole time, but i didn't cry...
There were so many people there...me and my dad and my brother had to stand in a line and shake everyone's hand. My old Headmaster from Primary School was there, and the Rector from the High School was there, and the librarian from the high school was there, because her grandson was the one that phoned the ambulance when my mum collapsed...
My grandmother was sitting next to me crying alot...her and my mother weren't the closest of people, nor was her and her brother, but people kept saying he was handling it badly, i dunno if he felt guilty for being a b*****d to her or not...i dunno
anyway, about a month later we got her ashes and travelled to the place her and my dad had agreed on years ago that they'd both me scattered...it was a nice place...fast flwoing river in the middle of nowhere, closest part the 2 sides met, called Randolph's Leap. There was me, my brother, my dad and my dad's mother...she cried...i really felt nothing, i dunno why...but it was nice anyway.
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Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 10:58 am
I've been to five or six funerals, maybe seven.
You know what's weird though? I hope I don't sound crazy or anything when I say this but... that guy, the whoopee cusion one... I've only heard you talk about him a few times, and I never met him but... I find it so weird that he's gone, you know? And like... I'll miss him. Even though I didn't know him.
Strange, right? o_O
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Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 11:06 am
He destroyed my life...
I've only been to one... And I am not allowed to go to any others...
I get hyper when around dead people. ninja
Now I will destroy him.
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Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 3:45 pm
Hey girls, thanks for the comments! Both funerals went well. At my dad's friends (Fransisco) funeral, we sort of snuck this cd of this crazy song that him and my dad and my uncle had made called 'The Poo Poo Ballad' in the cd player. It has Fransisco playing the guitar, My uncle singing and my dad 'playing' the whoopee cushion. So that song played right before the funeral, when everyone was sitting quietly, and we were all dying of laughter. At the end of the funeral, everyone took a whoopee cushion from the whoopee cushion boquet. Everyone who knew him well told us how happy they were that we did that, and how Fransisco would have been proud. My great grandma, or known to us as mini grandma had a nice funeral too, but it was very cold outside at the cemetery. It was strange seeing dead bodies, I didn't tell anyone of course, but I always think I see the bodies moving... weird, I know! I didn't cry at either funeral, but I did cry right after Fransisco's, but no one saw me, because I buried my face in my dad's sleeve.
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Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 4:08 pm
Aw, that was Mini Grandma? sad
I think almost everyone sees dead bodies moving.
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