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Ok, being that there is a spread of ages and genders here, I’d thought I’d get a little input on this:

I just started back to college after 12 years away. My classes are ok, taking stuff to advance my knowledge at my job.

I found out that my one Professor is the Advisor for a Medieval Fantasy Society at the Campus. So I attended a meeting to see what it was about. Definitely something I can get involved in.
First thing I noticed is that the majority of members are 18-20 years of age. I’m 31, will be 32 end of June.
That means I’m 12-14 years older then most of those there.
I was Graduating from High School or Graduated when they were STARTING Kindergarten or Grade School.
One of the members is a cute young woman whom we have a lot of similar interests. Now it’s only been a few meetings so we hardly know each other, but I’m left with wondering if I should keep myself in total check and not even let things progress in certain direction (if they would at all, I don’t know her ‘feelings’ but she sure flirts with me a lot) or should I let things go wherever they will and hope for the best.
She’s not the only one, there are other younger women I have good friendships with, but seem like the potential to go in other directions.

So, my question is as follows:

What do you think is the ‘Age Limit’ of two people getting together in a dating or romantic relationship?

*this is all ment to include that BOTH persons are of Legal Consenting Age. Not 'craddle robbing'*
pirate

I feel that if both people are 18 and older then it's ok. It all depends on how both people feel when their together and if a strong connection is there. I'm a perfect example of this question. My boyfriend is almost 8 years older than me. I met him when I was 15 at a party.(Yes! I hung out with the older crowd because the way I grew up I had to grow up fast so I was much more mature than kids my age)We never hooked up then because I was 15 and he was 22 going on 23. Then later when I was 18 we seen eachother again and started hanging out. We went fishing, played pool, watched all the football games together and eventually we started officially going out. He had his own place and I continued to live with my Mom. Then he asked me to move in with him and I did. Here I am now 25(will be 26 in Oct) and he is 32(will be 33 in July). So YES I think it's ok to date with big age gaps. I just would not date an 90 year old guy like Anna Nicole Smith. No punt intended.

The only time age matters is when they're 10, and you're 22. Well, since she's in your 20s, and you're in the 30s, it shouldn't bee a problem. I say it's not really about age, but more about where you are in life. And, since you two seem to be in the same "spot," I don't see why not! O:

Well, when I met my hubby I was 23 and he was 33. We got married one year later, when I was 24, and he was 34..... and nearly 11 years later we are still blissfully happy! (just don't worry about the maths, OK... I'm counting backwards now, so I'm really only 25!!!!)

I really don't think age is important - it's about how you get on as people.

The only thing I will say is, be careful, and remember that a girl in her early twenties will be quite flirtatious and fun, and may not mean anything by it....
I know when I was that age I just thought life was a party, and I didn't think twice about getting drunk and crashing on some blokes sofa... but I did expect a little respect and not to be taken advantage of. I know it's irresponsible, but it is how young girls think.

Finally.... GOOD LUCK!!!! Hope it works out well!

Well, it's good to know for in the future, but it seems September Wolf hit it on the head.

She's flirting her arse off. And it seems there are a few other guys there that are getting a stronger dose then me. So, it looks like this Old Bird is going to be staying that way.

Looks like I'll be locking down my 12th year soon...

Thanks for the advice and options.

pirate