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 Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 11:51 am
Ok this is embarrassing to talk about but I don't know how to get myself to orgasm. When I have sex, I like it but I don't feel anything really.. but I'm not worried about that. What I am worried about is when my bf fingers me. When we were first trying things I didn't know what to tell him about what to do because I hadn't really masturbated. But apparently he looked some stuff up online and tried some stuff and then he tried something I thought might be right but now I am pretty sure its not. I mean it does make me breathe like crazy and he says I come but it makes me feel like crazy in a bad way.. like I can barely stand it. And it almost feels like I have to pee. And I haven't told him any of this.. I know I have to and I will.. after I find out what exactly he should be doing. And I have tried "helping myself out" a few times but I cant figure it out either. So I am just really looking for any help I can get. Thanks.
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 1:47 pm
honey, i don't think he can tell you you're coming, only you can tell him that about yourself. Though a lot of women feel as if they're about to pee before/while they orgasm.
There is no right or wrong to touching, because everyone is different. If you don't like it, tell him that you think he should try something else. Only by experimenting will you know what's right for you. Reading up on it can give you loads of new ideas but in the end, you'll only find out exactly what it is that you enjoy by trying it out. My advice, try masturbating and touching yourself in different ways.
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 3:07 pm
Lauren is right, he can't tell you if you orgasmed. Only you know whether you did or not. That's because the female orgasm is just a feeling; we very rarely ejaculate anything like men do, so there is no outward sign of our orgasms.
She's also right that feeling like you have to pee is common and that there is no "right" or "wrong" way to do anything sexual. Rather than just reading up on it, guide him. Have him try different things. If something does not feel good to you, tell him so. If you're not honest, he'll never be able to learn what you like and what you don't.
Have him explore your clitoris the most since the vast majority of women orgasm from clitoral stimulation. But if that doesn't do it for you, try something else. We're not all the same.
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 12:09 pm
i dont mean this offensively
i think its weird for him to say yea you orgasmed or whatever i'd be worried if my girlfriend said "you are about to c**" lol id be freaked out sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 7:19 pm
just take your time and do what feels good no need to rush your self
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Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 10:36 am
lol to smexeh lil' fish"
But I'm actually glad you asked this. I've had the whole "feeling like you gotta' pee" before. Basically don't concentrate on orgasming. That takes all the fun out of everything, just relax. Have fun, and be safe!
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