Okay, here's the issue:
My boyfriend broke up with me because I kept flipping out over little things, I kept beating myself up and he got involved in my family drama. It's been almost a month since we broke up and I've only talked to him about a half-dozen times. He wants me to get help for my low self-esteem and negative self-talk and I'm getting the help I need.
However, there's a lot of mixed signals going on. Here they are:
1) He still wants to be my friend, even after breaking up with me.
2) He keeps giving me mixed signals as to whether or not we'll get back together or not. I've only asked him twice since we broke up. When there's vagueness, it drives me nuts. It makes me obsess over it, wanting to get a "yes" or "no".
3) He said that I can only "flirt" with him while I'm online. That's understandable, but why would he even ALLOW it at all?
4) His reasoning for why he won't say anything is because he wants me to get help for myself and not him. I don't know if that's a good excuse or not. Should he have stuck by me and helped me? I want him back, but that doesn't make me feel any better.
5) He was trying to divert me from trying to get back with him. He said I shouldn't be focusing on him and he doesn't want me missing any opportunities.
6) He still cares about me and he wants me to get help. I still really care about him and I want to fix what I broke.
True, you may think I'm being stupid for trying to get back with him. But just so you guys know, he was (and still is) the sweetest guy I know. He treats me with respect and he cares about me. Me and him had such a connection and we got along so well. I really miss him a lot and if I can have another chance, I would do things so differently and not make him regret it.
My question to you guys is:
- What do these signs mean? Should I be hopeful or should I just give up?
- What exactly should I do to get him back? When should I approach him? What should I say?
My boyfriend broke up with me because I kept flipping out over little things, I kept beating myself up and he got involved in my family drama. It's been almost a month since we broke up and I've only talked to him about a half-dozen times. He wants me to get help for my low self-esteem and negative self-talk and I'm getting the help I need.
However, there's a lot of mixed signals going on. Here they are:
1) He still wants to be my friend, even after breaking up with me.
2) He keeps giving me mixed signals as to whether or not we'll get back together or not. I've only asked him twice since we broke up. When there's vagueness, it drives me nuts. It makes me obsess over it, wanting to get a "yes" or "no".
3) He said that I can only "flirt" with him while I'm online. That's understandable, but why would he even ALLOW it at all?
4) His reasoning for why he won't say anything is because he wants me to get help for myself and not him. I don't know if that's a good excuse or not. Should he have stuck by me and helped me? I want him back, but that doesn't make me feel any better.
5) He was trying to divert me from trying to get back with him. He said I shouldn't be focusing on him and he doesn't want me missing any opportunities.
6) He still cares about me and he wants me to get help. I still really care about him and I want to fix what I broke.
True, you may think I'm being stupid for trying to get back with him. But just so you guys know, he was (and still is) the sweetest guy I know. He treats me with respect and he cares about me. Me and him had such a connection and we got along so well. I really miss him a lot and if I can have another chance, I would do things so differently and not make him regret it.
My question to you guys is:
- What do these signs mean? Should I be hopeful or should I just give up?
- What exactly should I do to get him back? When should I approach him? What should I say?
