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 Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 9:04 pm
Be it matters of the heart , school xp personal problems cheese_whine dramallama scream crying I will try to check this topic as much as possible. Why listen to me? Well I have been told im wise far beyond my years and I've been through and seen alot of crap. So if you want I can try to give you some possible pointers. ^^
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Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 4:56 pm
[Really good idea!]
Ok. So there's this guy and I went to a Nickelback concert with him in August and I have liked him to that point for....8 months. So we go to the concert and he gives me my first kiss to Far Away. Two months later, he ignores me and now he goes out with another girl. But he just called me last night to apoligize for ignoring me and not being the best frieend he could have been. And he was soo sweet about it. But I still love him and I dont know if he loves me back or if i should ust give up.
[him and his new g.f are veryyy serious. she's all ike. omg i love you forever. im spending the rest of my life with you! omg i love ou.
so i dont know if its gonna end or not. ]
i ahve nooo idea what to do in this situation. crying
I cant listen to Far Away anymore. Or ill start to cry. Isnt it horrible that I cant listen to my favorite band?
he was my best friend and now i have no idea what to do.
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Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 8:04 pm
Quote: Really good idea!] Ok. So there's this guy and I went to a Nickelback concert with him in August and I have liked him to that point for....8 months. So we go to the concert and he gives me my first kiss to Far Away. Two months later, he ignores me and now he goes out with another girl. But he just called me last night to apoligize for ignoring me and not being the best frieend he could have been. And he was soo sweet about it. But I still love him and I dont know if he loves me back or if i should ust give up. [him and his new g.f are veryyy serious. she's all ike. omg i love you forever. im spending the rest of my life with you! omg i love ou. so i dont know if its gonna end or not. ] i ahve nooo idea what to do in this situation. I cant listen to Far Away anymore. Or ill start to cry. Isnt it horrible that I cant listen to my favorite band?
Ok let me make it clear right quick that my advice is strictly what I would do, which is normally good advice ^^.
Well Sandflea I can honestly say this happened to me before. Only the guy ended up going out with my best-friend. So instead of dragging on about it I asked him whether the kiss met anything, and why he did that. He basically told me he thought it was one of those "moments". But nothing ment seriously. So I gave up on him.
I know it's crushing to lose your first kiss to a guy you never dated....BUT you had it to one of the most romantic songs ever. So good for you ^^ 3nodding Good JOB!!!
lol
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 2:56 pm
Asarus Hatsumono Quote: Really good idea!] Ok. So there's this guy and I went to a Nickelback concert with him in August and I have liked him to that point for....8 months. So we go to the concert and he gives me my first kiss to Far Away. Two months later, he ignores me and now he goes out with another girl. But he just called me last night to apoligize for ignoring me and not being the best frieend he could have been. And he was soo sweet about it. But I still love him and I dont know if he loves me back or if i should ust give up. [him and his new g.f are veryyy serious. she's all ike. omg i love you forever. im spending the rest of my life with you! omg i love ou. so i dont know if its gonna end or not. ] i ahve nooo idea what to do in this situation. I cant listen to Far Away anymore. Or ill start to cry. Isnt it horrible that I cant listen to my favorite band?
Ok let me make it clear right quick that my advice is strictly what I would do, which is normally good advice ^^.
Well Sandflea I can honestly say this happened to me before. Only the guy ended up going out with my best-friend. So instead of dragging on about it I asked him whether the kiss met anything, and why he did that. He basically told me he thought it was one of those "moments". But nothing ment seriously. So I gave up on him.
I know it's crushing to lose your first kiss to a guy you never dated....BUT you had it to one of the most romantic songs ever. So good for you ^^ 3nodding Good JOB!!!
lol Well he liked me. A lot. Thats why he wanted to go to the concert with me [I think. He was pushing for me to invite him to go] And its really hard for me to give up on one person without havin someone else to fall back on. If I want to stop liking one person, I have to find another person to like to fill the void I guess. So hard. And I don't have the courage to ask him what the kiss meant. I'm a whimp I guess. confused
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Posted: Mon Feb 25, 2008 5:23 pm
NO NO NO NO NO!!! Sandflea im sorry but I have to tell you
My best friend Ai No Princess also known as Amber has the exact same problem. She cannot let go of someone and for the life of her I have no idea why she thinks she needs a guy. You don't need a dude to fill up that void girl. Be a girl.
Things to do besides needing that fill:
Make a few new guy friends...
Become really close to them/ build up your relationship with them
Get them to trust you and you them
(Make sure your picky about these guys)
the best way to build lasting relationships is to get to know a guy and the workings of his mind first. Don't just use a back up. Someone always gets hurt in my experience.
But if you absolutely cannot let go of him. Do the same steps above just not near as persistently. Then when you feel comfortable again, just casually remind him of the kiss and ask him what all that was about?
I Hope some of this helps you.
Love ya,
Asarus
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Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 6:57 pm
Problems.
arrow The guy, he has a girlfriend who he is absolutely in love with. I talked to him last week when they were on a break and he told me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her, and I wouldn't doubt it. I told him I liked him again, I shouldn't have, but I id and he told me he just wants us to be friends for now. Now that he has a girlfriend, he dosen't talk to anyone. He barely loks at me. stare . I can't call hium beause half the time he's on the phone with his girlfriend.
arrow I have a lot of guy friends, but they are all idiots and stupid. They are just not they type of people I build a relationship with. Just friends.
arrow The rest of the guys in my school are either druggies, nasty, I don't know them, or they are already taken.
I can't find the right time to bring up the kiss though. Everytime I get close to talking about it, he either changes the subject or someone walks by and te privacy is gone.
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Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 5:48 pm
Quote: Problems. icon_arrow.gif The guy, he has a girlfriend who he is absolutely in love with. I talked to him last week when they were on a break and he told me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her, and I wouldn't doubt it. I told him I liked him again, I shouldn't have, but I id and he told me he just wants us to be friends for now. Now that he has a girlfriend, he dosen't talk to anyone. He barely loks at me. icon_stare.gif. I can't call hium beause half the time he's on the phone with his girlfriend. icon_arrow.gif I have a lot of guy friends, but they are all idiots and stupid. They are just not they type of people I build a relationship with. Just friends. icon_arrow.gif The rest of the guys in my school are either druggies, nasty, I don't know them, or they are already taken. I can't find the right time to bring up the kiss though. Everytime I get close to talking about it, he either changes the subject or someone walks by and te privacy is gone.
Him this is truly a hard case.
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Well if anything than all this just means he's not for you and neither are the other punks at your school. I don't suggest you to be like me (look outside of school) and possibly get hurt. So just enjoy being single, date around and if he has absolutely any feelings for you he might get jealous. And if he does...well then GREAT. But don't acknowledge it yet. Everything is on your terms remember?
All I can tell you now is I hope you can move on if you want to and find some one else whos even more amazing ^^.
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Posted: Wed Apr 02, 2008 4:01 pm
So at the moment I am shaking and in tears. Forgive my spelling errors if any.
So. Nicole dumped jeff and he is single now. has been for a week. happiest ive been in a while, just becauwe i thought i had achance and i dont. he just asked me if i lliked him again and i told him i did. and he dosent feel the same and he dosent want me to like him because he thinks i can od better. and i told him that in that year of liking him i fell in love and he told me this. "You don't love me. You think you do but believe me you don'y. You could do so much better than me all i would do is hurt you so much worse than i alrady have and im not gonna do that. " then i asked him why he kissed me and he said "it felt right at the time" then i asked him if he thought what would heppen after the concert and he didnt. then i tolf him "see? thats what went wrong. i thought i would end up going out with you but i didnt and i still wonder what its like to have someone love me and i thought you would make me stop wondering." and by saying that i made him feel like crap. so he dosent want me to love him and he thinks i can do better, but to me there is nobody better and until someone better does come im not going to believe that there is.
so now what?
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 8:56 pm
Oh man im so sorry chicka...and I know it hurts, trust me.
Don't wallow in misery pick yourself up. No offense but honestly whenvever I've heard a guy say "You could do better." it's because of something completely different.
This is again just what I would do...
Don't let him see you so upset.
Act calm and controlled near him...*you don't have to act like that all the time*
Have you talked to your mom about it?
I always tell my mom.
Ask your gal pals and try to figure out whats going on with him, dig a bit
Because that garb he's giving you is the response to being cornered and questioned by you. He freaked and I think that might have something to do with all this.
Remember your gut instinct is the best decisive thing in the world, follow it.
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Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 4:54 pm
Yeah, well I like another guy too. I am in the processs of getting over him, and liking a new guy. I don't really talk to my mom aboiut that kinda stuff. She dosent even know about the concert. =/
I have told all my friends and some say to get over him gradually and some say forget about him, so I;m just gonna do what I can to get over him and if its still there, then its still there and apparently it was meant to be there. I'm starting to get over it, but its still hard. There is still some little things he dosen't know, but other than that he pretty much knows anything about me. Its hard, but I'm gonna get through it.
Now what to do about the new guy..... XD
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Posted: Sun May 18, 2008 9:37 am
Lol ^^ You go girl ^^
Well work your magic and see whats up, right? Lol not to talk about myself but me and Durango been dating for almost 7MONTHS now (officially on May 24). YAY!!!
I hope things work out for you. Best of Luck and sorry haven't been on so much. Computer has been acting funny since mom added some new hardware to it.
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 2:05 pm
Asarus Hatsumono Lol ^^ You go girl ^^ Well work your magic and see whats up, right? Lol not to talk about myself but me and Durango been dating for almost 7MONTHS now (officially on May 24). YAY!!! I hope things work out for you. Best of Luck and sorry haven't been on so much. Computer has been acting funny since mom added some new hardware to it. Oh it's ok to talk about yourself!!! Congrats!!! Thats so awesome.
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Posted: Sun Jun 22, 2008 6:47 am
Might be a bit late on the call, here, but I'd might as well throw in some Kelsey advice. Yeah, so, I had a similar problem. So I liked this guy for about half a year, and I know that he liked me too until we got into an argument at the mall one day. It was fine for the next few days, until he just decides "yeah, so I'm still mad at her..." and decided we couldn't even be friends, which is quite difficult since we all hang out with the same group. But anyway, onto your problem. Don't try to get another guy in order to attempt to make you feel better. That's what I did, and the relationship lasted a week. I just wasn't ready to move on, and I still don't think I am. Just trust me, you don't want to go out with a "rebound guy" because that doesn't change how you feel about Jeff(?) and you'll just end up hurting the rebound guy. If you think you're ready to move on, then go right ahead, but this sounds like a case of limerence, and that, my friend, is difficult to get rid of.
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Posted: Mon Jun 23, 2008 1:12 pm
I just looked up that word Limerence.
And it totally fits!!!
arrow Intrusive thinking about the limerent object.
arrow Acute longing for reciprocation.
arrow Some fleeting and transient relief from unrequited limerence through vivid imagining of action by the limerent object that means reciprocation.
arrow Fear of rejection and unsettling shyness in the limerent object's presence.
arrow Intensification through adversity.
arrow Acute sensitivity to any act, thought, or condition that can be interpreted favorably, and an extraordinary ability to devise, fabricate, or invent "reasonable" explanations for why neutral actions are a sign of hidden passion in the limerent object.
arrow A general intensity of feeling that leaves other concerns in the background.
arrow A remarkable ability to emphasize what is truly admirable in the limerent object and to avoid dwelling on the negative or render it into another positive attribute.
Holy crap.
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Posted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 5:25 pm
NEW TOPIC
there is the girl i like a school and i flirt with her all the time but her parents say she can't date until the 10th grade. What should i do? should i try going with somebody else or wat because i kind of only like her.
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