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 Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 2:36 pm
Tiger of the Fire Me? Its not so much religion, politics, race, and nationality that I'm concerned with. Its the care they offer and are capable of. They could be communistic, hippie, satanists...but if they proved they were 100% capable of caring for the child, clothing it, providing them with they're own room, bed, food, hygiene, edge-a-ma-cation, I'd be fine with it. My only one need and request is that the child is taught to fluently speak another language of their choosing, and taught to play an instrument of their choosing once they are old enough. Also, that the training in a martial art (preferable Tae Kwon Do) is taken at the age of four. I believe that knowledge of another language, music, and the art of the body are all essential to keeping one healthy and intelligent beyond what is recommended. Yes, I believe that music, foreign languages, and self-defense are all important skills to learn and could be fun as well. All those things as well science/health and art are some of things that I enjoy and I think anyone one could benefit from them. Music and art is important for creativity and health and foreign languages could help in the future (especially in the job department). Now a days, self-defense is important due to all the criminals out there and that could help have someones life some day. Basic sewing skills won't hurt either, even if it's just repairing a pair of pants and sewing on a button.
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 2:55 pm
Hmmm...I smell a new thread <.<
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 5:13 pm
I would want them to share most of my values and beliefs. I would want a married couple who were be capable of caring for the child. Who would love and not abuse the child.
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 10:00 pm
WatersMoon110 I would prefer to give a child to a gay couple - both because they have the most trouble fathering a child (needing to get a donated ovum and a surrogate mother), and because I do feel that it would be easier to find a gay couple that I would trust to raise a child "the way I would want them raised".
For me, If I was giving a child up for adoption, Race and religion, political affiliation, really don't matter to me. I'd want a financially stable family who would love the child, and I would also love to give a child to another gay couple if I could (and if I already had my own child. heart ), because I totally know how them honeys would be feeling.
Admittedly however, I'd have a hard time giving my child up to a hard-line Catholic family, though. From a personal standpoint, as a former catholic, I'd rather my child be given a chance to choose their religion. You could say that because I'm giving up my child I should have no say in how they grow up, but I would sleep better at night knowing they don't feel pressure to believe in something that they don't want to believe in.
I'd have a hard time, but I might be okay with it anyway, possibly if they were gay catholics. <3
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Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2007 2:03 am
Tiger of the Fire WatersMoon110 Tiger of the Fire Me? Its not so much religion, politics, race, and nationality that I'm concerned with. Its the care they offer and are capable of. They could be communistic, hippie, satanists...but if they proved they were 100% capable of caring for the child, clothing it, providing them with they're own room, bed, food, hygiene, edge-a-ma-cation, I'd be fine with it. My only one need and request is that the child is taught to fluently speak another language of their choosing, and taught to play an instrument of their choosing once they are old enough. Also, that the training in a martial art (preferable Tae Kwon Do) is taken at the age of four. I believe that knowledge of another language, music, and the art of the body are all essential to keeping one healthy and intelligent beyond what is recommended. Wow - those are really good ideas. I want to have my child/children educated in at least one other language from a young age. And I would, of course, encourage them to learn an instrument (we all took piano lessons - but I am so not musically talented). But martial arts is a really good idea, and one I didn't think of. Especially for girls, who are somewhat more likely to need hand-to-hand combat skills for self defense. Godamnit if the last girl I ever sparred with wasn't 15...she didn't looked 15. She looked 17, could have passed for 18 if she was wearing make up. She was a second degree black belt...and gladly handed me my green belted a**...but she was SO hawt about it eek I would defiantly prefer all of that learned form a young age as well. The young mind is inquisitive, open, saturates and absorbs every thing like a sponge and retains it with greater ease. If I could, I'd teach my child to learn fluent Spanish and Korean, so i could take them to Spain where they could learn to play the Spanish guitar directly from a master, I would have them travel to Korea later, have them learn Tae Kwon Do and Tang So Do under the Korean eight month regiment. Impressive way to learn, and some wonderful life experience to be learned no doubt. Music certainley is a valuable lesson, and useful ecspecially from a young age. My parents bought me my first proper keyboard after they heard me playing movie themes I had heard on my tiny kiddy keyboard, I was able to pick them up and replay them by ear. It was a good choice on their part as I now love music and can play many instruments and have yet to find a new one I couldn't pick up very quickly. I like your idea of learning a martial art whilst you are young. Teaching strength and tone is useful for maintaining a healthy body and mind as well as learning patience and discipline. I would want them to learn one, but as I have next to no knowledge of martial arts, I could not say which. I would ask my partner on this one as I know he took martial arts when he was young and plans to take the defensive ones as part of police training.
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Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 3:15 pm
Finally! Someone who knows the existance of the concept of open adoption!
Far too many times I have seen the argumant "Don't put up for adoption! Abort or you will never see it again! BAAAAWWWWW!"
So what? The child is going to suddenly spontaniously combust the second someone adopts them? Ever heard of the mail system? The telephone? For God's sake! E-MAIL?? Unless the child has been adopted by cave dwellers in some land completly empty of any human life, there is a chance you will see the child again.
Those who use the 'You will never see it again' BS, go out more.
If I did give my child up for adoption, I wouldn't be specific in the kind of parent I would want for them. I would like it if they did have the same beliefs as me though, as for race anything is fine. They don't have to be a married couple, I'll be fine with a single person. But a definate must would be they have to take good care of the kid. You know, the things all kids need: Food, shelter, clothing, fun, love, safety and other things I would have forgoten.
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Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 1:39 pm
Dudegirl Finally! Someone who knows the existance of the concept of open adoption! Far too many times I have seen the argumant "Don't put up for adoption! Abort or you will never see it again! BAAAAWWWWW!" So what? The child is going to suddenly spontaniously combust the second someone adopts them? Ever heard of the mail system? The telephone? For God's sake! E-MAIL?? Unless the child has been adopted by cave dwellers in some land completly empty of any human life, there is a chance you will see the child again. Those who use the 'You will never see it again' BS, go out more. Yeah, open adoption is a wonderful thing. Private adoption in general is a good option, I feel. I know that if we were to get pregnant unintentionally now, I would give it up for open adoption (to a nice gay couple *wink*). I think when someone says "adoption" most people think of the adoption system, but private adoption is also an option. I think that movies like Juno will hopefully educate people a little.
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Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 11:31 pm
I can't imagine ever giving birth to a child I wouldn't raise myself. It just weirds me out. gonk
On the off chance it ever happens, I would probably choose an open adoption. At least that way I could be available for any medical questions and family history stuff.
I would probably want the person/s adopting my child to be at least a little ideologically similar to me--I'm liberal and I wouldn't want my kid raised in a superconservative home for example. I don't think religion would matter unless it impacted that. Hmm... race wouldn't matter at all, really. Neither would marital status/sexual orientation; as long as they were financially and emotionally stable enough to have a kid it would be alright with me.
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Posted: Sun Mar 30, 2008 10:21 am
Dudegirl Far too many times I have seen the argumant "Don't put up for adoption! Abort or you will never see it again! BAAAAWWWWW!" You get visitation rights after you abort a fetus?? burning_eyes Erm, no thanks... Quote: The child is going to suddenly spontaniously combust the second someone adopts them? ...Is that not supposed to happen? sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 4:00 am
Warning: the following comes from a food and sleep-deprived brain, so it may not make sense.
Private open adoption, no religious people, but they'd have to be good carers. Preferably agnostic, so that they can impart knowledge about all religions without bias, although I'd prefer any child of mine to have a value-based personality. Singing lessons plus any instrument, some form of exercise (ie martial arts or swimming) and another language would all be excellent. Race, sexual orientation and politics don't bother me. But I don't want my child raised Christian or Muslim or Jewish... or any religion with a God. So Buddhism or Wiccan might be alright. No Scientologists.
So I guess religion and a well-rounded upbringing are my points.
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