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 Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 7:49 pm
I don't know how my relationship is.
So, once upon a time (beginning of October), I started dating my friend Melissa. She's really quiet and shy, with a few likes and dislikes as mine. Neither of us drive, and we live on opposite sides of town, so we hardly get to see each other. The time we do is during school and that is short.
When we schedule time to get together, family gets in the way or some unforeseen event happens and we can't do it. We hang out at lunch, chat, and have fun. We both have trouble thinking of things to talk about and just accept it to sit next to each other and enjoy it.
Consider it, light dating.
My friend Victoria (some may remember her) is trying to get me to make a move, as in step it up to more serious dating. This is because we're both shy and yet she and my best friend have extroverted personalities and have more fun. Ours are more quiet dates. So I'm being told to step it up.
Problem is, I'm unsure of my feelings. My heart feels it as friendship witha funny title. Not serious love. I don't get many crushes. The only reason I refuse to ever break up with anyone is because I don't read minds and know if it'll hurt anyone. I'm too nervous to ask Vic to get her opinion of me, whether she'd be okay with either route.
How does one take care of a situation one is unsure of? XD
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Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 7:53 pm
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Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 8:05 pm
 ... *is amused by kori's response* xd
When BHK considers asking a girl out, he puts himself in that girls spot, takes a picture of himself, looks at it and asks himself: "Would I like to date that hot piece of a**?"; in BHK's case the answer is usually yes! mrgreen
Then he asks the said girl out on a date and spends tons of money gonk
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Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 8:10 pm
Friendship with a funny title? Not serious love?
QFE~
I was pretty much in the same position as you (with my first boyfriend), except my boyfriend wanted to take it up a slight notch and I didn't. I really didn't feel anything towards him and it felt strange to me to make our relationship more of a....."relationship". He was really shy and stuff, and respected it, though it eventually got a little too awkward to bear and we broke up. I've had one other relationship since then, and I still felt the whole "friendship with another name" thing. Unfortunately, he didn't. He wasn't able to respect my comfort zones and pressured me for sex (among other things), so we broke up. :/
Just remember that it's high school and that you probably won't end up spending the rest of your life with her. Think of it as a friendship with a title that makes you feel special?
... asidjaskdjaskldjaslkdjaskl
I've been struggling with this kind of thing for a while, so I might not be making sense. This whole issue (as it applies to my life) has led me to question my sexuality (or lack thereof) and a LOT of introspection.
If my post has made no sense, just ignore it and know that I understand how you feel.
heart D:
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Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 8:12 pm
Just take it slow. Melissa's not pushing you to go at a faster rate, right? So what if your friend is telling you to step it up? It's not her choice to make, it's yours and Melissa's. Don't compare your pace to another couple's. Every couple has its own pace.
And if you're afraid of hurting people, don't get in relationships in the first place. Getting into a relationship is basically signing a document saying that you accept the risks of it and that people (including yourself) could get hurt if things don't turn out good, especially if you're going into it without serious feelings behind it. The other person in the pair has basically signed the same agreement, so it's a mutual understanding that emotional pain could be involved. That gives you the right to break off the relationship if you find it necessary. I hope this makes sense, because I had the toughest time forming this paragraph ~.~
I hope this helps sweatdrop
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