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I know there's a lot of info out there for people who are heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, transgendered and transexual, but what about people who fall somewhere outside even those fairly broad categories?

I myself am very mildly androgynous and/or bi-gendered (I am totally not sure which at this point in time, but I'm working on working out exactly what it is I feel seeing as it's namely my boobs I hate having sometimes). I don't really know where to go to look into these things either, and was wondering what everyone else knows on the subject and I am interested in their stories as well if they have personal experiences in these areas.

I gave up trying to figure out what category I fall into, so I just consider myself as 'me'. I'm a guy that has both effeminate and masculine tendencies almost equally, however from time to time I feel much more feminine than other times, but I'm generally mentally at a 50/50 mark. I routinely wish I was born a female, and plan on getting the surgery if my male sex organs become mutilated, but otherwise I'm not bothering to go through the surgery.

Also, I'm fairly submissive in relationships, so I enjoy more dominant girls. I'm not sexually aroused by males, either, despite my enjoyment of certain kinds of items. I'm also an empathetic person, so when someone I care about is upset or in trouble, unless I block the emotional connection, I feel it as well. not to the same extent, but it does affect me. Oh, and I

However, despite my inability to figure out what categories I fall into exactly, I'm very comfortable with myself to the point of being able to cuddle and hug my gay male friends and not feeling anything about it. I mean, it's not arousing, but it's not uncomfortable either.

When I put forth the effort, I pass relatively well when I wear women's clothing. I just need to upgrade my wardrobe, learn how to shave without missing anything and/or starting to wax, and I need to learn how to hide my Adam's Apple, if possible. But that's for another thread.

I don't even bother choosing a gender anymore unless I have to. [: I can easily pass for either gender. And I love it.

A while ago in Driver's Ed, the first thing anyone said to me at all was not hello, it was "are you a girl or a guy?" I just grinned and said "who cares?"

If I remember correctly I believe there's a surgery you can get that actually stops your periods. I...uh could be wrong though sweatdrop Or I should say the "side effects" of the surgery stops your periods. I think its tieing the tubes or something so that you can't have children.

There were times when I thought I might be trans. But I'm not sure anymore... I used to be so upset about being born a girl, but now, I'm rather indifferent.
Back then, I just felt like a gay boy. But lately, I don't know, I'm starting to think that maybe I was wrong, or that maybe I'm only slightly bi-gendered, if one believes that. I would like to try dragging; I HAVE tried it before, but I had to be careful: No one in my family could know, and I don't have the correct materials. I just wore a large shirt, a sports bra (hoping it would keep them down a bit more), cargo pants, and I put my hair back under my hat. It didn't go very efficiently.

There once was a time I tried to get my friends to start calling me with gender-neutral pronouns, but that was too awkward, 'cause once you've known someone seven or ten years under a certain pronoun, it's hard to reset your mind. We DO refer to my gay male side often, though. It's like my alter persona, and whenever I act more feminine (I'm slightly butch), they call me Gecko, which is my gay male alter ego's name.

Also, I don't know, I think being in my first relationship might've helped me sort things out a bit. Like, whenever I think about being with girls, I want to be the more dominant one. I want to be the one who holds her, pulls out her chair, opens the door for her. I don't know, but I've just always wanted something like that IF it were with a girl.
But after being in a relationship for the first time with a boy, it's made me realize that whether I'm a boy or a girl, I DO enjoy him initiating the kisses, being the first one to put his arm around me, and the one to turn away from the movie first to show that it was okay to NOT watch it. However, it was still fun, because my former boyfriend (bi, like me) was quite effeminate, I actually thought he was gay when we first met. On Valentine's Day, it didn't feel strange at all that I was the one who put flowers on his seat in the morning and at lunch. We did always say that I wore the pants, and he was the one in the stilettos, skirt and apron.

I'd still like to experience a relationship with a girl someday, too, though, and perhaps what I previously described.

I don't really identify as trans- anything, but I sometimes find myself wishing that I was a bi boy. Being a gay guy would be awesome in my opinion, and then, it would be normal for me to like girls anyway. Idk, it's kind of weird, like, I would never get surgery or anything that drastic, and I.....well, I wouldn't change myself as I am now to be a boy or dress or act like one, but sometimes wish that I had been born one. Do you get it? I think I'm comfortable in my gender, I'm only shaky on my orientation. I just think being a gay boy would be really cool. And also, it's weird, every time I see a boy I know is gay, I automatically long and long to be friends with them. They are AWESOME!!! Maybe because I like effeminate guys. But seriously, it's annoying that a lot of the gay guys are really hot, aided by the fact that they are actually gay. But that means they wouldn't date me cause they're gay. It's like a weird circle....sorry if I confused you. sweatdrop Heh heh...

Well, unfortunately, you're gonna have to be mostly on your own for that one. I know, it's annoying, I wish someone could just tell me or that I'd be struck by lightning and all of a sudden know who I eant to be and who exactly I like, but it's all up to me. I'm already starting the settling process since I wrote that last post there, and I'm not depressed so much. There was a girl on here who has been going through this for a couple of years now, so I guess it takes longer for some people and shorter for others. I have to say, I get jealous sometimes of people who didn't even really have to think about it; it was just obvious to them. but we'll conquer the Pinball Syndrome in due time, no worry. 3nodding

Oh, and on a separate note, in response to the actual post, I've been thinking about dragging mildly. Like Hollister's "dudes" section. Like a stereotypical gay guy. wink

Meh. Can't say I particularly like that style. I recently found ExpressMen, which is awesome, except for the ghastly prices. Crisp, button-down dress shirts and pewtertone cufflinks with neat, clean, graphic tees and nice slacks. Sweet. Still Hollister and such, too, though.