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 Posted: Mon Oct 22, 2007 8:07 pm
As y'all probably know, I'm one of those 'Miss Independent' chicks. No guys for me, really. Not particularly interested. So now I've got a problem, which I shall copy and paste from LI 'cause I don't need to post with a mule around you girls. heart Quote: Anyway, there's this guy at work who had been my friend up until last week or so. Then he basically took me out to dinner, which I saw still as a friend thing, until the other guys (and I work at a computer tech shop; these are serious nerds) and my mom said it qualified as a date. Argh. I didn't intend it as a date. But whatever, I let it go for awhile, as the guy was going on vacation. Well, I get a call today and he asks to come over and play video games. So I'm all, 'Sure, whatever.' So he plays games for awhile, and before he goes, asks if I wanted to go see a haunted house and watch a movie, because he's been working up the courage to ask me out. I told him sure, I'd go see a movie and go to a haunted house; I love that sort of thing. Problem is, I'm not attracted to this guy at all. He's just a friend. I'm thinking that I'll go with him one a date or two, to give him a fair chance, and if nothing changes to then tell him I only like him as a friend. He's a much older guy (as in, he's almost 30 I think and I'm 19) so I think he's heard this before and it won't crush him or anything. But I'm asking advice from you LIers, since I have dated only one other guy, and that relationship lasted one date. One. Then he stopped returning Emails. So... Yeah. Any advice? Thanks.
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Posted: Mon Oct 22, 2007 10:12 pm
 You got so much love in you Atleast give him a chance, what can it really hurt? And if you don't seem to like him, just tell him.
If he's older, he'll understand a lot more than a boy you're age would, trust me, haha. You look like the songs that I've heard my whole life coming true.
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Posted: Tue Oct 23, 2007 5:22 am
You could stay friends with him, but don't lead him on if you don't like him. That will probably hurt him more and you could possibly lose a friend.
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Posted: Tue Oct 23, 2007 2:13 pm
Yeah, it's not a good idea to lead him on. His feelings will just be even more hurt. You should try to be honest with him, but not in a mean way.
Just let him know that you like to hang out with him (if you do, which I'm assuming you do, otherwise you wouldn't, right?), but that you're just:
A. not into him that way, but he's still a nice friend
OR
B. not intereted in a relationship right now.
B is the choice that I would use in your situation, because A suggests that something makes him undate-able. (I know, boy logic is weird, but that's how they translate it.)
BUT if you say B, then end up in a relationship with someone else, he could hold a grudge, and those aren't any fun. So only say B if you mean it.
Um... that's about all I can think of. XD Sorry.
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Posted: Tue Oct 23, 2007 2:43 pm
Wow, I don't know. Maybe you should tell him that you really aren't sure about the 11 year difference situation, but you'll give it a try. If it doesn't work out, hopefully you can still be friends. But if you really just don't want to try it out at all, he'll probably understand. Cause he's 30.
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Posted: Tue Oct 23, 2007 3:45 pm
All you can do is give the guy a chance.
There's no harm in that, right?
Like you said, if your feelings for him don't change...
...Then tell him you'd like to remain friends.
:D
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Posted: Wed Oct 24, 2007 12:11 pm
Sankyuu, all of you. heart I'm gonna tell him I just wanna be friends later today; when I said I wanted to talk to him he seemed to get the idea and was still cool with it, so hopefully it'll be easy enough.
He cancelled the 'dates' anyway. XD So WTFEVER. And as I felt rather nauseous about the whole thing for days now, I figure I shouldn't really go ahead with the 'try it out' thing. XD Wish me luck, though; I'll update later. heart
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Posted: Wed Oct 24, 2007 7:05 pm
 Grin Evilly says: 3nodding I agree with Plastik. If you end up not liking him, older men tend to be more understanding than people our own age. <33
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Posted: Wed Oct 24, 2007 7:45 pm
I hate it when guys think that because you hang out with them it qualifies you as a "girlfriend."
When you break the news that you're not interested in him as a partner, but are interested in him as a friend, he'll probably be an a*****e and take it the wrong way. You need to make it clear that HEY, going to the movies together isn't equivalent to a date if it's not clearly stated.
Good luck.
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Posted: Wed Oct 24, 2007 7:54 pm
  I say give him a chance... Oo;; Ah... Well... at the very least Don't give him any wrong ideas... BUt yea... let him know you are just friends, yanno? Ooh, that's such a hard position, yea... I hope things will turn out mmkayish~
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