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 Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 8:26 pm
Okay,
this might not make a lot of sense, because I'll probably accidently leave parts out. XD
So, last year I had these two friends Ashlynn and Alyssa, and I hated both of them. I had been Alyssa's "best friend" for two year (grades 6 through 7). I hated her the moment I met her, but I'm not exactly outgoing, and the friends I had before that were all angry at me (You see, Nina was my best friend, but she bullied everyday for three years, Grades 2 through 5, and in an attempt to rid my self of her I befriended Rosie and Bryanna, but Bryana didn't like Rosie, so she made us a bunch of rumors about us and said the other one did it, not fun -.-). So I stayed friends with Alyssa, and soon Ashlynn decided to be my friend. The two of them together are unbearable. Not only did they constantly do stupid things like push my binder of my desk, or steal my projects off my desk and rip them to pieces, but they were ALWAYS talking behind each other's back ("Ew... she's so fat! I hate her, BL BLAH BLAH"). So this year I decided to befriend Alex and Kaitlyn because they had actually talked to me. So we began hanging out, and slowly Alyssa and Ashlynn started hanging out with me less and less. Then Kaitlyn's best friend Michelle decided that she liked me, and that I could hang out with her and her friends at lunch. That's where I became friends with Hailey and Bethany. We're quite tight now. But now the group that I hang out with have decided that they like Kaitlyn, and not Alex. And Kaitlyn has decided that she needs to tell Alex that she hates her, because she's "affecting her popularity". So now everyday Alex comes to me crying, telling me that she doesn't want me to leave her, and Kaitlyn and my other friends are telling me that I should hang out with them, and EVERYBODY is telling me that I need a boyfriend.
GAH!
I hate school!
I hate the people in my school!
I just want to graduate!
-.- Five more year, five more year, five more year
Honestly, I don't know if it's my friend who are being mean in this situations,
or if it's just me and my bitchatude.
I don't know what to do.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 8:41 pm
Okay, I know way too much about girls. I actually understood everything you just said! What it comes down to is -> you have to choose your friends. If you still like Alex, then you shouldn't stop being friends with her because of Kaitlyn, Michelle, Hailey and Bethaney. Girls are weird in school - sometimes they randomly gang up on one person. You remember how you felt with Ashlynn and Alyssa? That's probably how Alex feels. If you don't like Alex, don't be friends with her. If you do, then I'm sure there are things you can do with her, just the two of you. You can also still be friends with the group if that's what you want. There is no rule that says you have to have one specific group of friends. Once Alex understands how you feel, she will be less clingy.
Also, tell them to STFU about a boyfriend. D:< I never understood what was so great about it, anyway. I've yet to have a boyfriend, and I'm almost nineteen. Boyfriends are not figurines to show off. >< You'll know when you are ready and there is a guy you like, not one you want as a trophy.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 8:47 pm
*Hugs*
Take a breath, darling. XD
Okay, my advice?
Drop the girls that rip up your projects and punch your binder. If someone doesn't respect your belongings, then it's for certain that they don't respect you.
Stay friends with the girls that are nice to you, even if they're having problems amongst themselves. You should never pick sides in a fight between friends, because it ends badly.
And you don't NEED a boyfriend if you don't want one, hun. Five more years of school, so you're... in eighth grade? Sorry if it sounds patronizing, but you're young. You certainly don't need a boyfriend, nor will you ever need one. You can get one if you want, but you don't need one. Understand? Besides, there's time for those silly games in high school, trust me.
It's not you, it's your friends. I used to be a lot like you. I hung out with girls who didn't respect me. So y'know, trust me when I say that they're not good for you and that you should cling to the nice friends.
For right now, you should probably try to calm down. Being stressed is no fun, especially in middle school. Maybe read a book, watch TV, or take a bubble bath? Whatever relaxes you, doll.
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Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2007 9:18 pm
Thanks ^^
I like both of your advice.
I realize now, I don't need a boyfriend.
I'll wait until I'm good and ready. :3
And now that I think about it,
I haven't been very considerate of Alex's feelings confused
And it's true,
if someone doesn't respect my stuff,
they obviously don't respect me.
Ah.
I'm so confused.
UPDATE!
Today Cassandra and Haley S. became mad at Bethany, Sarah, and Erin because they were 'ditching' them. So they went and told the gym that Erin goes to that, she wasn't eating her lunches and that they think that Bethany and Erin were telling her not to eat. -.- I hate girls.
So now their using me as a personal answering machine.
Delivering messages back and forth between them.
After about five of these stupid messages I refused continue.
Now none of them are talking to me -.- I hate my 'friends'
So I hung out with Hailey M, Michelle, and Kaitlyn,
but now Hailey M. has decided that she doesn't like Kaitlyn.
AH!
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Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2007 10:10 pm
xD What a confusing bunch of kids. That's one thing I never missed about having friends in middle school and high school - all the drama and s**t that they love to have around. If it starts stressing you out too much, tell them all where to go, honey. They're not five-year-old children anymore who tell on each other to the teacher; they're starting to be young adults and it is time they began to act like it (god I sound like a mother). Honestly. Kids these days. n.n This is why I'm becoming a professor, not a teacher.
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Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 3:47 am
Okay, just remember, it's not you, its them.
Don't ever give in to peer pressure. Never never. That always leads to bad things.
A friend is someone who you can trust. Do you trust them?
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Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 6:46 am
Pfft.
It's no wonder my best friend is a girl who I grew up with, who now lives in Hong Kong.
I never have to deal with crap like that with her, because she isn't here.
Well, I've decided to take all of your advice.
I'm going to tell them that I don't want to deal with their crap anymore.
:3
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Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 8:28 am
I say, who needs people anyway?
I only have a few friends, since I'm homeschooled. I don't have to deal with all the drama. razz
But really, if you don't like any of them, why hang out with any of them? You shouldn't consider their feelings, here, you should consider your own. And pressuring you to get a boyfriend? What's that all about? They can't make you do anything. If you don't like them, don't hang around with them.
I think boys make much better friends then girls... sometimes. mad
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