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 Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 6:44 pm
So purple penguins. I have [had] two best friends in the entire world.
One of which I had a crush on. And the other who I trusted with everything.
They are both guys.
Guy A is the one I had a crush on. Guy B is the other one, okay.
So. Guy A has been spending a lot of time with another girl. And I've been jealous. So I tell guy B. Naturally.
I've been clinging to guy B. And following him around instead of A. Because I was so hurt. And telling B everything.
And then I walked into the computer lab at school where both guys are playing Halo.
And guy A tells me we need to talk. And he tells me guy B told him how I like him and how I'm jealous of the other girl. Basically, everything I'd confessed to him.
So I confront guy B. And he tells me not to jump to conclusions. he said Guy A was lying about guy B telling me stuff. But A told me everything i told B accurately. He had to have been told.
And now I'm so completely hurt. I feel so backstabbed.
Who can you trust, when you can't even tell your best friend things?
D I S C U S S:
being friends with guys.
backstabbing friends.
how uncomfy it is when your foot falls asleep.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 6:55 pm
Aww. *Hugs*
Sometimes friends are just like that...
Maybe he (Guy B) was just trying to help, though?
I dunno, some people do seemingly bad things with good intentions.
I hope it works out okay, though, hun.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 7:01 pm
Ugh.
I hate when guys do that.
Most of my friends are guys, and I like to think that I know which ones I can trust and which ones I can't.
I love guys.
I've had guy friends skip classes just to go all the way to the University
side of my school to get me a cookie when I really wanted one.
And another one actually came into the girls bathroom, had me explain
my "problem" to him, then bribed a friend of his into driving him over
to the nearest store to get me some pads <33
I've never actually had a crush on a close friend of mine without him
actually knowing it and me knowing that he knows it.
The thing is, in my school, everybody knows who you like.
I mean, half the school knows that I have had the hugest crush on
Samuel {my sexy venezolano} since day one.
Himself included.
But nobody makes a big fuss about it.
So, if secrets spill,
But not all secrets are about crushes, and when two guys walk ahead of
you in the hallways yelling "Step aside! Step aside! Girl with PMS coming
through!" it's not a very good experience.
Or once, a guy friend of mine told another guy friend that I had had a
dream about sex {something told in strict confidence}[back in like,
eighth grade when they gave us a sexuality class with VERY graphic text books].
And people made fun of me for a looong time afterwards.
My advice {which you should probably not take sweatdrop } would be to tell
guy B that you feel backstabbed and hurt because you thought you
could trust him, and it turned out that you couldn't
Oh! and I had almost forgotten the foot part.
And old teacher of mine used to make the entire class sing Happy Birthday
to the foot that had fallen asleep, because
"Who doesn't wake up on their birthday?"
rofl rofl
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 7:05 pm
Yeah.
I had planned to tell B.
I couldn't tell him today, because I was to hurt to even look at him.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 7:10 pm
Ooooh. *hugs*
I'm sort of lucky in that way. I trust my best friend with everything; there are very few things I would hesitate in telling her. I hope she feels the same way, but you just never know sometimes...
I've never really had any guy friends. There used to be guys I'd chat with in class, but I'm generally very girly, so I imagine most guys don't feel comfortable around me. And, I'm uncomfortable around any guy who I feel might have the slightest ulterior motive. So, no guy friends for Chibi. I generally tend to "click" better with girls, anyway.
I have had backstabbing friends, unfortunately. I've also had friends who just stopped being friends with me, friends who have had friends who made fun of me or yelled at me, and friends whose parents didn't care for me. Not to mention, people get mad at me for getting something right, people I thought were friends insult me/mock me/tease me, and have friends who hated everything I wanted to do.
I remember one time in grade nine, I was sitting with this girl I knew in science class, coloring planets as she cut them out (it was for a science project). I thought I was part of their group... but one of the girl's best friends, a guy who has always been stuck up, came over and yelled at me, telling me to go find my own group because I wasn't doing anything. sad I was humiliated and hurt, and I meekly protested that I had helped color the planets. Eventually, he chased me away.
Another time, this girl who lived across the road from me and I were best friends growing up. I stayed over at her house one time, and, because we were best friends for about ten years, I felt comfortable enough to open her fridge door to look for something to eat when her mom asked me what I wanted. Her mother proceeded to yell at me because "company shouldn't open up the refridgerator without asking permission; it's super impolite." She made me feel like an idiot. The next time I stayed the night at her house, I was so uncomfortable from that incident that early the next morning I lied and said I left my hairbrush at my house, then practically ran home.
This same mother was also the one who humiliated me concerning a hole in her wall. When I was like seven she had a small hole in the wall behind the door. While waiting for my friend, I used to stick my finger in the wall, making it bigger (give me a break, I was seven). She called my house, made me come over to her house, and in front of my friend, my friend's brother, and my friend's father, demanded to know if I had done it. When I, in tears, softly confessed, she gave me this long rant about how impolite I had been, threatened to take my friend away, and ordered me out of her house.
I had bad experiences with friends in elementary and middle school. neutral By mid-high school, I resigned myself to being alone, at least IRL. It worked out much better - even if it is a bit lonely.
P.S. - I like the tingly feeling of your foot falling asleep. xD
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 7:13 pm
Wow, that sucks, but I don't have any advice because at my school it is like boys over here girls over here. I dunno I don't interact with guys that much. But that's okay because all the boys at my school are immature weirdos.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 7:15 pm
  Wow, you can tell both of them they're being asses, mmkay? My closest friend in Hawaii He's a dude I think this year, we've gotten into one fight where I got mad at him, so yea ... But we're cool, yea... I don't know if anyone has really back stabbed me, yanno? I've never been deeply betrayed, yanno... =/ Just tell them you're hurt, and distance yourself a little, maybe not confiding too much in just one again... like with secrets, or feelings regarding one another... Not sure, yanno...
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 10:52 pm
 You got so much love in you I mean. Maybe he thought he could help out the situation? Sometimes trying to tell someone something is really hard. So the friend decides to step in and maybe make some peace.
It happens a lot actually. I have two guy friends, and I like one of them, and the second guy wanted to know if I wanted help from him talking to "Guy A" (haha.)
But I want to be able to talk to him myself. But sometimes friends feel the need to help other friends, even if they don't realize it might hurt something.
It might just be ignorance. I'm sure he wasn't backstabbing you. Maybe you're just exaggerating? :/ You look like the songs that I've heard my whole life coming true.
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