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 Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2005 9:33 am
Ahhh yes this movie. I saw it.... it was errie like looking into the future.... the only difference is that unlike our main character I would not be embarassed of being a virgin... I would gloat in it. xd and... well I would still be a virgin at the end of the movie. xp But funny funny movie.
Actually I do not think that the main character was Asexual. I believe he was more of a indavidual who was scared to start having sex. Not an indavidual who lacks the desire. If you remember.... well if you watched the movie you will remember he said that he just thought sex would happen to him. The only difference was as time went on and sex never happened he stopped trying. He was no indifferent to the subject. The main character wanted to lose his virginity he was just scared and unsure of how to.
Your fear however... yeah that could be a problem. Asexuality is misunderstood in our world because it is a relavitvly new idea. Some of the lines in that movie have been used on me plenty of times.... before the movie came out or the idea was concived. I am afraid that people will see asexuals as "ackward" indaviduals who just never suceeded in having sex. You would have to watch the movie to understand. I am also afraid that after seeing this movie many people will see an adult who is a virgin.... and not a priest or something like that.... as someone with a problem that needs to be fixed. God I hope that something like that does not come to pass.
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Posted: Sun Jan 15, 2006 12:24 am
>___< EEEVVIIILLL...
Ahem. Well, while I don't appreciate the world's apparent opinion of asexuals, and also of the equation : asexual = virgin = square (NOT TRUE.), I'd also like to say that asexuality isn't that well known. And also, the only people who would perceive virginity and dorkiness as expected asexual traits are thick, and personally, I don't care about what thick people think about me.
But that's just me. <3
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 4:19 am
I have not seen this movie but I have heard a summary of the plot and seen previews. I do not like the way that virginity is portrayed as something to be ashamed and embarrased about, and to be honest I have never liked any of the films where the point of it is for someone to get laid. Most of the audience wouldn't know about Asexuality however, so I can't feel too offended. I just wish there were more positive attitudes to people choosing not ot have sex.
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Posted: Sat Feb 11, 2006 12:10 pm
I loved that movie. It didn't really seem to be dealing with asexuality, though, and it didn't offend me at all that the point was for the main character to get laid.
I mean, he didn't choose not to have sex really. He was scared of it. The movie was about dealing with that fear and developing a healthy sexual appetite, which most people need.
Sure, a common stereotype for asexuals is that they're just squares who need to get laid, but that doesn't mean that it's not true for some people. Has anyone ever considered that some people really do use asexuality to hide some unhealthy fear of sex?
I'm sure plenty of people who claim asexuality are being perfectly honest with and have a very balanced life, but getting worked up over a movie that was in no way attacking your lifestyle seems a little strange to me, like maybe you're trying a little too hard more so you can convince yourself of something than to fight prejudice.
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Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 2:04 am
You bring up some interesting points, and I'd like to go into them more, but for now my brain is a little fried and I am just going to mention the thing that stood out to me the most.
So what if someone is afraid of sex? Even if that is the case, why is that so terribly unhealthy? Personally I don't see a problem with it, unless it is causing distress for said person.
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Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 10:04 am
himitsudane You bring up some interesting points, and I'd like to go into them more, but for now my brain is a little fried and I am just going to mention the thing that stood out to me the most. So what if someone is afraid of sex? Even if that is the case, why is that so terribly unhealthy? Personally I don't see a problem with it, unless it is causing distress for said person. Agreed. I mean, being too eager with it can lead to STDs and pregnancy, which can be hard to handle. So, in some ways it is for the better, although it is nothing to be afraid of.
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Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 3:42 pm
A fear of something that isn't really life threatening is never healthy. STDs do happen, but not as commonly as Sex ED makes it seem, I'm sure. The healthy thing to do is deal with those fears so you can go on living a normal life.
Like with the movie. He had no life(i.e. He enjoyed making egg salad xp ) and was much happier after having sex.
Besides, it wasn't the sex that he was necessarily afraid of. It was more the inexperience and fear of rejection.
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Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2006 3:28 am
I don't know, "no life" is somewhat subjective. The movie took it a little far for the sake of humor by making him a total loser with no contribution to society, but someone can be afraid of sex and still lead a productive (haha, no pun intended wink ) life. So you enjoy making egg salad... hey, whatever floats your boat, you know? xp
Fear of sex could be a problem in a relationship (as the movie sorta showed), but if two people are married and neither wants to have sex, I don't see anything wrong.
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Posted: Mon Feb 20, 2006 1:46 am
So I finally saw the movie.
To me, it wasn't bad. I mean, I kinda have an attitude towards life that if it isn't grossly offending/misrepresenting, then I'm pretty tolerant. I'm very indifferent to a lot of things.
And there was that point in the movie where all of his work buddies kinda had this realization that sex wasn't everything, and if I recall correctly, at one point they were almost envious of Steve's character because they were complaining about how sex complicated things (I think... I'm fuzzy on the details... it's been awhile since I saw it).
Anyway, I don't think this movie casts any unfavorable light on virgins/asexuals that wasn't already there... I mean, people who are already jerks towards those who haven't/don't want sex are going to still be jerks, but on the flipside, I don't think this movie is going to create any NEW adversaries.
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Posted: Sun Apr 23, 2006 3:35 am
Elitist Pretzel Eater A fear of something that isn't really life threatening is never healthy. STDs do happen, but not as commonly as Sex ED makes it seem, I'm sure. The healthy thing to do is deal with those fears so you can go on living a normal life.
Anyway, I don't see the point of fearing death, either. It's hard not to for most people though, so I can forgive them that.
I plan to keep my fears, thank you very much. My fear of sex (not born of fear of STDs) just backs up how disgusting the idea of it is to me and my fear of crowds gives me reason to be anti-social. I wouldn't be as happy if I didn't have those fears.
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Posted: Sun Apr 23, 2006 10:27 am
Fears are a natural part of human beings. for most it is a part of who they are. Psychiatrists are starting to classify personality traits as "conditions" or "disorders." It's plain ridiculous.
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