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 Posted: Tue Sep 25, 2007 7:07 pm
THE SCENARIO: In a little over a week you'll have know this person for three years. this person is without a doubt one of the top five most influential people in your life, and always will be, no matter how many people you meet this one person will be right there in your heart. now say this person moved away. there had been plans entailing this move (you'd even discussed it and made deals and agreements about what would come of it), but when they did leave, there was no formal goodbye and you don't feel like you left on the best of terms. say the last time you really truly saw this person pre-move they told you to ******** off. now you got past the silence eventually and when they came to visit for a whole five minutes you didn't end up killing them. but in that time you also didn't touch them, really talk to them, or anything. and then they were gone again before you had your emotions under control (ie: you had a twisted mix of the last night you really spent hanging out and the last few times you really saw this person jumbled and confused). you eventually worked through most of this and were able to talk about what ifs and why nots and the tatters of your relation/friendship were begining to fix themselves. you could have fun and tell each other everything again and although things were strained by the unresolved issues of the moment, that didn't change the fact that you were once again being how you were supposed to be. now say you got grounded and this friend deleted you from myspace and ignored you on gaia, and there was really no other way to contact this person.
THE QUESTION: what would you do being put in this situation? would you walk away or fight for that friend? explain please.
(and if you can shed light on the behavior of this friend, please tell me)
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Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 10:50 pm
well, let me ask you one thing before i continue... is that person... does that person... or did that person ever feel the same way you have?
like loved ya as much as you loved them?
cause if thats the case, and they DID love and care about you... then they must be going through the same emotional thing that your going through...
it took time for you to figure it out right? well maybe it took them some time as well...
let me tell you one thing... from personal experience...
i lost a friend of mine... hadnt talked to her for like.... 6 years... cause of the distance and how we both were changing into different people...
i kept telling myself that someday i will call her... see whats up... [we left on really horrible terms...]
i kept saying "someday"..... 6 years passed... and finally i got her number..
i called her... and to my surprise she instantly knew that it was me....
this is a friend of mine... who i've known since 1st grade... one of the closest people to my heart...... problems that we had... seemed nothing compared to how much joy it was, to just to sit there for the next hour and talk to her.......
always remember....
if they were worth your time... and your energy at any point of your life... if they were there for you... even ONCE... then its enough of a right upon you, to go find them when they leave...
dont let them run... dont let them hid...
and in the end... even if it turns out that they DIDNT want to see you... just remember the good times you had... and remember that, YOU did your part in trying to save your friendship.... and thats something no one can deny ^___^
sry... part of this hit me really had... a friend of mine... died a couple of years back... haha... now that i think about it... the last time we talked... he cussed me out like crazy... but yet... in the end... when he was dying... his mom said that he mentioned the names of some of his friends whom he wanted to personally invite to his funeral [he had cancer and it was in the last stages].... he mentioned me above all people.......
haha, again.. sry for the huge um... book? lol
its just my opinion XD
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Posted: Sun Sep 30, 2007 5:11 pm
ShadowPrinceRKO well, let me ask you one thing before i continue... is that person... does that person... or did that person ever feel the same way you have? like loved ya as much as you loved them? cause if thats the case, and they DID love and care about you... then they must be going through the same emotional thing that your going through... it took time for you to figure it out right? well maybe it took them some time as well... let me tell you one thing... from personal experience... i lost a friend of mine... hadnt talked to her for like.... 6 years... cause of the distance and how we both were changing into different people... i kept telling myself that someday i will call her... see whats up... [we left on really horrible terms...] i kept saying "someday"..... 6 years passed... and finally i got her number.. i called her... and to my surprise she instantly knew that it was me.... this is a friend of mine... who i've known since 1st grade... one of the closest people to my heart...... problems that we had... seemed nothing compared to how much joy it was, to just to sit there for the next hour and talk to her....... always remember.... if they were worth your time... and your energy at any point of your life... if they were there for you... even ONCE... then its enough of a right upon you, to go find them when they leave... dont let them run... dont let them hid... and in the end... even if it turns out that they DIDNT want to see you... just remember the good times you had... and remember that, YOU did your part in trying to save your friendship.... and thats something no one can deny ^___^ sry... part of this hit me really had... a friend of mine... died a couple of years back... haha... now that i think about it... the last time we talked... he cussed me out like crazy... but yet... in the end... when he was dying... his mom said that he mentioned the names of some of his friends whom he wanted to personally invite to his funeral [he had cancer and it was in the last stages].... he mentioned me above all people....... haha, again.. sry for the huge um... book? lol its just my opinion XD thank you and it wasn't too long, it was perfect and i really think it'll help me. biggrin
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Posted: Tue Oct 02, 2007 5:55 am
anike6 ShadowPrinceRKO well, let me ask you one thing before i continue... is that person... does that person... or did that person ever feel the same way you have? like loved ya as much as you loved them? cause if thats the case, and they DID love and care about you... then they must be going through the same emotional thing that your going through... it took time for you to figure it out right? well maybe it took them some time as well... let me tell you one thing... from personal experience... i lost a friend of mine... hadnt talked to her for like.... 6 years... cause of the distance and how we both were changing into different people... i kept telling myself that someday i will call her... see whats up... [we left on really horrible terms...] i kept saying "someday"..... 6 years passed... and finally i got her number.. i called her... and to my surprise she instantly knew that it was me.... this is a friend of mine... who i've known since 1st grade... one of the closest people to my heart...... problems that we had... seemed nothing compared to how much joy it was, to just to sit there for the next hour and talk to her....... always remember.... if they were worth your time... and your energy at any point of your life... if they were there for you... even ONCE... then its enough of a right upon you, to go find them when they leave... dont let them run... dont let them hid... and in the end... even if it turns out that they DIDNT want to see you... just remember the good times you had... and remember that, YOU did your part in trying to save your friendship.... and thats something no one can deny ^___^ sry... part of this hit me really had... a friend of mine... died a couple of years back... haha... now that i think about it... the last time we talked... he cussed me out like crazy... but yet... in the end... when he was dying... his mom said that he mentioned the names of some of his friends whom he wanted to personally invite to his funeral [he had cancer and it was in the last stages].... he mentioned me above all people....... haha, again.. sry for the huge um... book? lol its just my opinion XD thank you and it wasn't too long, it was perfect and i really think it'll help me. biggrin haha, your welcome... but helping out one another is just basic human rights, right? lol so no need for "thanks you's" XD im glad i could help you in some small way... let me know how it works out biggrin i wish you the best of luck ^__^
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Posted: Mon Jun 22, 2009 12:05 am
if they ignoring you just send them a mesige saying how u feel and that you still want to be frinds with them if they still ignore you move on
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Posted: Fri Jul 03, 2009 8:45 am
I would leave him alone for a little while let him work things out, and let yourself work things out. Then, after that's done, tell him how you feel. Tell him that your hurt because you don't know what you did wrong and why they deleted and ignored you. If they don't respond, send them a long apology saying: I'm so sorry for whatever I did, all I want is for you and me to be friends. Your very special to me and I don't like it that your ignoring me. I love you(as a friend(if you don't want them to know you really love them)) and I need you to comfort me right now. I let you have your time to figure things out, now can we please be friends again? I think I know how you feel, I am sorry for your loss, but you see, this guy I've been IN LOVE with for the past 4 years isn't in my life anymore. I've told him many times I loved him. One way or another. All he's said is: Stop embarrassing me, stop stalking me(which I had never stalked him mad ) stop all of it and just leave me alone. I don't like you, I don't like you the slightest bit. That hurt me more than anyone could ever imagine. It hurt me more than a knife killing me. Because, in that moment that he said that, my heart broke. I was more than dead, I was dead and reborn, with no reason to life. I have truly let go of my self and let Jesus take control of my life. Jesus is now the one that controls my life, I do not want to have feeling, and I don't. Know why it hurt me so much? About a year and a half ago, that guy and I were best friends. He was a better friend to me than all of the girls there. I don't know why I let him slip away from me. I don't know why as soon as he found out I "liked" him he drifted into a cloud of hate and sent that cloud over on me. I let him slip away and now he is going to a different high school than me next year. I let him go away from me and I won't let you do that with this guy. If he is dear, and if you truly LOVE him, you will not let happen what I let happen with Max. For you see, you will regret hating him as much as I regret hating Max. That's what happens over time. You let love slip away and let hate take over.
Sorry this was so long,
Shadowingthedarkforest101
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