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i'm only 16. but i've seen all of that stuff already. My advice, is to stay away from it. I like having friends. but if the only friends i can have are ones who will try and get me to drink, or have sex, then i dont need them. Perhaps you should take this approach as well. Also, pray that God will provide with a good friend who will keep you company.

hmmm...i can understand where you are. i'm in my 4th year of college now and while now i'm at a Christian private school my first three yrs were in a state university, so i've seen a lot of what all goes on there. i know some of the self-proclaimed Christians just fall into some stuff and have never gotten out of it, even i have fallen into some of the things that the 'college experience' has to offer, and believe me it isn't worth it and it just pulls you away from God. (side track) so now still on the path of trying to get out of those things even though i still tend to slip up more then i succeed. anyways, College is a great place to make friends, i'd be selective as to who you'd call your best of the best friends and all b/c in my opinion it is good to have a close circle of friends who believe the same way you do...or at least close enough that it doesn't matter...since there are always slight differences due to doctrine and all that. if your having a hard time finding any friends ask God to bring you into an opportunity to meet one. i'd try looking at the BCM or the Campus Crusades, that's a good place to find Christian friends at and to find good encouragement at...plus if you find someone who's had a class before it's always nice to have someone willing to help if you need it. unfortunately when going to any college, even a Christian college, you'll find the world living, or more precisely dieing, around you. but don't let that stop you from living your life for God and don't stop looking for chances to share who God is with ppl. college is a big time of decisions and learning who you are. if you ever have any questions or just wanna chat then feel free to PM me.

remember God is always there beside you, keeping you safe and giving you strength

you seem to be removing yourself from your community (aperently of only students that want to have sex and get drunk)

open up a bit there silly
you don't have to do what your friends do
and there is nothing wrong with drinking and having sex...doesn't mix too well but whatever

you may not know it yet but there are good people out there even if they all don't share your values

college is all about getting out of the box and seeing the world for what it really is (results may very)

perhaps it would be best not to use people as a moral punching bag
they really don't want to hear it
i think that is why you are getting so many not so good responses

ya hear what im saying?

but there is stuff wrong with having sex if its outside of marriage. it's called adultery and is a sin







also drinking to much is not a good idea either. getting drunk is a sin within itself b/c it lead to not being able to have self control which is something we are instructed to have.







having sex before marriage is a very bad idea so i think she has the right idea as to stay away from ppl who are doing that. same thing with drinking, sure it's ok every now and again (although i myself don't do it) as long as your don't have to much, and by that i mean at most, a drink or two with dinner,...you know the whole drinking responsibly thing... but once you get drunk you no longer have control over yourself. i'm not saying to segregate yourself from everybody, but you must be careful with who you spend most of your time around, we can learn things from non Christians but we must not forget the importance of being around fellow Christians.ppl who don't know God can still find truth that comes from him, but it doesn't mean that they've learned who God is, they are still non-christians. besides if don't allow ourselves to become friends with the unsaved then how are we supposed to win them to Christ?

College is a wonderful time of life and yet so full of confusion as well. I've been out of college now for about 5 years and I look back on it as so far, THE most pivotal point in my life.

Before college I had an understanding of Jesus and never doubted what he had done for me. I loved him but it wasn't a deep and developed love. I saw little benefit in reading my Bible and my prayers were very one sided meaning there was no praise involved, simply me coming to him in desparation over this and that. I moved away from home to go to College and I had no Christian friends. I had a huge variety of friends, from people who believed in Wicka and astrology, gays and lesbians, people from all over the world...it was really cool and there is definitely some sort of a sensation you get when all of a sudden you're hanging out with such diversity. Its almost a rush! I prided myself on my ability to talk and hang out with all sorts of people but honestly, over time they did rub off on me in a not so positive way. I ended up dating girls who didn't believe in God, messed around sexually in ways I ought not have done and really just kind of moved away from my values very slightly and without my noticing it.

I'm not telling you that to scare you, simply that fellowship with other believers is always important as is your own personal study of Scripture and prayer with our heavenly Dad! This is the first time in your life where you get to decide for yourelf what you want to do, where you want to go, who you want to be around, how you identify yourself etc. It all rests on your shoulders now and in an environment where everybody is experimenting with the things this life has to offer you, be sure your first priority is building a solid foundation in the Lord.

Pray for God to provide you fellowship, a good church home away from home, good friends, a deepening relationship with Him, discipline in prayer and study etc. I'll be praying for you as well, and hey if all else fails you have fellowship here! Never hesitate to ask your brothers and sisters here in Gaia!

do you really have nothing more to add than "because I/the Bible says so"
do you have such little faith that you really think someone becomes just like the people they're around? She doen't have to do what her friends do (doen't require much brain power to figure that one out)

adultery and sin are nothing more than BS social control
think about it for a few
how do you get people to do what you want
fear is a good start right
fear all the stuff you don't like ie sin
and remember way back when there was a time when property only pased from father to son (I blame ___you know the drill____)
so how do you make sure the son was of the father
one way is social control documents
another is FGC (look it up)
think about it