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 Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2007 4:42 pm
well it started in 5th grade and this chick not sying names. Is all acting a slut bringing condoms, thongs, etc.
It was nasty for me at that age.she started showing her a** to the guys and at recess went to the back with the guys to dance with the pole.She always wears a sweater why cause she weared a bra only, sometimes with those trasperent, and occasionly she wored nothing. Nasty...
Well she told everyone she was going to have sex with this guy. In the same time this guy was harrassing me thanks to her u know she made them think like that. I then solved by talking to a counseler i also felt worried about her carenessless incase she gets pregnant or ect.
I told the teacher she was a cool teacher so there u have it she got in so much trouble. (I WAS TEN FOR YOUR INFO!!!)
That she hates me now and i am in 8th grade.
DID I REALLY DO THE RIGHT THING OR WAS NONE OF MY BUSINESS? eek
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Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2007 7:29 pm
....At such an age i suppose you wouldn't really know what else to do....If you were older you would realize that its her body and if its something she enjoys then let her be - because by then it wouldn't really be your business.
But you were a kid, it hardly matters now, another year and you'll be in high school, hopefully you'll get a lot more used to all the sex and people, and hopefully you wont have to deal with the girl...i do think you need to...maybe get a little more comfortable with the idea that sex is something completely natural, and all sorts of people loose it and do it at all different ages, and maybe...realize there are a lot of different types of peolpe - some you wont want to interact with.
But it doesnt matter, you'll more than likely never interact with the people you went to school with after you graduate anyways.
Stay away from that girl though, i imagine she hates your guts for what you did.
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Posted: Thu Sep 06, 2007 9:25 am
I agree with Evil. I would say that when you were ten, the way you reacted to her was appropriate. Now that you're older, I would say it's starting to get none of your business though. Some of your peers are going to wear revealing clothes and have sex soon, if they aren't already. If that's what they want to do, then it is their business, not ours. People are ready at all different ages.
If this girl has a problem with you now, so what? Don't worry about her. Let her sit over there and be angry for getting in trouble years ago. It sounds like she's not your friend, so just ignore her. If she gives you any major problems, then you can talk to a teacher about it.
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Posted: Thu Sep 06, 2007 3:04 pm
THankx no she hates all my friends guts since we were all in that class and that was her worst year....................
thanx any way i was just cofused
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Posted: Thu Sep 06, 2007 3:05 pm
in high school well of course is different but compared to elementry. what has the world come to now.... sweatdrop
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Posted: Thu Sep 06, 2007 5:28 pm
The world hasn't come to anything. It has always been this way.
People like sex, if you were living say in the 1500's a girl to be out having sex is normal. If she was a peasant she had to make a living somehow.
and if you were royalty your parents would have married you off by 14 or so, its natural.
The world hasnt changed at all, there is just as much murder, crime, rape and sex in it as there ever was. We just think theres more because of some statistics being false and the media - and you cant overly blame the media, because everyone needs a living and its their job. They ahve to have something to report on, right?
You're mother - i mean no offence- has probably sheltered you a little, and brought you up to....scorn sex and..save it fo marriage or whatever, thats fine...but as i said before just get used to the idea that....people and things really arent always like that.
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Posted: Thu Sep 06, 2007 6:39 pm
Evil_Dreamer666 You're mother - i mean no offence- has probably sheltered you a little, and brought you up to....scorn sex and..save it fo marriage or whatever, thats fine...but as i said before just get used to the idea that....people and things really arent always like that. You know, that statement seems a bit insensitive to the fact that sex really is a mature matter. neutral Sure, some girls hit puberty at 10, but that certainly doesn't mean that they're ready to have sex, despite their capability to do so. I don't think our culture should be so accepting of sex encouraged at such a young age. I'm not talking about moral corruption or similar BS; sex can be a severe health risk, especially in underdeveloped bodies. More importantly, it can be a health risk to a potential child, if a teenager lacks the means to care for the child (let alone birth it). I would have more scorn for the mother of the 10-year-old stripper than for the OP's.
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Posted: Thu Sep 06, 2007 8:02 pm
I never said that is wasn't. But it happens, and thats a part of life. It happens all the time. Yes, people do need to really think about it because it isnt exactly something for immature people.
I never said what the girl was doing was right, but she probably wasnt even having sex. She probably just wanted to sound cool since she felt out of place. She wanted attention - she probably has a bad home life and grew up around it.
Mely did what she thought was right, i've already addressed that. I just answered her question as to what the world was coming to - the answer being its not coming to anything.If she wishes to disregard anything ive said because she has the same beliefs then its her choice. However It's always been like that, people have always had sex - at whatever age. It doesnt necessarily mean people support it ir encourage it. If we know its going to happen, then theres no use in being ignorant and acting as if it wont happe.
I merely told Mely this and gave her the advice to maybe mentally prepare herself for what will come in the future for her.
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Posted: Fri Sep 07, 2007 4:57 am
Forgive me for being a bit bull-headed, but brushing off sex as "something that happens" is probably the attitude that lead to the 10-year-old stripper. Magically, I lived without any sexual contact until 16; even today, I'm still technically a virgin (in that I have never experienced intercourse). Yes, I would consider myself a special case, but I would also consider myself a very healthy case, both mentally and physically.
I'm saying that we shouldn't trivialize this. To hell with what "really" happens. What "really" happens is that we are at an endless battle of sentience versus instinct, and no one on either side of the fence (child or adult) really knows how to approach it with the other yet.
Simply throwing hands in the air and saying, "Oh, well, it'll happen," is akin to just shoving a box of condoms across the table and calling it a day. My idea is not to hide the concept of sex - far from it. You can make kids aware of it (short of showing pornography in schools gonk ), but then show them what else they can do with all that spare energy. If you give a kid a passion that doesn't come straight out of hormones - art, sports, volunteer work, research, problem-solving - you'll give them the strength to choose what they really want to do, rather than leave them to give in to a desire that they don't understand yet.
Now, that doesn't mean "abstinence or bust." I can accept that some people are ready for sex by the time they're 16. But I can guarantee that the number of people who are actually ready at that age is a very, very small percentage of the number who only think that they're ready and do it anyway. Again, my definition of "ready" entails the following: having the financial and emotional resources to take care of a child should one come, having the financial resources to support regular doctors' appointments and birth control options, and having the emotional stability to let someone else that deep into your life. Honestly, how many teenagers do you know, especially those swamped in the midst of puberty, are emotionally stable enough for their own lives, let alone theirs and someone else's?
If you can believe in the strength of the individual, then you can find alternatives to sex.
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Posted: Fri Sep 07, 2007 6:52 pm
If i had known that giving my opinion was going to get me an entire rant i dont think i ever would have replied.
I have what i think and you have what you think. I see no problem with what you think, nor do i see anything in particularly wrong with what i beleive.
Please, thank you, and your welcome.
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Posted: Wed Sep 12, 2007 11:49 pm
I had the same problem right around the age your issue came up.
One of my friends wanted to get real physical with her boyfriend since they had been dating for one month. She told me directly, she needed a condom so she could have sex. She claimed she loved him and all. The next week they broke up and she was left real stressed. Not a real wonderful thing for an eleven year old girl.
You did the right thing, hun.
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