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 Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 5:46 pm
That my girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and we haven't had sex yet? I mean my friend has just lost her virginity before I did, and she has only been with her boyfriend for 2 months (Almost 3). There is a possibility that it could happen tomorrow night, but that is only if my friends mom lets me spend the night and I get the courage to buy condoms. That would be strange. Everyone says but them from a drug store. One of my friends works at the drug store I have a card for. That would be akward too. But I don't know. Its like everyone has a speedy relationship but us. I didn't even kiss her until after 2 months of dating and thats when my friend had sex. Maybe we're just slow. neutral
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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 5:56 pm
T e x n o l y z e That my girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and we haven't had sex yet? I mean my friend has just lost her virginity before I did, and she has only been with her boyfriend for 2 months (Almost 3). There is a possibility that it could happen tomorrow night, but that is only if my friends mom lets me spend the night and I get the courage to buy condoms. That would be strange. Everyone says but them from a drug store. One of my friends works at the drug store I have a card for. That would be akward too. But I don't know. Its like everyone has a speedy relationship but us. I didn't even kiss her until after 2 months of dating and thats when my friend had sex. Maybe we're just slow. neutral No, don't worry, you're not at all slow. It really all has to do with your guyses preference. Had you both wanted to go faster you would have, but you didn't. In a lot of ways it's better this way because you get to know each other and really make sure its what the both of you want. Its easier not to do something you'll regret then. and i'm fine with you loosing your virginity and all, but didn't your gf just get kind of icy last time you two were making out and you only touched her below the belt? question Remember...you should be sure this is good for the both of you, take it slow... But if everythings ok, then good luck 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 6:22 pm
Evil_Dreamer666 T e x n o l y z e That my girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and we haven't had sex yet? I mean my friend has just lost her virginity before I did, and she has only been with her boyfriend for 2 months (Almost 3). There is a possibility that it could happen tomorrow night, but that is only if my friends mom lets me spend the night and I get the courage to buy condoms. That would be strange. Everyone says but them from a drug store. One of my friends works at the drug store I have a card for. That would be akward too. But I don't know. Its like everyone has a speedy relationship but us. I didn't even kiss her until after 2 months of dating and thats when my friend had sex. Maybe we're just slow. neutral No, don't worry, you're not at all slow. It really all has to do with your guyses preference. Had you both wanted to go faster you would have, but you didn't. In a lot of ways it's better this way because you get to know each other and really make sure its what the both of you want. Its easier not to do something you'll regret then. and i'm fine with you loosing your virginity and all, but didn't your gf just get kind of icy last time you two were making out and you only touched her below the belt? question Remember...you should be sure this is good for the both of you, take it slow... But if everythings ok, then good luck 3nodding She is the one who brought that up though.
And I thought that we were going slow because of everyone else.
I don't know why she asked could I come over alone.
Things happen when were alone for a while.
Maybe I'll bring up that one day.
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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 6:51 pm
My boyfriend and I didn't have sex until our one-year anniversary. Don't worry, hon. You're not going "slow."
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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 7:47 pm
I didn't have sex until 2.5 years into my relationship. No rush. wink 
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Posted: Fri Aug 31, 2007 9:20 am
There really is no such thing as "going slow." People move at their own pace. Not everyone has the same pace. You certainly can't compare your relationship to other people's. Some people have sex on the first date, other people wait a year or more. The people in this guild are proof of the variety there is in the world. Radical waited one year, Moonlight waited 2.5, and I like sex on the first date. My current partner was with a girl for four years before he met me and never slept with her. He was a virgin until he was 27 years old, and we had sex on the first date. That does not mean Radical and Moonlight are slow, and it does not mean that I am fast. It means we all moved at the right pace for us.
There's no rush, and considering what you have told us, I don't think it sounds like you two should be having sex right now.
Here's why I say that:
1. It sounds like you are not fully comfortable with the idea of buying condoms. Before having sex, people should be very comfortable with getting birth control.
2. It sounds like you and your girlfriend don't communicate very well when it comes to sex. She snapped at you before when you just tried to touch her, and you were afraid to even talk to her about why she snapped. It seems like you are afraid to ask her to guide you during sexual activities. That's not a sign that a relationship is ready to have sex brought into it.
3. I don't think you two are ready emotionally. You said you were not even sure she felt comfortable having you touch her there with a finger. Now just a couple of days later you're considering having sex just because your friends are?
4. You said you two don't get a whole lot of time alone because her mother does not really like the fact that you two are dating. Would it be ok with you if you two broke up before long? If you're ready for sex, you also have to be realistic. You have to know that sex won't fix problems, and it won't guarantee that two people will stay together forever.
5. All girls are supposed to start seeing an ob-gyn when they have sex. Does she have a way to get to one?
So my advice would be:
-Work on the communication issue before having sex. Make sure you can talk to her about when she snapped at you. Make sure you are comfortable asking her to guide you. Remember, if you can't even talk about it with your partner, you should not actually be doing it with them.
-Get birth control. Condoms are a good start, but it would be better if you two used another form of birth control in addition to the condom.
-Have her get to the ob-gyn. She can get a variety of effective birth control methods from the ob-gyn as well.
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Posted: Fri Aug 31, 2007 12:32 pm
A comment about being 'very comfortable' with getting contraceptives-
Personally, I get very very embarrassed about my sexual life in public. For example, buying lube/condoms/etc- I basically walk to a different part of the store while my boyfriend is looking. sweatdrop I was also pretty uncomfortable when I went to the gyno and got birth control.
I guess what I'm saying is, that I don't believe you really have to be EXTREMELY comfortable with doing these types of things. You DO have to do them, but it's not like you have to enjoy doing them or anything.
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Posted: Fri Aug 31, 2007 1:48 pm
I agree that you don't have to love buying/getting birth control. xp But you certainly do have to be comfortable enough to get it. For example, if someone is so embarrassed that they don't buy condoms at all or visit the ob-gyn at all, then I would say they are not ready for sex in the first place. Also, people have to be comfortable enough to ask questions if they have any (for example, "How effective is this birth control?" or "Does this protect against STDs?" etc.) So a certain amount of comfort really is required to be safe and responsible in my opinion.
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Posted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 1:25 pm
Well, I was told you have to go with a parent to pock up birth control. If she asked her mom to take her, she would definately know what was up. She was really the one to usually bring up sex to me. I just wouldn't be up to it unless she had birth control and she was more in touch with her own body. She doesn't know what to expect really. I think she should really try masturbating (inserting her fingers) at least once so that she would know what to do. I am very comfprtable with my body though, and she knows how to touch me right. I have asked her many times to experiment with her own body so she can teach me. I just can't pleasure her through vaginal intercourse if she doesn't teach me.
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Posted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 1:59 pm
Why don't you experiment together? Try your fingers. Maybe she's not comfortable doing it without you, which is fair enough - that's just the way some people are.
Also, everyone goes their own pace. Some people wait a year, two years, two months, two days, or until marriage. It just depends. I personally waited eight days - no benefit would have come from waiting longer. And me and my boyfriend have now been going strong for over a year. Everyone's different. I wouldn't worry about it.
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Posted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 5:06 pm
T e x n o l y z e Well, I was told you have to go with a parent to pock up birth control. If she asked her mom to take her, she would definately know what was up. She was really the one to usually bring up sex to me. I just wouldn't be up to it unless she had birth control and she was more in touch with her own body. She doesn't know what to expect really. I think she should really try masturbating (inserting her fingers) at least once so that she would know what to do. I am very comfprtable with my body though, and she knows how to touch me right. I have asked her many times to experiment with her own body so she can teach me. I just can't pleasure her through vaginal intercourse if she doesn't teach me. Who told you that you need a parent to go with you to get birth control? That's not even close to being true. Imagine if everyone went in to get their birth control holding their mommy's hand. xp That would be ridiculous. You can get condoms and spermicide over the counter at many stores, with or without your mama. xp Girls can also get a wide variety of hormonal methods of birth control from Planned Parenthood or Family Planning, also with or without their mommy. xp (I always went with Mommy xp , but that'll be up to your girlfriend). I completely agree with you that it would probably help if she touched herself. The more she knows about her body, the more she can give you tips and guide you. The more she guides, the more likely she is to enjoy herself and orgasm.
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Posted: Fri Oct 05, 2007 4:06 pm
That's not slow at all. I was with my boyfriend for about a year before we had sex.
Just be patient.
=]
it'll be more meaningful if you wait and if you're both ready.
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